is it important that you and your partner have to have the same sex drive ?

The sex with the new guy won't always be SO AMAZING. Believe it

tell him your sex life sucks. this is an ISSUE.

move on, go for the good sex

Go back to the guy that’s good in bed!

No offense but the problem isn’t your sex drive, the problem is YOU. The problem is YOUR attitude, YOUR idiotic negative feelings towards your boyfriend.

If your boyfriend is clearly the overall better guy to date- which he clearly is, as you chose him even despite the lack of sexual attraction- then you SHOULD be more attracted to your boyfriend, because he does more for you and has more value to your life. Being more attracted to the other guy despite that, is insane, and makes no sense whatsoever.

Basically, you’re very physically shallow and you’re not intelligent enough to realize other attractive traits besides the physical ones. Or, if you do realize them, you don’t realize them in a sexual capacity.

It turns me on that my husband is financially successful, intelligent/naturally smart, and in good physical shape. I know that our kids will be smart, fit, and successful too. It also turns me on that we can be making love at home, or making love in Puerto Rico, Cayman Islands, Europe, Hawaii, Florida, or anywhere else we feel like going on vacation (all places we’ve been together, btw). It turns me on that we own our own house together. It turns me on that he’s good with money, responsible, honest, hard working, resourceful, and yes he is good in bed. 

If these things don’t turn you on, then there’s something wrong with you. Girls who think like you have some sort of defect where you only see the physical looks and nothing else. The way you think is common in TEENAGE YEARS; but if you don’t wise up when you’re older- both logically AND on an emotional and sexual level- then you’ll be destined for poverty, single motherhood, and broken homes and destitution (being poor, destitute, confused, never having a stable home or finances, children growing up badly, etc.) 

And side note: If there’s specific things you want him to work on in the bedroom, then you can always tell him. Like if you want him to be more outgoing, take charge more, want him to finger you and make you squirt, etc then just tell him! 

Theres no excuse for him “being bad in bed”- his failures in bed are due to YOUR failures to communicate. I told my husband very early on, back when we first started dating, what I wanted in the bedroom. And he happily gave it to me! And the more practice we get, the better he gets! It’s that simple. You just need to keep talking and telling him how you feel and what you want in the bedroom. But it needs to involve HIM. Not other men. Don’t be a low class wh*ore, when you act like that then you shame and embarrass yourself 

Your question and story are in a bit of conflict.  You mention sex drive in your question but say the sex is lousy in your post. Which is it? Both?