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Why doesn't my bf want to hang with me?
I'm not very experienced so help me out!
Okay so I met my bf somewhat recently, and we clicked right from the first meet up. On our third hang out he asked to define the relationship and we became official then. I've met his friends it's not a secret thing.
We have only been official for two weeks now, and since it is so early in the relationship I think it is strange why he never asks to see me! We talk pretty much every day but I haven't seen him in a week.
I also find it weird that we haven't had a formal date where he took me out to eat or that kind of thing, it has only been casual hang outs. I'm not opposed to movies or going to a party but I just don't feel like I'm in a relationship if we literally never go on dates.
He used to initiate things when we first were getting to know each other, but he doesn't mention anything now about getting together. I have tried to set things up but end up getting excuses. We just started dating why wouldn't he want to hang out? We're both in college and busy, but I really don't think I'm being needy by wanting to hang out at a minimum once a week.
Do you think that now that the "chase" is over he is uninterested and bored and that is what is going on here? Or he only wanted one thing and was just playing me? What would you do?
4 Answers
- LisaLv 76 years agoFavorite Answer
It's hard to say what is going on here, after all, he does talk to you every day. But my past experience has been that something is wrong when the person does not want to see you. Usually when a relationship is new you want to spend every second you have with the person, you can't wait to see him! So, not the best sign. Then again, guys can be weird about space so perhaps after declaring yourselves to be in a relationship, and having you meet his friends, he needs some space. This is the whole "rubber band" theory of courtship. As to why he's not taking you on proper dates...well, you're in college. I remember going in a "date" to the dining hall where we ate together paying with our respective meal plans. He may not have the funds to actually take you out.
- 6 years ago
Ask him. maybe he's not very social. its also early in your relationship. sometimes it takes time to work up to wanting to hang out with someone a lot. others start off that way right from the start. it depends on the person. just ask him why he doesn't want to hang out. if he can't give you a straight answer, i would move on. could be incompatible or maybe he's only into the physical thing.
- VikingsLv 76 years ago
It could be he isn't very social so doesn't know how to act in a relationship or are a side girl. If he seems smooth in person it is most likely the second option.
