ARE KIDS ALL HE WANTS?!?

You've been confronted with a deal breaker. He wants children, and your don't. There is no compromise on this; you can't have half a child.

I have no idea if that's all he wants, or if he's mature enough or well-heeled enough to care for children if he spawned any. His spousal support, he n'er-do-well woman friend, those would be matters of concern (for the first) and another deal-breaker (for me, on the second) because most people pick friends who have a lifestyle or moral code similar to their own.

You ought not have children unless you really want them, so having them to please someone else isn't fair to you. Asking him to give up the idea of having them isn't fair to him. He isn't the only man in the world.

I don't know why you're even thinking twice about this, with a man you've dated three months. You have nothing in common. Be kind about it, but tell him you're moving on.

You've been dating the fellow a few months. He doesn't sound appealing. And he's married. So... why are you dating him?

Here's the truth, he's married and can offer you nothing but illegitimate babies he'll likely ignore before you even give birth. Come on. Do something better with your life.

Well he's already got kids!!! He is not a keeper. He doesn't commit to relationships. What makes you think he'll be in it for the long haul? Dump him.

Don't stick around this dude, it's gonna be a mess. You don't want kids, he does- move on.

If you want two different things from life why are you still together? Its time to move on.... why are you waiting around for him to dump you?

Those dates who use are not good for women. Please head your gut instincts here, he is not any kind of fellow to have a relationship with, yet alone be a father to kids.

You break up with him. This guy has way too much baggage.

you dont know what to do .. maybe consider there are other fish in the sea ..