Olivia

So my best friend and I planned a trip to Hawaii together back in November. We’d live there from late March to late April. However, she’s in a relationship now and she’s adamant on her bf (21M) coming along for a week on our trip. My concern is... the place we booked is small w/ one bedroom (no doors inside except for the bathroom). We’d sleep in the bed, he’d sleep in a cot. It’s also the only week her and I are both free. I had told her that, though I have some discomfort about the lack of space, he can stay for a few days, as long as he chips 1/3 for his stay. We both settled on that agreement.

Well, I guess he plans on staying for a week now. They have plans to get a hotel for those extra four days he’s staying. I’d be at the place alone. But she was very upset with me that I wouldn’t let him stay in our place for a week and for putting them in the situation where they’d have to pay the hotel fee. And she even said that he & his parents were baffled by my resistance. I’m now thinking that I overreacted to being resistant about him staying in our place for a week. Of course, I’m not entirely comfortable with it. B/c I barely know him & third-wheeling is awk. But I could’ve just sucked it because it is a month-long stay. 

She’s being very cold and distant now, haven’t heard from her in two days which is really unlike her. I’m thinking of perhaps just not going on this trip or flying in late that first week. What should I do in this situation? Was I being a bad friend? 

I am a 19 year old female and my boyfriend is a 20 year old male. Just recently he invited me to go to London with him. We’d be staying for two nights. What I am worried about is how safe of a city London is. I’ve heard that currently there are many people residing there, specifically Muslims, who are targeting Americans / tourists because of Donald Trump. We are both Americans so this concerns me.

Also, I know there’s been an increase in knife crime over there as well as terrorist attacks. 

In general, would it be safe for a 19 year old and 20 year old to be traveling there alone? If so, any travel advice?

I am a 19 year old female and my boyfriend is a 20 year old male. We have been dating for nine months. My boyfriend is a student pilot and works for an airplane; just recently, he invited me

to go to the Carribean with him and I would have just a couple of days to prepare for the trip. The flight for me would be free so the expenses would be affordable for me. Though I do really want to go, I have been having some reservations as this would be a really big trip for us as a couple. We have gone on two trips together so far, all within the U.S., but this would be our first time traveling out of the country. I have also heard that the Carribean is not the safest place. In three months, there is a 50 / 50 percent chance that my boyfriend is moving out of the area so going on this trip would bring me closer to him and make that potential heartbreak more daunting. Apart of me really wants to go and experience the world, especially at such a low cost, but apart of me believes this is too much too soon. Should I go on this trip? 

I am a 19 year old female and my boyfriend is a 20 year old male. We have been dating for nine months. My boyfriend is a student pilot and works for an airplane; just recently, he invited to go to the Carribean with him and I would have just a couple of days to prepare for the trip. The flight for me would be free so the expenses would be affordable for me. 

Though I do really want to go, I have been having some reservations as this would be a really big trip for us as a couple. We have gone on two trips together so far, all within the U.S., but this would be our first time traveling out of the country. I have also heard that the Carribean is not the safest place. 

In three months, there is a 50 / 50 percent chance that my boyfriend is moving out of the area so going on this trip would bring me closer to him and make that potential heartbreak more daunting. 

Apart of me really wants to go and experience the world, especially at such a low cost, but apart of me believes this is too much too soon. Should I go on this trip? 

So yesterday evening my boyfriend of 9 months informed me that he is moving across the country in 3 months for work purposes. I am a 19 yo

female and he is a 20 yo male. He is a pilot and he told me he is not able to find any jobs in the city we currently reside in. We discussed the possible options for our relationship and he stated that I could either move with him or do long distance. However, every time he or I brought up long distance he would almost dismiss the idea. He said, “We could do long distance but I heard it never works.” And was somewhat doubtful / skeptical of the prospect that he’ll be able to handle a long distance relationship.

I’m not very sure what to do in this situation. It is very heartbreaking because he’s become my best friend and our relationship was going super well. Overtime, we’ve developed a really close bond and we love each other a lot. 

Since my education and family are where I am currently residing, I cannot move with him. I’m open to the idea of doing long distance but if he’s giving me signs that he is doubtful of the success of the long distance scenario, should I end the relationship now? Or should I wait it out to see if his perspective changes on it three months from now? 

So yesterday evening my boyfriend of 9 months informed me that he is moving across the country in 3 months for work purposes. I am a 19 yo

female and he is a 20 yo male. He is a pilot and he told me he is not able to find any jobs in the city we currently reside in. We discussed the possible options for our relationship and he stated that I could either move with him or do long distance. However, every time he or I brought up long distance he would almost dismiss the idea. He said, “We could do long distance but I heard it never works.” And was somewhat doubtful / skeptical of the prospect that he’ll be able to handle a long distance relationship.

I’m not very sure what to do in this situation. It is very heartbreaking because he’s become my best friend and our relationship was going super well. Overtime, we’ve developed a really close bond and we love each other a lot. 

Since my education and family are where I am currently residing, I cannot move with him. I’m open to the idea of doing long distance but if he’s giving me signs that he is doubtful of the success of the long distance scenario, should I end the relationship now? Or should I wait it out to see if his perspective changes on it three months from now? 

What should I do? 

My boyfriend is a 20 yo male and I am a 19 yo female. Recently, he has been bringing up in conversations that my response times to his texts are slow. The truth of the matter is that I am not much of a texter and I find the pressure of responding to texts to be quite overwhelming. I tend to overthink my text responses and I would much rather communicate over the phone. I have not really explained this to him in great detail though. 

Recently my boyfriend made a comment that makes me believe he does not trust me. He said "You took like an hour to respond to my text. You are probably talking to that other guy." The guy he is referring to is my high school friend who I keep streaks with on Snapchat. I did not know what to say in the moment of him making this comment and initially kind of glossed over it, however, as I was thinking about it, I began to realize how his comment most likely came from a place of him lacking trust in me. He really does not have anything to worry about though as this guy is only a high school friend and nothing more. 

What are some ways I can get my boyfriend to trust me? How should I go about this situation? 

My boyfriend is a 20 yo male and I am a 19 yo female. Recently, he has been bringing up in conversations that my response times to his texts are slow. The truth of the matter is that I am not much of a texter and I find the pressure of responding to texts to be quite overwhelming. I tend to overthink my text responses and I would much rather communicate over the phone. I have not really explained this to him in great detail though. 

Recently my boyfriend made a comment that makes me believe he does not trust me. He said "You took like an hour to respond to my text. You are probably talking to that other guy." The guy he is referring to is my high school friend who I keep streaks with on Snapchat. I did not know what to say in the moment of him making this comment and initially kind of glossed over it, however, as I was thinking about it, I began to realize how his comment most likely came from a place of him lacking trust in me. He really does not have anything to worry about though as this guy is only a high school friend and nothing more. 

What are some ways I can get my boyfriend to trust me? How should I go about this situation? 

 My boyfriend and I are planning on visiting Puerto Vallarta over winter break. I am a 19-year-old female and he's a 20-year-old male. I have read from some Reddit pages that it is a relatively safe place but the pages are a little bit outdated. So I came on here to ask...how safe is Puerto Vallarta? Is there anything we should prepare ourselves for?

I am a 19 year old female and my boyfriend is a 20 year old male and we have been dating for eight months. A month or so ago, I went to Hawaii with him and just recently he invited me to go to Europe with him over winter break. I would be getting a discount and I am in the financial position to afford it but I can’t help but think... would it be too much to go to Europe w/ my boyfriend of eight months? Because I know it is a big deal to travel across the continent w/ your partner especially since we’re so early into the relationship. Would it be a dumb decision? should I not go? 

So recently my boyfriend invited me to go to Cancun with him about two weeks prior to when he plans to go. He is a pilot and he stated that having a girlfriend who could go on these trips with him is very important to him. We have been dating for seven months and I have already had to turn down two trip opportunities due to conflicts with school. My education is important to me and it is hard to put myself in a position to jeopardize it. I am a 19 yo in college by the way; he is a 20 yo. We had a talk yesterday and he stated to me that he is in a dilemma because he really loves me but he wants a girlfriend who he can do these things with.

I told him that I am willing to go on trips with him but if he wants me to go, we have to plan these trips together with consideration to both of our schedules and that we need to plan a few more weeks in advance, especially when it involves going out of the country. Typically, he notifies me of these trip plans two weeks in advance and it doesn t give me much time to prepare.

However, in reply, he said that it is hard because he is only informed of these trip opportunities on a whim so we would not be able to plan ahead in the time frame that I proposed.

I really love him but I don t know where we stand right now. He said he needs some time to "reflect" and I believe he is contemplating breaking up with me.

Am I a bad girlfriend for being unable to go on these trips with him? Did he truly love me if he breaks up with me over this?

So recently my boyfriend invited me to go to Cancun with him about two weeks prior to when he plans to go. He is a pilot and he stated that having a girlfriend who could go on these trips with him is very important to him. We have been dating for seven months and I have already had to turn down two trip opportunities due to conflicts with school. My education is important to me and it is hard to put myself in a position to jeopardize it. I am a 19 yo in college by the way; he is a 20 yo. We had a talk yesterday and he stated to me that he is in a dilemma because he really loves me but he wants a girlfriend who he can do these things with. 

I told him that I am willing to go on trips with him but if he wants me to go, we have to plan these trips together with consideration to both of our schedules and that we need to plan a few more weeks in advance, especially when it involves going out of the country. Typically, he notifies me of these trip plans two weeks in advance and it doesn't give me much time to prepare. 

However, in reply, he said that it is hard because he is only informed of these trip opportunities on a whim so we would not be able to plan ahead in the time frame that I proposed.

I really love him but I don't know where we stand right now. He said he needs some time to "reflect" and I believe he is contemplating breaking up with me. 

Am I a bad girlfriend for being unable to go on these trips with him? Did he truly love me if he breaks up with me over this? 

So my boyfriend (M20) and I (F19) have been dating for around six months. We usually speak to each other every-day and rarely go a day without contacting one another. This past weekend, I attended his grandma's wedding so we spent two days together and were in each other's company for the majority of that trip. The trip went really well and we left on a good note. A couple of hours after he dropped me off after the wedding we made plans to watch a movie together on Wednesday, a couple of days after the wedding. However, today is Wednesday and I have not heard from him since we made these plans after the wedding. He typically takes the lead with most of our plans so this behavior is really unlike him. And, he will usually send me something during the day to show he is thinking about me.

This is the longest we have gone without communicating with one another. Should I send him a text asking if plans are still on? Or should I just wait for him to reach out? Also, should I be worried about this? 

Hi everyone. I am 19 years old. So far, I have been talking to this guy I met from Bumble for about three months. Within this time frame, we have gone on about five dates and typically communicate with each other almost every day via messaging. However, I am just very confused as we have gone on all these dates and he has not made a move on me yet; the most we have done is just hug. Through text, he will call me endearing names ("beautiful" and "cutie") and will tell me intimate things such as "miss you" and "wish you were here." Also, I am pretty sure he could still be active on Bumble.

He is still persistent on communicating with me and making plans to see me yet I just feel like I may potentially be wasting my time with this connection. On his profile, it says he is looking for a relationship yet it has been three months of us in communication and his actions do not really reflect the relationship-seeking status. What should I do?

Okay, so I have been seeing this guy. So far we have been on two dates, each date lasted 8-12 hours. We get along really great and there is a lot of chemistry between us. I have not felt this type of chemistry with someone in a really long time. Based on our conversations, it is quite obvious that he would be down for sex. We have not done anything remotely close to sex but based on subtle actions and verbal cues it is clear to me that he is interested in doing that. He has not pressured me AT ALL or even asked me directly and it is evident that he also wants a romantic relationship as well.

He mentioned to me that he is a virgin so we would essentially be losing our virginities to each other. Should I allow this to happen? Or will I regret it? I feel like I am at a place in my life where I feel ready to have sex but I am worried that if I do have sex with him, it will destroy this connection we have or I will regret not waiting it out for someone I am in love with. Would it just be best for me to wait?

Okay, so I have been seeing this guy. So far we have been on two dates, each date lasted 8-12 hours. We get along really great and there is a lot of chemistry between us. I have not felt this type of chemistry with someone in a really long time. Based on our conversations, it is quite obvious that he would be down for sex. We have not done anything remotely close to sex but based on subtle actions and verbal cues it is clear to me that he is interested in doing that. He has not pressured me AT ALL or even asked me directly and it is evident that he also wants a romantic relationship as well.

He mentioned to me that he is a virgin so we would essentially be losing our virginities to each other. Should I allow this to happen? Or will I regret it? I feel like I am at a place in my life where I feel ready to have sex but I am worried that if I do have sex with him, it will destroy this connection we have or I will regret not waiting it out for someone I am in love with. Would it just be best for me to wait?

So me and this guy matched on Tinder about a month ago. We ended up hitting it off on Tinder and after two weeks of messaging each other and he asked me for my snap. Since then, we have been snapping each other daily. To me, it feels like more of a friendship, however, I am confused because he has not been flirtatious with me at all and hasnt hinted that he wants to meet with me in person. We have kept our conversations very friendly and platonic, which I do not mind, but I am just confused as to where this is going and I do not really understand what he is looking for. I know I could ask him myself I just want him to initiate it because I am too anxious to ask and I really don't mind the casual texting. I am just curious and somewhat confused as to why he has not decided to take it a step further, especially since we have been talking for a month. Why wouldnt he have asked me out yet?

So me and this guy matched on Tinder about a month ago. We ended up hitting it off on Tinder and after two weeks of messaging each other and he asked me for my snap. Since then, we have been snapping each other daily. To me, it feels like more of a friendship, however, I am confused because he has not been flirtatious with me at all and hasnt hinted that he wants to meet with me in person. We have kept our conversations very friendly and platonic, which I do not mind, but I am just confused as to where this is going and I do not really understand what he is looking for. I know I could ask him myself I just want him to initiate it because I am too anxious to ask and I really don't mind the casual texting. I am just curious and somewhat confused as to why he has not decided to take it a step further, especially since we have been talking for a month. Why wouldnt he have asked me out yet?

So I was seeing a guy for about a month. We had such a genuine connection and things were going so well. We were texting everyday in 20-30 min intervals and on our dates we were kissing, hugging, holding hands, etc. I have never felt such a deep bond with a guy. However, on the fourth date the chemistry was off. I was not really myself on that day, very tired, less energy, due to a variety of reasons and asked some prying questions (asked if he has ever been in a relationship before) as I figured we were moving in the direction of being boyfriend and girlfriend and I also divulged information about the guy I previously dated (his lack of emotional availability). I think I turned him off by coming across too strong but I really did not intend to.

The date went okay but after I did not hear from him at all which was odd as we were previously texting on a day to day basis; I decided to text him and he texted me back saying "The semester I have coming up is going to be really busy so I dont think its going to work out between us." It has been a few weeks since this has happened and I am still not over it. Me and this guy had so much in common and he was everything i was looking for in a guy- looks and personality wise. He was so kind and genuine and I feel like if I had just let things take their course then we would be together. I can not help but blame myself for this. How do I move past this?

So I was talking to this guy for about a month. We were texting every day in 20 to 30 min intervals and it seemed as if he was genuinely interested in me. We met up in person about four times and I noticed every time we met up we became more intimate with one another, physically and emotionally; we got close fast. I really really liked this guy, who seemed to have all the great qualities I was looking for in a boyfriend and it seemed as we were heading in that direction. However, on the fourth time we met up I noticed our chemistry was not as strong; I was not really myself that day due to a variety of reasons and, at times, failed to keep the conversation going. After we met up, I did not hear from him for a few days which was very concerning as we were previously texting on a day-to-day basis. So I reached out to him and he messaged me back saying its going to be a busy semester coming up for him so this would not work between us. As of now, I feel ashamed and pretty heart broken by this as he had almost all of the qualities I was looking for in a guy, looks and personality wise, and we had such a genuine connection. I can not help but blame myself for this. How can I move past this?