Mother in-law considering letting her son's friend move in with them?

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Long story short my husbands 30 year old brother is an alcohol and still lives at home with their mom. We use to live with her for a while before we finally moved out for our own safety and sanity. Anyway my husbands brother asked their mom if his buddy could live with them "temporarily" until he finds his own place. She said he seems like a nice guy. Doesn't smoke or drink (which seems like a lie considering all his brother's friends are drug dealers and not nice people), has a dog (14 year old that will be living outside since she does not want dogs in the house) and it's xmas so she feels like she can't say no cus it's the season to be nice. She's on the fence about it still because she can't understand why. 35 year old can't get a roommate but she also said she could use the money. Anyway she wanted our opinion about the temporary situation. We don't think it's a good idea but it's her house her rules. We both think it's a little weird (esp since their dad is in tje hospital and isn't supposed to know about it cuz he'll be gone when he gets home supposedly) and aren't sure what to tell her. I'm thinking we should stay out of it and hope it doesn't blow up and we have to be the ones who fix the mess (cuz God forbid my husbands brother is ever responsible for his actions). But we just want his mom to be safe and this situation sounds like a mess.

Foofa · Answer

I'm with you. This DOES sound like a mess and it's highly unlikely this "buddy" or your nonproductive brother truly believe this to be "temporary". I'd do everything in my power to not let this happen. Also, if you live in a cold climate it's not right to leave an elderly dog outside all the time.

Anonymous · Answer

I just tapped out a long helpful answer and then noticed in your questions this guy is your boyfriend, not husband. I hate people like you who play games. It does matter, because this woman isn't your mother in law, and you're dating a mommy's boy. I guess that's what you deserve.

EDIT: @bluebell - reread what I said. I looked at her questions. Like this one; /question/index?qid=20191...

EDIT:  @bluebell - reread what I said.  I looked at her questions.   Like this one;  /question/index?qid=20191203004040AAoFsUh

Pearl · Answer

not much you can do about it if its her house

chris n · Answer

Just tell his mother that you don't think it's a good idea - Christmas or not.  As she's keeping it from her husband in the hospital she'll have a problem if he comes home and discovers alky brother and possibly druggy friend living in HIS house.  At the end of the day it's your mother's choice.  Tell her what you think and say if it all goes wrong, YOU don't want to pick up the pieces.

bluebellbkk · Answer

I'm sorry for the dog. It won't understand why it's being banished to live outside in the cold, and will think it's done something wrong. It is cruel to puzzle and confuse an animal.

I care · Answer

All one can do is share your love and concern and let her take it from there.
She truly needs to rethink this situation as it could lead into longer stays in her home.

Pearl L · Answer

not much you can do about it, its her house

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Mother in-law considering letting her son's friend move in with them?

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