Boyfriend seems inside himself and uncomfortable?

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I've been doing personal video diaries before my boyfriend and I met 4 years ago, something I confessed to him was a hobby of mine to cope with life and things going on.
In light of the Covid pandemic and us being home together more often, he INSISTED we do video blogs together, and I said SURE.

However, he has nothing to say and he said he is extremely uncomfortable seeing himself on camera. I NEVER forced him to do the video diaries, which NO ONE will EVER see, but it seems a little more deep rooted than him not liking the way he looks on camera. He's very introverted and has nothing insightful to say or talk about.

When I tell I'm I decided to do my own videos by myself again since he doesn't like them, he gets offended that we didn't do more recordings together.
I do a lot of the personal recordings for myself to reflect on for the future and do a lot for coping/therapy outlet use for my video diaries, but my boyfriend won't tell me why he doesn't like talking on camera (FOR OUR PERSONAL USE) to talk about the pandemic and all that we're experiencing.

I don't care if he doesn't join me since it's always been my private project, but why is he so uncomfortable looking at himself and talking about what's going on??

Foofa · Answer

You need to decide whether to be girlfriend or a casting director on this one. If these vids were REALLY just about self exploration and purging of feelings it wouldn't matter how stiff he is on camera. Of course you can do your own videos without him because you're an individual at the end of the day and it's a form of mutual psychosis to believe that every single second of your life has to be shared with your partner. So just do your vids as you see fit. Do some with him as well if he indicates he likes doing that. But you're not acting like someone using technology to enhance your own emotional health...you're acting like Kris Jenner trying to force everyone in your life into being charming for the camera.

Anonymous · Answer

If he doesn't want to be on screen, maybe he can comment in the background. Allow him to say a sentence or two for a start, then as you go along he may agree to be on screen.
Not demand but rather suggest. Let him make the choice.

If you have to discuss about your project, do it after dinner or when he's enjoying his desert.

Nothing against your project but I personally find it strange, never heard of anyone doing personal recording for PERSONAL USE. I guess there's always a first time.

It's kinda waste of time, maybe that's what he feels and doesn't want to offend you. Think about it.

Just being neutral...

Pearl L · Answer

i would just talk to him about it

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