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does my boyfriend have controlling issues ?

My boyfriend gives me great advice when helping me on certain situations, but it seems like if I agree with his advice, he wants me to do things HIS way because he feels its "Best", but when I decide to do things "MY" way, he gets an attitude. Hes older than me and I understand how helpful he is, but its getting to the point that if me and my adult son( Not his father) makes decisions on our own without his input, he gets an attitude. My son is in school and works full time and stays with me and helps me with the bills. Should I talk to my boyfriend on this matter ?

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  • Anonymous
    12 months ago

    Gov't is killing you with high frequency electricity.Theotokos Virgin Mary gave prayers to "Schema-nun Antonia" on how to save aborted babies from hell. If you pray these prayers diligently, aborted babies are released from hell. On each painted nail there are 40 demons. Smoking is censer to the devil.Using foul language calls upon Pagan deities (aka demons); Holy Spirit departs on 7 meters. People who use drugs see demons who cleverly disguise themselves as ghosts and aliens.America will be last country to switch to Euro (antichrist's world currency). Contraceptives = abortion;using contraceptives for 1 year = 5 aborted kids.Miscarriages happen because of high heels; cesarean because of tight pants (second generation cesarean will be infertile).Unbaptized aborted/miscarried/unborn babies burn in hell for until Final Judgement; if pregnant, keep the kid and deliver at home because kids are chipped using IVs and vaccines in hospitals. Dentists and doctors chip patients secretly. 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  • 1 year ago

    I have to little info to understand what the issue is. 

    He gets an attitude = abusive (silent treatment, calling you names, shouting or passive agressive digs...etc) 

     Or

    He gets an attitude = of frustration and honest  but within the range of acceptable human behaviour argumentstivness, when you do something obviously wrong and stupid even after you've asked him to help you do it well and intelligently?

  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 year ago

    I started dating someone like this and if i was doing something he would constantly suggest different ways to do whatever-it-was... .as if i wouldn't get the same results.

    He was a moron. Believe me, that didn't last long

  • KLB
    Lv 6
    1 year ago

    your boyfriend is a manipulator. He is attempting to get you and your son to do everything HIS way, Dump this jerk before his behavior escalates. I have seen it many, many times. NOW is the time to dump him. Get your son AWAY from this guy. You are obligated to keep your son safe and in a nurturing environment,

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  • Anonymous
    1 year ago

    If he gives you great advice like you said he does then why are you not taking it?

    If you gave me great advice then I might take it. If you were to tell me to do things then I might do it your way, and that's if I like your advice.

    I agree with you about you wanting to make your own decisions. I also want to make my own decisions too, so I don't blame you, for wanting to make your own decisions. It's only natural that people want to make their own decisions.

  • 1 year ago

    No, you should NEVER talk to your boyfriend about ANY issues at all, ever. The key to a good relationship is to NEVER communicate with each other. That way, the relationship ends far sooner and you can go through your entire life jumping from one bad boyfriend to another because you never actually let each other know how you feel.

    Are you noticing the sarcasm here? I really hope so, because I meant it to be educational, not simply as criticism of your question.

  • Rick
    Lv 7
    1 year ago

    Yes, you need to speak to him and tell that it's not all about him and his way.  Just because you're younger, it doesn't mean you're not entitled to have an opinion and his respect as well.  A relationships is a two-way street.

  • 1 year ago

    I wouldn't call it controlling, some people just think they are always right and their way is the best way.  It is more being closed minded than anything else.  You could argue it is disrespectful of him and you wouldn't be wrong, because people should be free to make their own choices.  

    If he were controlling he would be telling you where to go, what to do, where to work ETC.  And he wouldn't just get mildly irritated if you went against it, he would go into a full out rage.  My EX wife was very controlling as were her parents and this is what happened when you went against their wishes, you would do what they wanted or else.

  • Anonymous
    1 year ago

    I think it could be more due to pride and feeling threatened than controlling issues. If your boyfriend had controlling issues then he would be telling you exactly what to do all the time. It seems to be that your boyfriend tends to get irritated when you go against the WAY he thinks things should be done. This would suggest that he likes to think of himself as being smart and a good source of knowledge and that you going against him would suggest that you may feel he is stupid and therefore can't look after you. What you need to do is to reassure your boyfriend that just because you choose to do things differently doesn't mean that you don't hold his opinion in high regard. Moreover, try and emphasize to him that you really appreciate his input and want him to continue providing you with advice in certain situations. I really hope this helps :)

  • 1 year ago

    No worries I don’t know the personalities of all of you but it sounds to me like your boyfriend is somewhat manipulative. Any decision made about your son and your own livelihood is your decision to make and he should not be getting angry if you decide against his advice as it isn’t a concern that affects him. If the issue is something really important like moving houses or a matter relating to work I’d understand his attitude because it would indirectly affect him too and I assume he wants this relationship to last forever. If he’s getting upset over small decisions I’d suggest just explaining to him you appreciate his advice but this is YOUR life and you are allowed to disagree with him.

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