Eileen Van

I have a few from my hubby when we first started dating that have memories I would like to keep but is it wrong to throw away one from my family, relatives mother in law and grandparents? They're just cards right? Does anyone here keep cards or read and toss?

So this entire month we've had plumbing issues. Both bathrooms have overflowed ankle deep in water and has also seeped into the living room carpet. Downtimes it come sho the sinks or the showers don't drain. We've been renting for almost 2 years and never had an issue until now. The landlord said we can rip the carpet up if we want to. He has to replace the entire bathroom bottom cabinet (not sure what else) due to some water damage and starting to smell like mold. Not sure if we will have to stay somewhere when he does this. But rent is due on the first and I'm getting tired of the issued not being fixed. We are on septic and share with our neighbors. I'm afraid to flush the toilets and sometimes can't do laundry. Would we get kicked out for withholding the rent?

Some news feed are telling me $600 and will not direct deposits tonight? However I thought trump didn't sign it, apparently other news feeds said he did. Anybody know what the deal is?

I recently found out from my husband that his brother confessed to him that's he's been unhappy with his girlfriend of 10 years and is cheating on her. my husband suggested he break up with but his brother said he won't break up with her because she has mental health issues and doesn't want to hurt her so he's gonna continue to cheat on her until he figures it out. Whatever that means. Anyway we are having a little get-together for Christmas Eve and everyone in his immediate family is invited to our house except for his brother. I know his mom will be upset and blame be but I don't want him here. I don't want to sit around making small talk when we all know the situation but pretend it doesn't exist. Am I wrong? 

I feel guilty for not saying anything but I also would be a snitch. It's not my relationship. But the entire  family knows but her and choose to pretend it's not happening cus they all like to live in denial. What would be the right thing to do? I don't think she would even believe me anyway 

My fiances brother told him the other day that he hasn't been happy with his girlfriend (of almost 10 years) for a few years now. He stated that he's in a relationship with someone else. My fiance said that he should break things off if he's not happy but said it would crush her. I wasn't even supposed to know but my fiance told me anyway. With all his girlfriends mental issues he thinks breaking up would hurt her more then her finding out he's been cheating. She I tell her what I know? Is it nor my business? I would want to know but I don't think she would believe me anyway. it's a sticky situation. I also have a hunch that my mother inlaw knows her oldest son is cheating on his girlfriend but is okay with it because she never liked her anyway. I know it's not my business but I can't sit around the Christmas tree pretending everything is fine. She knows I don't like my fiances brother or he much either but it still sucks knowing what I know. 

I work at panera bread and when I went on vacation I had to borrow future vacation time since I did not have enough. Anyway since I've been back I still haven't accumulated any vacation hours to get out of the negative. It's still -22 hours and I've already has a few paychecks that should be getting me out of the negative but I'm not. Any idea why?

Should you forgive a person who keeps making the same mistakes they already said they were sorry for and can't promise any change? Does that make you stupid to forgive? Or would it be the right thing to do but move on without that person? Forgive for yourself not for them?

Granted I don't really like his family too much. His mom is overbearing and his older brother is an alcoholic. I even don't like my own family that much but I do my best to get along with them. I still go to family dinners for my family and his. But due to an event that happened my husband refuses to go anywhere with my family until they apologize to him. I sometimes want to refuse to go to any of his family events because of his alcoholic brother but I don't. I go to support him and try not to let his brother bother me. Isn't it called being the bigger person??? It sucks that he wont go tosupport me. He gets upset when I decide not to go to his mom's house with him but I also feel the same way when he doesn't go with me to see my family... But I don't want to force him but he makes me feel guilty when I can't stand his brother. Idk what to do and I can't talk to him about it cuz it won't matter. What do I do?? It's like he expects me to just deal with his family but not the other way around. My family is worse then his according to him. But he's blinded to his brothers and mom's co dependant relationship. It's eating me up inside and Idk what to do or say anymore

My husband's brother and I don't get along. Long story short after years of not speaking to each other he wants to make amends. He told my husband this several times but doesn't have the balls to actually go through with it. What bothers me is his behaviors haven't changed so what is he sorry for?? He still drinks and is an asshole. Idk if he thinks this will make us buddy buddies cuz it won't. Literally nothing will change. He can apologize and I will except his apologie but don't feel the need to hang out and pretend like old times. Am I wrong??

I recently started a new job in August. My w2 from my old job had taxes withheld my current job did not take out taxes or I either didn't make enough maybe? The taxes showen on my pay stubs equal to the same amount I made for the year. Is my w2 incorrect?

Are they hourly or salary?

My husbands brother has been cheating on his girlfriend for years now. They've been together for almost 9 years. I don't have a good relationship with my husbands Brother or girlfriend because they are both have addicted personalites and just not very nice people. We don't really have any proof that he's been cheating on her but we know and he'll say things like "hey don't tell my girlfriend so and so came over to hang out, shell be mad at me" . My husband knows for a fact he's been cheating on her for years and said his a piece of **** for it.  Now do to the fact that I don't even talk to his brother's girlfriend she wouldn't believe me anyway. I feel like she either knows and can't do anything about it or she really doesn't know. Idk if it's my place or stay out of it. I just hope the bastard gets caught

Long story short my husbands 30 year old brother is an alcohol and still lives at home with their mom. We use to live with her for a while before we finally moved out for our own safety and sanity. Anyway my husbands brother asked their mom if his buddy could live with them "temporarily" until he finds his own place. She said he seems like a nice guy. Doesn't smoke or drink (which seems like a lie considering all his brother's friends are drug dealers and not nice people), has a dog (14 year old that will be living outside since she does not want dogs in the house) and it's xmas so she feels like she can't say no cus it's the season to be nice. She's on the fence about it still because she can't understand why. 35 year old can't get a roommate but she also said she could use the money. Anyway she wanted our opinion about the temporary situation. We don't think it's a good idea but it's her house her rules. We both think it's a little weird (esp since their dad is in tje hospital and isn't supposed to know about it cuz he'll be gone when he gets home supposedly) and aren't sure what to tell her. I'm thinking we should stay out of it and hope it doesn't blow up and we have to be the ones who fix the mess (cuz God forbid my husbands brother is ever responsible for his actions). But we just want his mom to be safe and this situation sounds like a mess.

My boyfriend (her good son) and I live on our own now. Her almost 30 year old son does not. Still lives and home and recently asked her if one of his buddies can move in for a bit until he gets some.things figured out. He's a 35 year old guy and has no where to go cuz he got kicked out of an apartment with friends who didn't pay so they all had to leave. Anyway it's only gonna be a temporary situation until my boyfriend's father comes back home (he's in the hospital). She asked what we think about the situation. She knows I don't like her older son and the brothers don't get along to well (his brother has a drinking problem). She said the guy seems nice, doesn't drink or smoke (he must or he wouldn't be friends with her older son, he doesn't have nice friends) and she needs help money wise. I honestly don't think it's a good idea seeing his older brothers track record of friends who party and steal. I could be wrong but idk. My boyfriend isn't sure about the idea. And his dad also has no clue this guy is moving in (he apparently doesn't need to know). His grandma and everyone else says he seems nice and it would help his mom out..it's her house she can do whatever she wants. But I just want some advice on how to tell her I don't think it's a good idea. 

I use to ignore him after an incident happened. But I've forgiven him even though he never apologized to me. I don't care to be around him but I'm friendly and talk to him about stupid ****. Idk if he thinks having a talk will make things go back to the way they were. I'm not against talking to him if thats what he wants but it's not going to change my feelings towards him or his girlfriend. I will not go out if my to hang out with them like old times. So idk why he thinks it's necessary but he says it has to happen sooner or later. I also will not talk to him alone. Anything he has to say to me he can also say in front of his brother. However I know he will want to talk in private (which my boyfriend finds weird). Should I give him the opportunity to have a conversation? Is it juts going to be pointless? What are your thoughts on this matter??