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Jessica asked in HealthOther - Health · 6 years ago

Twenty years old. no friends. Am I too judgmental?

I'm twenty years old. It seems like it's so hard to have friends or at least wanna keep being around people.

They either have kids now so they can't really do much, or they just wanna hang out with other girls who have kids.

They either just wanna drink/smoke. Which partys were fun when I was like 18.. but now not so much & that's like their only Idea of fun

& to the people that I know that don't drink, I do smoke which i don't smoke around them & I don't smoke everyday & I also don't smoke to get high I smoke to help go to sleep so it's not like i use it in high quantity, but I feel like some of them kinda judge me for it. 'cause they still believe marijuana is a "bad" drug.

& to the people that i do know that smoke they just like to get hella high & just sit there which is sooo boring. I do not understand how people can waste their life away like that.

I just want to find someone that has an equal balance. I give people a chance, but I just think it's immature to waste away doing nothing with your life, but I'm also young enough to still want to do something fun.

I'll mention things that I like to do, but it seems like no one has any interest it it, & for the people who drink/smoke they literally DO NOT wanna do anything unless their gonna get high/drunk.

I'm not sure if I'm too judgmental or if I just need to meet more people with common interests who have the same goals in life as I do.

Any thoughts? Did you feel this way at twenty? why or why not?

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  • 6 years ago

    You absolutely must meet new people! And, yes, people who share your interests and values. Leave town if you have to, but find more interesting, mature people to hang out with.

    At 20 I was in college, surrounded by 10,000 students of all kinds of backgrounds, interests, ideas, and values. I met people, just a few, that I really connected with. And we're still very close now. I'm 58. I recommend either college or a job situation in a large urban area or even a foreign country -- live & explore!

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