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What can I expect of a 5 year old?
I want to ask you parents who have or have had a five year old how you parent. Do you let the play unsupervised in their room? Are they expected to tidy up by themselves or with help?Do they remember where to put things and do they actually put them there? What time do they go to sleep and wake up? Do they still take stuff that's not theirs and play with it? Do they remember to put away their clothes in the hamper? Do they put away their plates? Do they lie to you (about having or not having done something they were or were not supposed to? How much do you and/or your spouse follow through with enforcing house rules? My daughter is supposed to put away her clothes and dishes and she is supposed to put away her toys before she starts playing with new ones and also before bed. She lies to me about doing it and my hubby never follows through so it's hard for me to make sure she does. I found my hair pin (broken), nail clippers and a mouth wash in her room just now and I don't know how or when she got it. Only last weekI went over the entire room and toys with her and now it's like it never happened. Despite visual cues and guidelines, nothing is in it's place. I go to college more than full time and I can't spend my evenings sorting through toys when I could be doing laundry/cleaning/studying. Plus I have a 16 month old to take care of too. Am I expecting too much of my little girl?
3 Answers
- MamawidsomLv 76 years ago
I think you are expecting to much if you expect her remember and do these thing by herself with no reminder. It is appropriate to say, "Elena, time to pick up your toys." or "Sadie, please take your plate to the sink now that you're done eating," or "Emily, let's put your clothes away."
You and your husband need some time to talk and work through how to do this. You can't expect your daughter, while in the care of your husband, to do things that he doesn't ask her to do or even seems to care about.
You should also think about whether or not your general expectations are reasonable. You have a kindergartener, a toddler, you go to school full time and, I assume, your husband has a full time job. The house is not going to look like a show home. Work as a team.
- ?Lv 56 years ago
You are not expecting too much. 5-year-olds know how to clean up after themselves before playing with something else. They play well independently as well as with others. Bedtime is usually 8-9pm.
I work with a class full of 5-year-olds and they listen when I tell them to do something once. They can follow the rules, they rarely lie, I'm rarely hands-on with them since they know what is expected of them. Sometimes, they remind me of little adults! They know exactly where each toy bin goes, how to care for the computer, where to put dishes/utensils after lunch. All they really need me for is learning & making sure the class schedule is being followed! 5-year-olds are great.
- ?Lv 66 years ago
play unsupervised? yes
expected to tidy up? yes with minimal help
remember where to put things? yes
do they lie? maybe sometimes about silly things
enforcing rules? not necessarily just make sure the child stays within boundaries
no u are not expecting too much of your child although u should talk with your partner explain this will help your daughter, be less stressful on u but your partner must stand by u and make sure the child is in line
