Would a smart girl actually consider this?

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So basically there's a girl I know. She, apparently use to get banged by this guy on the weekends, to which they solely had a sex on the weekends type of relationship. He, so she says, would ignore her calls and dog her pretty much.

Fast forward to many years later, which is now, he suddenly realizes he likes her. Though, they haven't seen each other in ages but he somehow knows her current life status.

Now, he is persuading her to reside with him-- miles and miles away, to a place she doesn't actually think about.

Can someone elaborate on how smart it is to even consider some guy who dogged her? Like, shouldn't she consider a guy that is good to her from the start, instead of some throwback loser who has apparently  "changed"?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes

Janet · Answer

People are attracted to those who match their own unconscious issues.
Who we are attracted to says a LOT more about US, than it says about the other person.

Doesn't matter whether you think her actions are smart. MOST of our behaviors are pre-set and determined by our unconscious mind and she will do what she will do.
She doesn't want a guy who is good to her?  This means that unconsciously SHE doesn't think she has value or worth, and so SHE will be attracted only to someone who treats her as badly as she thinks she deserves.

But I have to ask you ... why are YOU attracted to someone who rejects YOU?  What kind of rejection-issues cause you to be attracted to her?

sparrow · Answer

A person can be intellectually smart, but emotionally retarded.
It's 2 different areas of the brain. She may consider it; but hopefully
she will come to her senses. Even if she did go, she would come back
soon enough, with a bruised ego after he treats her bad again.

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Would a smart girl actually consider this?

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