so you know how people say listen to your parents? well what do i do when it comes to this?

Being with relatives or being in the same town as your bio-parents is going to cause situations like this. We adopted my Fiancé's Grand nephew and we kept his Bio-Mother involved quite closely. But, after a while, she started showing up high or smelling like pot and we had to ban her until she gets her act together. We took a lot of flak from the family for it, but we had no choice and stuck to our rules. I don't think we have seen her in a year and a half.

Just remember what I have told my 5 adopted kids, They will always be your Biological Parents and it's OK to love them and remember them. But, people make mistakes and the most important thing to remember is that if you see them and they say something like "Come with me!" or "Don't tell, this is our secret!", They can get into a lot of trouble for that. So, telling them that you can't go with them or keep secrets from your Foster parents is actually your best way to protect them from making a big mistake.

Good luck! I hope everything works out for you and your brother.

Well, sorry, some people shouldn't have kids. Your parents seem like that.

not much you could do if youre not supposed to see them

Aww. That's sad.

However, you did the right thing, if that helps. Once you're an adult and on your own, you can re-establish contact with mom if you want. But for now, there are very valid reasons why court orders frequently say there's to be no contact. In fact, what your mom did was pretty unfair to you. She shouldn't have gestured in a way to make you come to her, because it put you in such a tough spot. Your brother also did the right thing and he's looking out for you.

I'm sorry. This has to be difficult for you on many levels. Perhaps you can talk with someone about it? A therapist? A school counselor or another adult you trust and respect. Maybe it's time to talk with your Aunt and Uncle about your feelings and let them know you'd really like someone to talk with. You deserve some help and care too.

Well, sometimes your parents are wrong and weird situations need a good hard look.

I'll bet your mom was disappointed that you left so fast too. Make sure she at least gets word that you do care and miss her, and put together a controlled situation so you can meet for real.