Too tough on a 20 year old?

If you had been worried that your dad's heart was going to be broken by your behavior or that he was going to be upset with you, you wouldn't have shoplifted a shirt.

The fact that you are only 20 years old is not an excuse for your crime of theft. (And shoplifting IS a crime that can lead to a criminal conviction and a jail sentence, if the merchant decides to press charges). You're lucky that you aren't sitting in a jail cell right now.

If you are smart enough to qualify to go to college, you should be smart enough to know that THEFT is a crime. I'd be ashamed of you, if I was your mother. The only thing I disagree with is the gym membership, because I wouldn't want to spend the money. But your dad might feel it's good to teach you discipline.

This would only be too much if you were under 18, but you are a full grown adult now, he can make whatever rule in his home, while you are dependent on him and need his money the only option for you is to obey, or you could just try to act your age by getting a job and trying to manage college and work together. Show you are responsible and your parents will be lovely to you.

Shoplifting is wrong. I had a full time job and was a student when i was 20, maybe you should try it

keep quiet and learn your lesson...dont break the law again because there are consequences for every action....if you dont like what your dad did then find your own way.

So move out.

You should be A) happy you even have a Dad, and

B) incredibly grateful he cares enough to still try to teach you what's right.

I would have shown you the door.

You are an adult. Your dad cannot ground you. If you have a drivers license, leave. Stay with a friend. Dad can’t control ya

A 20 year old should have been smart enough not to break the law for a shirt. But I will have to say he's being a little rough. He should have just kicked your theiving a$s out.

Shoplifting is a big no no.

The fact is they are paying your college fees and you need that education and a place to live so perhaps accept this is your punishment for shoplifting. If you need your parents to help you through college and a place to stay then you are stuck with it, but hopefully after a couple weeks they may relax things a bit and allow you a chance to go out a couple times. At least going to the gym will get you out of the house and yes at your age being overweight is a major issue that if you do not deal with it now will blow out to obesity. Look at the extremely fat women as likely that will be you in 20 years.