Pick my mother or wife? ?

WTF??  All this just because your sister accidentally stepped on your son's blanket, and she didn't say she was sorry that she did so?  She stepped on the end of the blanket; it's not like she stepped on the kid.  Then, you all go from that to fighting over a baby bouncer?  What is WRONG with you people? 

i would pick your mother

Dude, for your own well-being you need to make it clear to wife and mom and sister that you are not going to get in the middle of whatever happens between them. If your wife needs an apology, she needs woman-up and let them now like a damn adult... and vice versa. I mean, seriously, over accidentally stepping on a baby blanket that your sister may or may not have even noticed?! Really?! You certainly don't wait 20 minutes after the fact and then randomly bring it up again, good grief. You and wife need to have a talk about what being a grown up is and your expectations for each other... what does she expect from you when it comes to "defending" her? You know, if your mom and sister were maybe arguing with her about parenting choices; that's a time to "defend" and say, "You know what, we are the parents and we are both in agreement about this topic." If they are truly bullying her and she needs your support to be safe around them (which I kind of doubt) that's when you need to "defend". Your wife and mother and sister being equally immature and petty to each other... man, pick up your son and head out of that situation yourself. Defend the BABY from being in the middle of his mother and grandmother's childishness.

Your wife is jealous of the close relationship you have with your mother and sister. For whatever reason that is. She feels you take their side over hers. There is obviously some friction between the 3 women which you either haven't noticed....or have chosen not to notice. Sticking your head in the sand doesn't cure anything as you have now discovered. For all we know, your sister may not have noticed she trod on the blanket - or she may have done it deliberately. Whatever. Your wife was naturally annoyed but said nothing. You didn't do anything at the time unfortunately. You left it for at least 20 minutes and then dragged it up out of the blue. Your wife may have been seething already but chose to keep the peace. You then very ham-fistedly broke that peace in your mother's house at her table. This was wrong of you. If you didn't say anything at the time, you should have kept your mouth shut. So now you have your wife wanting an apology for the blanket off your sister, your mother wants an apology off you and your wife for upsetting her in her own house, and your wife wants an apology off your mother as well for putting all the gear outside. You are the meat in the sandwich aren't you. You love all these women - but your DUTY is now to your wife. SHE has to come first and she HAS TO BE SEEN to come first in your life. You are correct in saying that you will take your son to your mother's alone. Your son is an innocent in all this. Your mother needs to see her grandson and have a relationship with him. Your wife has to allow this for her son's sake. Your wife doesn't have to visit your now-hated mother and sister at all if she doesn't want to. Asking your wife to apologise to your mother just tells your wife that she comes second to your mother so your wife, not wanting to be second-best basically believes you are a mummy's boy and wants no more to do with you. Hopefully, all this will blow over in a few weeks - but I think you should start standing up for YOURSELF against your women. Grovel to your wife and tell her she's your number one woman and you won't force her to see your mother ever again if she doesn't want to. Also tell her that your son needs a grandmother and it's not fair to him or your mother to split them up. Tell her that you will take him to visit your family and your wife doesn't have to go with you if she doesn't want to. When you see your mother be nice to her but tell her your wife won't be visiting as she feels that you are putting her and your sister above your duties as a husband. It's unfortunate, but this is how it's got to be for the time being. You can apologise to your mother on your OWN behalf - not your wife's becaue she was innocent at that table - that YOU broke the peace in your mother's house and you are sorry for that. Your mother is owed this apologyf rom you. Your wife had nothing to do with that particular argument as she'd decided to grit her teeth and say nothing.

Just let them solve this problem on their own and stay out of it.

I think you were right to defend your wife with the blanket thing, although it wasnt a big deal, its a respect thing. I feel like your wife should just let it go that your Mom put the baby stuff outside, it will only eat her up if she doesnt let it go, and again it wasnt a big deal. Hopefully you can make her see that. It is never going to work between your wife and your Mom if they dont either man up and apologise or both just let it go. Im sorry to say but i think perhaps your wife is being a little dramatic in this instance, maybe its because she doesnt like your family or maybe she is a dramatic person but i can tell you wont get an apology from her, and i dont feel like your Mom needs to give one, she did nothing wrong. 

Even if there was an apology, i would say it will only happen again when something else sets them off, its going to be an ongoing thing. Its pretty common between wives and mother in laws

yourself homie yeahhhh

When you married your wife you became 1! What I mean is you are team. That means if someone hurts or messes with your wife it’s your job to protect her and vice! You are your mother son and she raised you but you are a grown man now, married and with a son! Your wife and son come first! Not your mother! Your sister should have just said sorry and be done with it! Even just being petty but if things have been escalating then at this point anything will piss the wife off with your family! Basically your wife wants to see you stand up for her she needs that reassurance! Remember you are a team!

I’m a wife of 13 years and mother to 4 kiddos

Btw your mom might be shocked and things might seem rough but your mother needs to be put in her place and realize she isn’t your spot light your wife is! She will come around after some times! but as a man it’s your duty to protect your family!! Stand up for your wife!