Why am I so disgusted at what my boyfriend did?

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So we were playing a drinking game one night with never have I ever. Shots every time we haven't done something. Anyone, questions is related to the craziest sex thing you've ever done. He ends up saying that he has had sex with two married men in the past. To me that is absolutely revolting, and I was abhorred. I imagine the feeling similar to that of a conservative fathers son telling him that he is gay. Just absolutely ashamed and disapppinted and disgusted. The mere thought completely ruins my mood. But why? It's not like he cheated on me. I don't know why I am so disgusted. Would anyone else be as disgusted as I am if they found out that info? How can I get over it? Idk, but its really bothering more than it probably should. We're both 19.

Original Sin · Answer

People screwed other people besides you, it is called life.

Hermes · Answer

Nope - what happened before me is none of my business.  I think your reaction is odd, honestly.

Hermes

Anonymous · Answer

Perhaps you had too many jello shots.

Ms Clones · Answer

Oh grow up you prude. I had sex with at least 50 other trannies while married to my ex-wife even though I told her I was on business trips. 
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xxx000au · Answer

I have a saying.    If you dont want to know,  dont ask me.

I was in a similar position many years ago when my partner asked me if I thought his nieces boyfriend was cute.  I said sure is.   This was blown up into painting me as some sort of unfaithful sex crazed guy.   I had made no advances on him and had no plans to do so and even if the opportunity did come my way I would not as he was taken.   Anyway back to you. 
Why would you ask someone about something when clearly you are a prude who does not accept that some of us do things outside the square.   
If what he said is right,  it was the married men who were unfaithful,  not your friend.   In fact I would say they took advantage of him and used him for quick sex.  Its them who did wrong. 
(If you must judge the incidents.)

Dont enter into discussions seeking answers if you are not sure you will be pleased with the answers.

teri · Answer

I could never look at him the same way again.  He isn't who you thought he was, and has shown he has no morals.

Anonymous · Answer

If you really love him, the past is the past and you will forgive him for it. If my boyfriend ever did something like this in the past I wouldn't think anything of it. As long as he doesn't cheat on me I don't care who he's had sex with in the past.

Worry about the present and future. He can't change what happened in the past but he CAN control what happens in the present and future (no more sleeping with married men, especially when he's dating you). You should cut him some slack.

Everyone makes poor decisions in their pasts. I've stolen a lot, experimented with some drugs, broke many hearts, etc. You learn from your mistakes and try to do better. Nobody is perfect in this world. We are human and make mistakes!

I can see why you'd be unsettled by this but just remember. This is his past, not the present or future.

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Why am I so disgusted at what my boyfriend did?

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