What's the best way to find out if a guy friend wants to be anything more without embarrassing myself?

How about asking him? That will work if he is honest, not always.

First of all... When you like someone, your Heart and Head ARE MORE IMPORTANT than the person you like... so Disregard what they "Want", "Think" or "Feel".

Stepping up is completely up to you. All the advice and information we give you is worthless if you are too scared to try or to use it. It will ALWAYS be OK to be afraid. It is NOT ok to let your Fears Control You. You're wasting your time, if you are okay with being a "scary cat chicken". What is really going to SUCK for you, is when you see him with someone else and it could have been you.

These are the Easiest and Safest approaches I have found, you're welcome to try them out. Usually works, but even if it doesn't it is still good PRACTICE for you.

TRY THIS:

FLIRT-- Flirting is just "Paying Special Attention" to a guy so that HE KNOWS, you are paying attention to him, (out of all the other guys or people around him). GET AND HOLD HIS ATTENTION.

Even if you blush, he will "know -OR- wonder" if it because of him (so blushing is in your Favor)

He will pay attention to you, even if HE is not sure.

FLIRTING is done from a DISTANCE, in case He is always around people or too far away for you to TALK TO.

When He looks at you again, MAKE your hand like a telephone and whisper "CALL ME". He may not have your number, but you have his ATTENTION and maybe INTEREST.

First thing you'll want to do, is get rid of being Nervous.

If you want to get rid of "NERVOUSNESS".

Tell the other person you are Nervous.

They will take it as a compliment -OR- admit they are Nervous too.

After you make contact, TALK to him Face to Face. NOT Social Media!!!

Just say: "I'm kinda NERVOUS talking to you, so if I mess up, PLEASE, don't think I'm an idiot… okay? I'm just nervous."

HE knows what it's like to be Nervous.

He will be NICER to you. Plus this gives you a

TOPIC OF CONVERSATION BOTH OF YOU CAN RELATE TOO.

Your BIGGEST WEAKNESS has now, lost all of it POWER over you

and IS NOW IN YOUR FAVOR.

To get or keep a guys attention, IS NOT about a topic or what you say, IT'S ABOUT MAKING and KEEPING him Smiling and Enjoying your company. Compliments are ALWAYS a good Ice breaker. Let him know he makes you Nervous, he will be Flattered and Nice, because he knows what its like to be Nervous (he is probably nervous too).

Practice is about FAILING, until You Get Better.

DO NOT be afraid to Practice.

The following is information you will need one day:

(for this Guy or the next)

TO GET A DATE, WITHOUT HAVING TO ASK: Tell him you know someone that wants to go on a date with him. He'll want to know WHO. Take him by the hand to wherever there is a reflection and standing next to him say "Her" (pointing at your reflection) ------ OR

INVITATIONS and ASKING for a Date are the same thing, but an invitation is easier to offer, rather than ask for a date. Writing a note and handing it to him or having someone hand it to him, will be okay.

Most invitations are in WRITTEN FORM. (add ph# so now He has it)

Tell him where you will be on a certain day and at a certain time.

Let him know he is welcome to join you if he has time.

EXAMPLE: "Hi. I'm going to be at the park by the pond on Saturday at 2:30pm. You're welcome to join me if you have time. I will probably be bored, just feeding the ducks".

EXAMPLE: "I'm going for ice cream after school at (location), you can join me if you're not busy. My treat."

YOU WON'T HAVE TO FEEL EMBARRASSED if He declines.

It was just an invitation, NO BIG DEAL.

HOW TO BE WITH SOMEONE; ONE on ONE

Make wager (bet) with the person you want to spend time with.

Lose that bet to them INTENTIONALLY.

The wager should be something that puts you together alone and

away from everyone you know.

Make the wager something you can afford and non threatening

or too suggestive.

(an ice cream cone, a shake, a coffee, washing a car)

EXAMPLE: "I'll bet you an ICE CREAM SUNDAE, I can say

the alphabet backwards faster than you."

Then LOSE the bet and take him for an ice cream sundae.

(enjoy your Date)

TO HOLD HIS HAND

(you DO NOT have to be on a date, you just have to be near him)

When you have been with him for awhile and are side by side (walking, standing or sitting) gently take his hand and Say: "Can I borrow this for a little bit? I Promise to take care of it and return it in awhile" He will smile and probably be Impressed and Flattered. If he flinches and pulls away, chances are its a REACTION, NOT REJECTION. Smile and give him something of yours as a deposit/collateral and Let him know you want it back when you return him, his hand.

TO GET A QUICK KISS. As long as he is enjoying himself with you. In the middle of a conversation, Smile and say: "Close your eyes, you have something close to them". When he does, Touch your lips to his. Not really a kiss, but it breaks the ice. Then tell him: "Oh, it was just me. You have soft lips, I like that". Keep smiling. Ask him what yours felt like, before he says anything. But keep smiling.

Your biggest FEARS are NOT knowing What to SAY or How to do Something.

It's like taking a test. It's NOT so scary, once you know the answers.

Driving is NOT so scary, once you're behind the wheel a few times.

Same with the Opposite Sex.

Practice and Experience equals, PIECE OF CAKE.

Every BF/GF Relationship that you see, happened because

ONE OF THEM took a chance and spoke up.

EVEN IF YOU LOSE THIS GUY,

This Info Is Still Good PRACTICE For You.