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Hi. My dad wants me me to be a doctor, but...?
I don't. Ok, so this has been going on for a while. A couple of years now. And with only two years left until university, it is more intense than ever. Why? He wants me to have a job that will be fitting of me (no joke) and a good pay. He will not take any other job. Except dentistry. Which I CANNOT stand. I am less interested in biology and more intrigued by physics and chemistry.
He doesn't want me to make the same mistake he did, according to him, but I feel like pursuing my dream shouldn't be at the stake.
So what do you think? Is my dad going to be correct with hindsight? What should I do?
Thanks in advance and sorry for the long intro.
5 Answers
- Pat BrownLv 66 years agoFavorite Answer
I've known people in your position. One woman earned a degree to please her dad and work with him, but he died rather young, and she went through school all over again to pursue her heart's dream. She loves her work but is saddled with lots of student debt in her mid years.
I respectfully suggest your dad is behind the times. Many doctors nowadays are not happy in their work and would not want their children to enter the field (you can look this up). He does not have a human right to use your life to fulfill his own unsatisfied dreams for his life. your life is your own.
Biotech sounds great to me, it holds the prospect for interesting and rewarding work and a good income too. I would hope he can see this as a way to serve human welfare while earning a good income and being fulfilling for you and well-suited to his interests. I think this is a workable situation for you--- there are objective facts to support your thinking. If his mind can't be changed by facts, then it really is up to you to plan how you want to live your very own life.
- TomLv 76 years ago
Well what IS your dream? You say you're interested in chemistry and physics. So what actual "job" does that translate into for you? As long as there is a career path you're going to follow based on your interests, that should be more than enough. However, I'm sure you would agree that spending a small fortune on a university education just for the sake of pursuing an interest might not be all that realistic unless you're someone like Bill Gates and money really just isn't an object in your life anymore.
- 6 years ago
I am going through the same exact thing! Except I sort of fixed it. I wanted to study to become and English major and teaching. But my mother wanted me to be a lawyer. It was hard but one I showed her all the good of what teaching could be and I sat down and truthfully talked with her she sort of just let go. She still suggests it but she doesn't push me anymore to go volunteer at the courthouse. I hope this was kind of helpful but if not just ignore him! Its your life not his and you should do with it what you will. When it's that time to go to college just tell him that chemistry is what you want. And what you'll do.
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