How to get ex wife to pay medical bills?

WHOEVER takes the child/ren to a doctor or to the ER, then when they do, you will sign a form that states "If insurance does not pay, then (I) will be held personally responsible"".

So, yes, the bills are coming to your husband, since either you or him signed that form. Now, (if) the EX took the child/ren to be treated, then SHE would be sent the bills, since she would have signed that form to be held responsible.

Now the situation based on other questions is that about a year or 2 ago, the children were going back and forth on (who) had custody, thus now your husband has full time custody and my guess is he is absolutely happy having the children with him full time, and my guess is not pursuing this, since he wants to not (risk) she try and get the kids back full time.

Now my (late) husband when he divorced his wife, got custody of his 2 children. She was supposed to pay child support and also pay for other expenses, but she NEVER did, but he (never) pursued for this, since he wanted to keep the kids full time.

And yes as a step mother, you may end up paying for expenses that are incurred for your step children, but when you marry someone with children, just like any (other) expenses, as married people do, we are both supposed to pay/help each other.

IF, she was paying child support on a regular basis vs now paying or (not), since working or not, then it might be more easier to pay for the medical bills and other (normal) expenses like food/clothing etc.

Yes you can go to court and pursue her for this. But, even if the judge agrees that is owed and (if) she does not have the money, then she won't pay. With child support, it never goes away and she will owe till (each) child is 18 and out of HS, so she could end up paying for them for years after till paid in full.

Honey, he is not pursuing, since my guess is that he does not want to "upset" the apple cart as the saying goes. If, I had to guess, if you keep on going after her even though he appears to not care, then at some point, if he has to choose on (keeping) the kids vs you, he will choose his kids.

Yes, and even then, if she doesn't have it, you don't get it. But "clothe and feed HER three kids " - aren't they your HUSBAND'S kids also?

Your husband is not going to throw his kids on the street because his ex refuses to pay her share. That what a father is SUPPOSED to do for his kids. When you married a guy with kids you bought into this and step parents complaints about the the costs of their spouse's kids are as common as dish water and a dime a dozen. Sorry but your only options are to help with the kids, both physcially and finanically, or file for divorce.

Take her to court, yes.

family court. and she's going to plead poverty -- I'd bet dollars to donut holes on tthat

Yes. Do so immediately.

Just goes to show you that the term "deadbeat" doesn't only apply to dads.

Suing her might make you feel better, as if you have achieved a measure of revenge, but if she doesn't have the money to pay the kids' expenses, she won't be able to pay a court judgement either.

Is there a court order that says she has to pay 50% of medical? If no, then good luck.

You can't squeeze juice from a rock. If she can't pay, then suing her does nothing anyway.

Then he ( not you) need to go to court and get child support and medical fees via a court order........ then if she breaks it it is contempt of court as well