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Married Relationships ?

I have a wonderful girlfriend she is lovely in lovely in every way.

Sadly she lives apart from her husband for many reasons. 

When ever myself and my husband go on vacation she ask a multitude of questions when?  where? How much?    and when will I be back.

Whist we are away I feel like a child who is   about  to  be scolded knowing when I return there will be a fury of questions.

At times I feel like I dont ever want to tell her anything and I continually down play what we are doing

Every weekend she asks the same questions when are we getting together.

The other day I went out with a neighbour and My friend  found out  I avoided my friends calls for a few days and hoped she would have forgotten  when I eventually spoke to my friend the first question she ask was How was the meal? Where did you go? Her questioning was very sarcastic

 

Unfortunately many of my friends are unmarried I do try my best to share myself with friends and hubby .

I have recently returned from a one week vacation and during that time I felt uneasy and I felt like I was preparing in my head the answers ready to give her on my return 

This particular friend I cant work out why she behaves in this way?

What should I do?  Advise please 

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  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    9 months ago

    This particular friend sounds draining. Maybe have a serious conversation with her about how she's driving you away. But if she can't manage her own life without trying to live vicariously through yours you may need to just let her go. 

  • Ocimom
    Lv 7
    9 months ago

    Stop associating with her, ignore phone calls, texts, etc.  Block all contact with her.

  • Dave
    Lv 5
    9 months ago

    "Thou shalt not commit adultery" (7th Commandment).

  • 9 months ago

    Sounds like a jealous friend.  If you can even call her a friend.  What makes her a friend to you?  Does she help you?  provide favors in times of need?  Is she there for you when you need help or someone to talk to or anything like that?  If not and all she is in it for is to be upset that you are not spending more time with her as you have other family and friends to spend time with as well, then maybe time to let her go.

    Or, discuss with her the issues or problems that you have with her.  Maybe she doesn't realize she's being that way.  Maybe she doesn't realize she is pushing you away.  She might be a jealous friend but after a discussion about the situation, maybe she will realize that is probably not the best way to handle friendships.

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  • edward
    Lv 7
    9 months ago

    this post makes no sense...you have a wonderful girlfriend who is lovely in every way...SHE IS CHEATING ON HER HUSBAND!  she is not lovely in every way.  if she wants to be apart from her husband and have boyfriends she should get a divorce, they exist these days.  

    then apparently you have a husband who is a woman that asks you questions.

    and then a friend who is not your friend...you need to figure out what kind of story i'm getting here

  • Helen
    Lv 7
    9 months ago

    She isn't your friend.

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