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please help me...i hate my mother...is it normal??

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so lets start from scratch....i was born in middle class family in north india..i m 19 years old..A chartered Accountancy student....any Indian here would know how difficult and mentally absorbing this course is...i hve witnessed constant quarrerling & fights between my mother and father ever since i was born..no matter what i tell them..they dont stop fighting..my mother always brings things from past...she thinks all the bad that has happened to her house is because of her in laws..

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she constantly whines about it..she is very much into astrology and superstitious horoscopes and ol..i find it sickening..she always brings things of past and always fill my ears against my father...she has no manners at all...she starts screaming and shouting on top of her lungs even when somebody is around..she always makes us all embarrased...we hve told her several times she needs a consultant but she is very stubborn.she is always right and everybody is always wrong...

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she always watches all kinds of astrology..vastu and all shows and predicts our future and always puts negativity into my minds that i am not loved at all and bad is gonna happen to me..i cant take it any more...seriously i cant...i feel like doing suicide everyday..also i am a shy and nerd type of boy so i dont have any friends at all :( i feel very depressed and lonely..she always says that her in laws(my paternal relatives) have killed her brothers and sisters and fathers

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and soon gonna kill her too....her behaviour is such....i feel they might as well kill her soon so we get rid of her constant taunts... i feel for my father..i know my mother is very wrong but i cant do anything about it..we live in small house...so i cant ignore even if i try..she always brings up tantrums of past..i wonder if all ladies and girls are like that(i never had any female friend)... i shouldnt hate my own mother..after all she gave birth to me..

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.but i cant help but feel..my respect for her is reducing day by day..i wish i were not born out of her and better still..not born at all..i feel like giving up...she always holds me back..whenever i try do to something new...she holds me back saying "tujse kuch ni hoga...tere bas ki ni(its not your cup of tea..you cant do a thing)" am i justified hating my mother ??...i am in severe depression because of her..about 80% of all negativity i have is because of her

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  • Follower of Jesus Christ
    Lv 4
    6 years ago

    I am really sorry about what you are going through, but don't feel strange about your mother.

    There are lots of people out there who feel the same way you do. With the fighting that your mother and father do, you could try and tell other people in your family or you can find and outside source for help. You could talk to a professional about this.

    Does your school have counselors for help?

    I know you feel very bothered about your mother but I want you to know that you cannot change her or her ways, she has to do that. The best you can do is talk to her about how you feel. Get help for yourself, tell someone how you feel. If your mother bothers you that much, try to ignore her. Distance yourself from her, try to focus on the positive things about her, the positive things in your life. Tell yourself there is more to life than your mom and your problems with her. Don't let your mother or anyone or thing in life get to you, I can relate, I have a tough mother too!!!

    I will tell you right now that all women are NOT like your mother. Everyone in this world is different.

    I am sorry if you don't have any friends at all or if you are in severe depression and loneliness. If you are shy, that is okay, lots of people are that way for a reason. You don't have to look at yourself as a nerd if it makes you feel bad, your special and have your own identity!

    Focus on the things in life that make you happy and feel good. Think positive. Look to your faith, whatever it is that makes you feel better and happy.

    I like to look to God for all my troubles. I think of him and what he would do when I am down. I pray to him. I have faith in him because I know he can and will fix all my troubles when I have faith in him and do what he wants he me to. God can only help you when you have faith and when you decide to help yourself.

    By helping yourself, try to do something healthy about the situation with your mom. Get help from a family member or a school counselor, a professional of some sort.

    Here are some sites that can help you...

    2ndfloor.org

    www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

    http://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=765297

  • Pearl L
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    depends on why you hate her, if shes abusing you just report it and you might get to go live somewhere else

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