I need advice on what can be done to STOP harassing text messages?

He can get a family law attorney like any normal person would do.

HE stops harassing texts or phone calls or any other kind of messages by going to the Police Department, showing PROOF of the harassment and asking for a Police Report so that he can file for a protective or no contact order (depending on where he is).

“This man” DOES have a right to be in your grandson’s life as long as he’s living with the child’s mother. Can he replace your son? No. Can he attend events, attend conferences, “do the exchange?” Yes, unless there’s a COURT ORDER to the contrary. IF the mother doesn’t see a problem, the Court won’t see a problem. I don’t know how many children the bf has out of wedlock, but at this point it doesn’t appear that the mother makes very sound decisions.

IF the Order states that all decisions are “with” the birth mother and birth father, as interesting as that is, I don’t see, from your description, that the mother’s bf is making decisions. Does the Order state that a “new partner/gf/bf” cannot be an active presence in the child’s life? Probably not. I’m not seeing third party decisions.

I would keep in mind that YOU are a third party, and anything YOU post can be a violation of the apparently specific Court Order and can flash back against your son.

What can he do? Take his proof, get the PPO, report any violations. He is unhappy with the bf and can PROVE that the bf is a danger to the child, mentally or physically? Then your son should go to Court and get residential custody. It happens all the time.

But here is my very specific problem - I don’t know the age of your son, his former gf or the child. Apparently he thought having a child without a committed relationship was a sound idea? This is the price the CHILD pays for that decision. I see a LOT of custody cases, and I wonder what immature adults are thinking when they have a child OUTSIDE a committed relationship. Your son was old enough to have a child. He’s old enough to seek legal counsel and figure this out. The same person who was absolutely no problem when they were having sex and having a child has all sorts of bad tendencies and personality flaws when they split up.

And, by the way, I’m a stepmother to four stepchildren. I am very active in their lives when they are with their father. Their mother, my husband’s ex-wife, very seldom has an issue with my presence. Her MOTHER, on the other hand, is all over the place on the topic and very often interferes with my husband’s visitation and decisions. She goes out of her way to cause issues and problems and very shortly the Court is going to hear whether or not she should even HAVE unsupervised visitation. Would it hurt the children to be out of touch with their grandmother? Yes.

Does it hurt them more when she goes on and on TO THEM about their father? Yes.

You raised your son to be a responsible adult. To put it briefly, butt out - again. /question/index?qid=20110...

OK look, nothing that you listed actually constitutes harassment. Just because your sons girlfriend is dating a new guy and the new guy wants to play dad, doesn’t mean that the new guy is harassing your son. And them simply texting your son isn’t harassment, (unless they purposely said hateful mean things like telling him to kill himself or saying he’ll always be a loser etc).

If your son wants custody, he needs to fight for it. Otherwise, if she has primary custody, her and her boyfriend can do whatever they want with the kid. Your son filing a protective order is really petty, and it’s going to be thrown out of court. I would say the same thing if a girl tried to get a stupid protective order. You need to actually go to court the right way to fight for custody the honest way, and stop trying to use the law as a weapon.

The new boyfriend, by himself, can not make these decisions, but the ex girlfriend can give him power to represent her. If the ex has not done so than the new boyfriend is just a stranger and there is no need to comply. I notice you said that 'they' are making his life miserable. Sounds like the ex girlfriend is supporting and approving of the actions of the new boyfriend. You may not want to block all contact with her.

First you need proof of harassment and proof of him requesting they stop contacting him. You need proof that he is doing what he can to stop this too such as blocking them on his phone, on social media and so on. He needs to prove he is not contacting them in any form too. Once you have all of this you can take it to the police and request a restraining order to get them to stop. It is likely the police will search his phone and social media accounts for more proof too.

Is your son an adult? If so he should be handling this himself. Especially since he was apparently adult enough to get a girl pregnant.

Does your son have a lawyer? If not he should hire one. The lawyer can help him hammer out a custody agreement that specifies what role (if any) the boyfriend can play in the child's life.

If the text messages are threatening or harassing, your son should not respond, but should take screen shots and bring them to his lawyer. And see if anything can be done.

But if the problem here is that the new BF and the ex are just annoying your son ... well, too bad. He can't ignore them completely if he wants a role in his child's life. He needs to abide by the official custody agreement, maintain a calm and polite composure for his child's sake, and go to his lawyer if he feels that his ex and her BF are harassing him or violating the custody agreement.

But if it's all legal and kosher that the BF helps raise the kid ... well, too bad, so sad for your son. If the BF isn't abusing the kid or violating the custody agreement then a lawyer isn't going to do anything just because your son is pissy that the new BF and the ex are snotty to him.

The problem here is that you can't stop her from taking advice from him. He doesn't make her vote count for any more, but at the same time he's going to be around and it doesn't really matter rather you guys like that or not as long as he's doing what is good for the kid.