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Girlfriend was hurt emotionally and now I have to pay for it?
We have been dating for a solid amount of time last night but she just recently explained what her sexual past was. She was basically forced into things she didn’t know better about and was taken advantage of because she had low self esteem. Those guys she did things with hurt her emotionally because she was young and they took advantage of her innocence. Now she tells me that she wishes our relationship could me more sexual but doesn’t want to commit to that until she’s sure that I’m in her life for the long run. I don’t have a problem with waiting for a bit but we are still pretty young, if she isn’t willing to take it a little further than when we are at now, down the road that is gonna cause some serious sexual frustration for me. It’s not like I need sex from her because we’ve been very happy up to this point without it and I love her for her personality and not her body but she doesnt want to take things further until she knows I’m committed to her. What can I do? Breaking up with her is not an option...
4 Answers
- ez2tock2Lv 73 years ago
She doesn't REALLY know what COMMITMENT is. Ask her, you'll see.
You and her both know FEARS, but that is what YOU CHALLENGE as a Couple...
TOGETHER.
She will develop sexual urges, just like you.
- seedy historyLv 73 years ago
Some things just need be faced in their own time and not fretted about too much ahead of time.
- Anonymous3 years ago
"Breaking up with her is not an option" Of course it is. Dating is just an audition to determine if you're compatible or not. If you don't want the same things out of life on a similar time frame, then you're dating the wrong person.
You want to be sexual before commitment/marriage. She doesn't. You don't even share core basic values. I have no clue why you're dating. There's nothing wrong with either of your perspectives, they simply aren't compatible.
You're making this way more complicated than it is.
- PhilosophyAddictLv 73 years ago
there's no such measurement of time as "solid"
if it's not causing sexual frustration for you right now then why will it cause it "down the road" and actually no you don't "have to pay for it" you are choosing too. breaking up IS an option you aren't married.
