do you think i still have a chance? (Experience older people only please)?

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we are in our twenties dating for about two years, a few weeks ago my gf dumped me saying she needed time for herself she was married before so I think her emotions are raw? but its been awhile so ,, I asked if she was feeling or loving or thinking of dating someone new, she claimed not at all, she said "I don't have a grass is greener" concept i hate to admit this but I didn't believe her so i went through her phone and social medias and she wasn't talking to anyone,, so I thought wow... but I told her to contact me if she felt she could be loving with me again and not wishy washy

fast forward a couple weeks later and she messages me how she can't stop missing me and she wants me,, so i invited her over and she smashed my brains out, did that for about two weeks and she got cold again.. so I told her I noticed her behavior and she said it wasn't fair to me so I just said you're right! i don't like this game I love you and all but I can't play this anymore you need to figure out what you want if you get super hornnnyyyy for sex go play with yourself or that and if you still want something after that then call me, she started laughing saying she doesn't want me for my blessed package beneath the waist. it was nice to hear a laugh from her,, man I love that girl a lot...

anyways I told her I was serious to please not call if she wasn't going to be serious and I haven't heard from her for a few days...

I get it, shell come around or she won't..

Kitty · Answer

I don't think it's as simple as "she's going to come around", I think she doesn't know what she wants right now. Based on what you've said I'm inclined to believe that she probably has some feelings for you but that love is a far stretch for her. She's not satisfied with you (and I'm not talking about sex), there's something that she needs that you're not giving her and that's why she's unsure of the relationship. Perhaps time on her own is the best thing for both of you right now because neither are you satisfied with what she gives you so just let things be. If it's meant to happen, she'll sort through her problems or concerns and re-connect with you. The only thing that you should do right now is let her know that you're there for her anytime she needs you for any reason (but don't offer to nor accept being her sex toy). Just be a good friend and give it some time, the truth always comes out with time and when it does, you'll know what to do.

Kelly · Answer

If you feel the need to go through her phone and social media then that suggests you are either insecure or the relationship has some trust issues.

Without trust, there's no relationship worth having.  I've been with my husband for 15 years and I don't go through his phone and he doesn't go through mine.

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do you think i still have a chance? (Experience older people only please)?

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