Trust issues with this girl?

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So I've been played back to back by every girl I talk to. I literally got played a few days ago. Anyway there's this girl I've been talking to a while. At one point we were talking and she told me she didn't trust me because she didn't know me well enough.

But when I met her again months later (i was out if state) she was a lot warmer to me. We talked abd got to know each other more and got into a deeper conversation. She told me she really enjoyed talking to me and that she wishes we hung out more. She makes time for me, and complements me and even eats after me. Even when I leave she's starred giving me tighter hugs than usual.

But she doesn't really tell people how we me (i just started talking to her one day) and she introduces me as a friend.

So idk if she's just very comfortable with me or if she likes me. Also idk about the situation cause I just have a distrust of women due to my past

Anonymous · Answer

She may really like you judging by how she interacts with you...but she has trust issues as well and May not feel comfortable making things official just yet. Just continue to go with the flow, and as you do, show her that you can be trusted and that she can continue to be comfortable around you. Also, unless she gives you reason not to trust her then go ahead and let your guard down a little more and relax. You will miss something If you think all relationships are the same.

Uncle Gary · Answer

Hello, CCP!

It's plain, if I can correctly deduce from your post, that the girl you spoke of likes you.  It may not be what you hope--I suspect that her feelings doesn't extend beyond the friendship zone--but given your admitted penchant for assuming that a woman will eventually take advantage of you, perhaps the friendship zone is the only realistic realm in which to park any relationship you manage with girls.  You're not yet ready for anything deeper, at least until you've reached the point where you are able to "get over" yourself and relax with whatever a girl is willing to offer.
You have openly admitted that you have trust issues with girls; although you've posited this concern to whomever at this site is available to read it, you are the only person who can do something about it.  If you fear that girls are out there to make a fool of you, it will be akin to slapping a sign on your forehead that says, in essence, "Do What You Will with Me; I Expect It," and those are precisely the girls whom you'll attract.  The girl in your post obviously sees the positive side of you and has responded to it; however, she offers herself to you as a friend, not a lover.  That's okay; a friend is what you apparently need more than anything else at this point.  Things can get better but the "confidence ball" is squarely in your court.  So why don't you pick it up and run with it?

Freedom Soars · Answer

Trust people until they give you a reason not to. Give people the benefit of the doubt. If you want to know how she feels about you, you can just ask her straight out.

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