My husbands brother wants to apologise to me?

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My husband's brother and I don't get along. Long story short after years of not speaking to each other he wants to make amends. He told my husband this several times but doesn't have the balls to actually go through with it. What bothers me is his behaviors haven't changed so what is he sorry for?? He still drinks and is an asshole. Idk if he thinks this will make us buddy buddies cuz it won't. Literally nothing will change. He can apologize and I will except his apologie but don't feel the need to hang out and pretend like old times. Am I wrong??

Update:

He has it in his head that once he apologizes things will.ho back to the old days of when we were all friends. But that's not how it works. So I guess I'm gonna look like the asshole when I accept his apologie but don't make an effort to be his friend again

chris n · Answer

No. Not at all.  If this guy is just all talk, let him talk.  If your husband wants to hang out with his brother.....fine.  Let them have their 'boy time' together.  Just make sure your husband doesn't include you in the mix and doesn't bring his brother home.  If you meet in family circumstances then just be pleasant and polite but you don't have to love him just because he's family.  You and he don't hit it off.  You'll never be close.

? · Answer

You can accept his apology. Maybe he's trying to quit drinking or at least, trying to stop being anAsshole?  Either way, at least he's making an effort.

this doesn't mean you have to become good buddies with him.  It also doesn't mean you have to respect him.  It does mean he has regrets, because he's human.

Most people become problem drinkers because they have emotional issues. That's how it starts.  they start drinking to mask their issues/to self-medicate.  It's not an excuse, it's just the way of humans.

You'd be a bigger person to be tolerant.  However like i said, this doesn't mean you have to be his buddy.

take care of YOU first

? · Answer

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My sister had a boyfriend, they were together for 3 years, her boyfriend was the worst, hated him from the moment i met him.  Looks really scary when he’s angry, controlling, manipulative, you know the type.  So my sister left.  Literally moved to 2000 km’s away to get her life together.  He has tried to apologize before.  I can accept them every time but i know he’s lying every time.  If someone is really sorry they won’t do it again.  There is a difference between saying sorry and actually feeling remorse.  It’s up to you whether or not he actually does

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