when a child is put into foster care when it was the mothers fault, why can't family members not have any contact with them? a time when?

they might be able to later but maybe cps needs to investigate everyone first before they do have contact with them

Maybe it's part of the process? Have you called the children's service who put the child into foster care to ask about this?

This varies by state, but most don't allow this and they have a valid reason. Most of it has to do with monitoring . When a child is in foster care, a lot of things have gone wrong, and this often includes extended family. If they allowed this contact, they'd have to carefully check out the relative involved, monitor to make sure this relative doesn't give info to the mom, etc etc. In all states, CPS is already overburdened and running out of money. They simply do not have the resources to make sure this is done right. Also, the question will arise why nobody in the family stepped in when it was needed most.

You might be a caring, good person, but trust me. Many others are not.

The other big factor is it may not be in the child's best interest. By far, the worst thing that can happen to a child is to have both parents fail them. With foster care, many of these have happy endings, including adoption. So it's best for the child to look forward, not backward, if it's possible this is a long term situation.

Case by case at least in Ma it is.

CPS has to believe that family exposure to family members is actually supportive for the child first and foremost. They often will not come right out and say they believe family members are a negative impact on that child, but it is often the case.

Because us is a really retarded country

Your right, the law needs to be changed.

Because contact from family members often results in contact from/about mum. The child really doesn't need to hear a bunch of opinions/promises/random stuff that may or may not be true from aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents while the investigation is happening.

Once the investigation is concluded, the court will make decisions about where the child will remain and who they can have contact with, and whether that contact will be supervised.

It can also add to the child's stress and confusion. A child doesn't understand that an adult can be helpless in a court situation, and can't immediately come "save" them. Saying you love them but can't change anything is just another betrayal, in a child's eyes. Misguided relatives can also "coach" the child on what to say to the investigators, including lies and fabrications, using guilt and manipulation.

If you really love and want to help children, you intervene BEFORE they are put into foster care, or you make a good case for your guardianship in order to get them OUT of foster care. You don't just give them empty promises while they are IN foster care.