What to do about our conflicting schedules?

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Me and my girlfriend have been doing very well and have been dating for the last 6 months. She goes to college while I’m in my senior year of high school. We only really get to see each other on the weekends and it’s been hard for us. We used to see each other every day and we just love to spend time together. She recently got a job that has made it so much more difficult to find time to see each other and I am just struggling with the lack of time together. I’m not willing to break up so is there anything else we can do to make our distance easier until next year when we will be together?

Anonymous · Answer

Adult life is full of issues like "I work in a restaurant, nights and weekends and it's almost impossible to have a relationship with someone who works M-F 9-5." Many adults are too busy with work and other adult responsibilities to see the sweetheart more than once a week -- if that much. If you want a girlfriend with lots of free time, then maybe you need to be dating a high school girl, not a working adult.

Kelly · Answer

This is what adult life is like, you can't always spend as much time with your significant other and even your kids as you'd like because you have obligations (school, work, kids, etc).

This is where you make the best of the time you do get to spend together.  Don't just sit around and wait for her, find hobbies, get a part time job, etc.  I have 2 teenage girls and they both work part-time in addition to going to school.  It sounds like you're not busy enough.

You may or may not be together next year.  While you may be at the same school, you will be busy as well or at least you should be.  Your schedules can't always be the same.

My husband and I are both working professionals.  I have a m-f 8a-4p type job so my schedule is predictable.  My husband is a Cardiologist, his scheduled shift is 7a-5p.  However, people often don't schedule their heart attacks during those hours so he often works late, goes back to work and works holidays, middle of the night, weekends, birthday's, anniversaries, kids events so he doesn't always get to attend everything he'd like to.  He misses a lot due to work.  However, he tries to attend as much as he can and makes the best of the time he can be there.

♠ Merlin ♠ · Answer

Next year, your life will change once you go to college and get a job, your time wont be as much your own as it is just now.
Going to college is busy & exciting, you meet lots of new people and are much more responsible for yourself.
It sounds like you have too much free time just now, or are inexperienced in dating.
These days its SO easy to keep in contact and as you mature you understand that real life comes before seeing each other everyday like back in high school

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