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First Boyfriend?

To start I m 23 years old, due to a strict family, I was unable to get a boyfriend until now. A high school friend just asked me out yesterday. I accepted, he had asked me out in high school but at that time I rejected. I don t know if I still consider him a good friend or more, I was pressured by my sis as well as other outside sources to accept. I feel I probably should have waited to see if I could see him as more. At this point I don t know what I should do, he is the brother to another really good friend so even if I did break up with him now I don t want to lose her, because she is also friends with my only other friends and they will likely side with her and it will likely lead to my sis not seeing them either since she would disagree with me, but still side with me. Should I simply ride this out and see if anything comes of it? I likely would be able to break up with him but remain friends later on. Basically any advice works. Please no negative comments, you don t know me, don t assume things on your own.

Update:

It's been about a week and I really don't think we're right for eachother. He's very affectionate which is good for him, but I'm exactly the opposite. I don't like to be touched or pressured, he likes to hold hands and hug etc. but that leaves me with the fallout, how do I break up with him without causing a huge problem for everyone? I regretted it the moment I said yes for this reason, there's no easy exit.

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  • 6 years ago

    Wait, so you're exclusive with someone before dating him? You're supposed to date for a while first, that's how you find out if there's something there than just a friendship. In my opinion you moved too fast. There's nothing wrong though with telling him you need to take a step back and date a bit first before calling yourselves boyfriend and girlfriend. You don't need to be in a relationship just because you feel pressured or just because you finally can. Even though you're free to do as you please, you should still take your time with these kinds of things.

  • Bernd
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    Relax. Take it one step at a time. Have fun.

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