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Boyfriend is planning to move across the country? ?
So yesterday evening my boyfriend of 9 months informed me that he is moving across the country in 3 months for work purposes. I am a 19 yo
female and he is a 20 yo male. He is a pilot and he told me he is not able to find any jobs in the city we currently reside in. We discussed the possible options for our relationship and he stated that I could either move with him or do long distance. However, every time he or I brought up long distance he would almost dismiss the idea. He said, “We could do long distance but I heard it never works.” And was somewhat doubtful / skeptical of the prospect that he’ll be able to handle a long distance relationship.
I’m not very sure what to do in this situation. It is very heartbreaking because he’s become my best friend and our relationship was going super well. Overtime, we’ve developed a really close bond and we love each other a lot.
Since my education and family are where I am currently residing, I cannot move with him. I’m open to the idea of doing long distance but if he’s giving me signs that he is doubtful of the success of the long distance scenario, should I end the relationship now? Or should I wait it out to see if his perspective changes on it three months from now?
2 Answers
- Anonymous1 year ago
What is long distance, seriously? Two people being pen friends? Either sort out arrangements to see each other regularly like every month at least or break it off Long distance relationships do work but only if it's a temporary arrangement with a plan for the future. Sounds like neither of you have future plans for each other
- FoofaLv 71 year ago
He's right that LDRs rarely work. But relationships between 19 and 20 year-olds rarely stick for like either. Clearly you'd be mad to move across the country for a relationship that's only nine months old (as one assumes you've got a life, school, work, family where you are now). But if he's willing you could always try the LDR for a while as you get to know each other better and find out if you're really a good match. Could be that in a year or two you'll be in a life situation where it would make sense to make such a move.
