If your in a relationship and your man is talking to other woman. Texting and calling them behide your back is that cheating.?

If he has to hide it from you, it's cheating. There's no excuse as to why he had to lie to you about this woman.

He's a liar, isn't that enough of a red flag, and if he's lying, there must be something he's covering up. Don't cheat yourself by staying with this lying philanderer.

It's called emotional cheating and it's something women really struggle with when they find out their partner is doing this.

I assume that he didn't come to you and tell you what he was doing. And that you didn't give him consent for this.

"Behind your back" is what makes YOU feel vulnerable and betrayed.

It is not actual cheating, since cheating is sex with someone else (without your prior consent).

But it hurts nonetheless.

What is FAR MORE bothersome is that he lied.

Trust depends on honesty, and together trust-honesty is 65% of what makes a relationship work.

When someone lies to you, it means they are selfish and want what they want and don't care if it hurts you.

And when they lie to you, YOU become unable to expose yourself to the vulnerability and possible-hurt of wanting someone.

Your relationship with him is doomed. It remains only how much more increasing pain and fear you will put up with before you leave him. Or he loses interest and dumps you for someone else.

Doesn't matter what he SAYS was going on.

And doesn't matter what the content was.

It wasn't cheating.

But lying and hiding things is what wrecks a relationship.

Stop arguing about what was or wasn't done . .all that does is create arguments.

But be realistic and understand that this is a selfish man who is not able to love and only wants to do what he wants to do . .which means pain for you.

If you care about your happiness, you will not stay with him.

Love is action, not words. Actions that avoid doing things that MIGHT hurt our partner, and it is not a matter of "what they don't know won't hurt them". We DO modify our behaviors IF we love the other person.

And that includes being honest even if we get in trouble for it .. and even more, it means thinking before we do something so that we don't have to lie.

And it means being kind and respectful even when we are angry or hurt .. love is an action and it is a decision, and lying breaks it.

I would not put up with that. While texting and calling another woman (once) may not be cheating, doing it secretly is unacceptable. That he lied to you about it when he got caught is not a good sign. I'd cut him loose and find someone else.

If he can’t tell you the truth & be upfront about it , yes. You need to break up with him asap, because clearly he’s not the one