What should my next step be?

Most men don't like hiking. Or walking anywhere.. try something he likes to do, or wants to try and hasn't.

I would just ask him for gay anal sex

(You answered my question about a girl asking me to go to the gym. Thx)

I say, don't give up on him yet.

If you are interested in this guy, then I think he needs some indications from you. Typical things.. playing with hair, laughing at his jokes, look at his eyes and lips and keep alternating between the two. Be OK with bumping into him getting him used to being OK with physically touching you, especially skin to skin. I know some guys need hints but this guy sounds like he needs something more glaringly obvious.

Take your own decision after reading all views expressed by all the friends here above.

At the end of the day either you gain or lose. No one is affected by this.

He seems shy try to hint to him.

Sorry if it didn't help.

You're not his therapist. It's not your job or role to make him feel good about himself. You've asked him out, he rejected your idea because he'd rather throw himself a pity party than do something with you.

Yes, that's right-- he'd rather sit there feeling sorry for himself, than go have fun with you.

I suggest you toss this guy. Find someone fun, happy, confident, who would be glad to be with you. This guy has too much baggage.

He'll drag you down, accuse you of cheating because he's so insecure, he'll get hurt if you so much as glance at another guy, even accidentally, whine if you have male-friends, make you feel guilty if you look "too good for him", withdraw and play "guess why I'm mad" when he's feeling insecure, and declare he has "trust issues" that are somehow your fault or your job to make better because he's afraid to be hurt.

Seriously? You want this??

I would suggest going for drinks, usually alcohol helps calm tensions and shyness... then maybe go dancing :) if he doesnt make a move, just bring your lips close, he will do the rest :)

it sounds like he has little confidence in himself, a bit like me, i think you should always show the initiative and interest to keep his hopes and confidence up. best wishes.

The key question is whether or not he's a strong guy. May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money). A strong person isn't overly concerned with what weak mean people say, do, or think.

My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already), forget about this guy unless he’s a strong person, and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

PS The best way to get to know a strong man without dating is to participate in the activities of a community service or a school organization.

PPS The tension you described is dangerous. Please please be strong and save yourself from now until marriage. If you do, you will never regret it. Here’s some information about sex before marriage from the books True Love Lasts, Straight Talk About Teen Dating, and Straight Talk About Dating:

Having sex before marriage can be harmful to you and to your future. This harm could possibly include things like:

- not feeling good about yourself

- finding out that having sex causes people to become emotionally attached way too quickly

- sex becoming the main focus of your relationship

- finding out that having sex makes people ignore serious problems in the person they’re dating - serious problems that could destroy a marriage

- failing to realize that dating relationships which have sex as their main focus usually don’t last - until the relationship falls apart

- not learning to have real communication with each other, to be in touch with the your positive and negative feelings and the feelings of your significant other, to resolve conflicts in a calm constructive manner, to really get to know what your significant other is like in all situations because you’re spending too much time having sex

- not feeling good about choosing to have sex after your boyfriend or girlfriend says “I love you” and then later finding out he or she was lying to you just to get sex or he or she just has the feeling of being “in love” instead of true love (true love is supposed to be a lifelong commitment)

- feeling that you need to keep having sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend or else they’ll break up with you - even though you don’t feel good about it

- finding out that having sex makes people stay in dating relationships much longer than they should

- making the bad choice to stay in a relationship that you know isn’t good for you because you’re having sex

- being broken hearted after your boyfriend or girlfriend breaks up with you

- becoming an angry person after having your heart broken

- becoming depressed or possibly even suicidal after having your heart broken (please see a professional counselor immediately if you feel depressed or suicidal)

- feeling that you can’t trust anyone anymore after you’ve had your heart broken

- feeling horrible that you broke your boyfriend or girlfriend’s heart when you broke up with them

- getting into the habit of jumping from one sexual relationship to another looking for true love and sadly never finding it

- getting a sexually transmitted disease

- getting pregnant

- becoming a single mother (guys often don’t marry their pregnant girlfriends)

- having a child who doesn’t have a stable male role model in their life

- becoming more hesitant about making a lifelong marriage commitment to another person after having your heart broken

- ending up having problems relating sexually to your husband or wife in marriage because of the sex you had with them (and possibly with others) before marriage

- becoming divorced (statistics show that couples who have sex before marriage are more likely to get divorced than couples who don’t have sex before marriage)

Hope this helps!

Do you want to date him or are you trying to make him more confident. If you are trying to date him, no harm in asking him to a movie or coffee all he could say is no...and if you are just trying to get him out of his shy box let him know that he is a good friend and you want to hang out with him.