How do I tell my dad that I only want to go to his house on some weekends?

I urge you not to cut him out of your life. Like you said, he is your father. Try to build more of a relationship with him and figure out a pattern for visitation that works for you.

Having seen relatives raised in fundamentalist households which in my mind were mind warping cults, I can see where you might not be very enthusiastic about attending church. Religion and politics both can drive wedges between family members. People interpret these ways of viewing the world as who they are as human beings. Rejecting your father's religion might feel to your father as if you are rejecting him as his identity is wrapped up in it. You really do have a substantive emotional dilemma.

You sound like you are older, perhaps a junior or senior in high school. I gather others are thinking you should just stick it out with the way things are until you graduate from high school. Looking back, two years seems like a blink of time. I can appreciate that time goes by differently for the young. I think you ought to change things so that you are enjoying whatever time your father and you are able to spend together.

Rather than telling him that you do not want to go to church, perhaps you could let him know that you would prefer to spend time with him doing something "fun" (be specific). You'd like to go tailgating at the local baseball game or go to a lake or a beach. The best part of the day is before the wind comes up and before it gets too hot. Ten is perfect! In other words, don't approach the subject as a rejection of his faith, but that you want to go and do other things. Coincidently, the right time to do them conflicts with church services. It's summer, it would be a real shame to spend it indoors. Some people feel more in the presence of God in nature than in a church, so that is another way to frame things. If you are an atheist, don't bring that up yet.

Another way to go would be to tell Dad you want to change your schedule so that you don't spend weekends with him and weekdays with Mom. You are getting more homework over the weekends and it is disruptive during the school year. Instead, you would rather take a summer vacation with him. Maybe he could get some time off of work.

church is a couple of hours at most, you can life through it, congregate verbs in your head if you don't want to listen. Afterwards make sure the two of you do something special together. Talk to him, about his life, his family. You say you love him because he is your dad, then get to know him. You are very self centered......typical childhood phenomena....how about you try breaking out of that for a change, life isn't always about what you want........he may desperately want to keep in contact with you.

Jay R is right. That post is just about the most adult thing I've heard on YA. You probably won't believe it now but there will come a time when you will regret not spending more time with him.

Parents love their children in a way that kids don't love their parents. He cherishes you, and you don't place much value on that. Continue to visit him and learn to share yourself in a healthy way. It's good for your personal growth, and there's no need to hurt your dad.

just come right out and tell him