Very Nice Girlfriend... But?

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Met her two years ago on Instagram. I'm in LA, she's in Singapore. 1st met last year for a week, everything went smoothly. I noticed, she spent more than what she does. ie. has Apple products worth about over $3000, she makes $2000/month. Knowingly she is living on the edge, so I paid for all for our short met.

Her habit didn't change. Don't get me wrong, she is very generous. She bought me a $100 bag which I never asked or needed, but confused and accepted. 
And..she lost her job recently. Her work permit ended. Needed tooth extraction, I paid it all $700. She went to interview, sounded solid, so she looked for a new place to live, for herself and parents. Lander demanded lump-sum of $3000+, she borrowed from someone and paid. Job didn't turn as expected, now the loaner wants the money back, she already paid to her landlord. Has $1500 in her account. Been crying river.Very good heart, probably the best. but don't know where she is when comes to spending and money. Would spend it all if she could, not afraid of hide. I am total opposite, I saved up to where I wanted to be. Never been negative since I was a student. I can almost retire now, have half a mil house, no mortgage, six-fig in liquid. but seems like my asset won't last with her in my life if I want to move on with our relationship.

Please advice. Thanks.

Foofa · Answer

That's not a "very nice girlfriend", that's a gold digger.

Dirty Donney · Answer

"Virtual Dating" isn't having a "Girlfriend". Just because I jack off over some internet porn sIut doesn't mean I'm dating her.

Edna · Answer

You don't have a "girlfriend", because she lives in Singapore and you live in LA. You "met' her 2 years ago on Instagram, and you finally met her in person, for only one week, last year. That's not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
How she spends her money or how deeply in debt she is are none of your business. You're not engaged to her and you have no plans to marry her.
What kind of "advice" do you want? You've already loaned her $700. Don't loan her any more money.

Ocimom · Answer

Sorry but she is scamming you for more and more money.  I would cut her off $$$ and block and don't talk to her any more.  She will end up finding someone else to be her ATM and get money from them.

Anonymous · Answer

Dump her fast. You are being used for money.

Anonymous · Answer

I've read your questions.  You have issues both in your relationship with "her" and in your own life.  Problem #1 - seems odd to me that you can barely write in English, claim to make $96,000 a year, may or may not be divorced, may or may not have children, she is "not afraid of hide."

At this point her $3,000 in Apple products are one of your business.  You paid for all for your short "met."  Do you mean meet?  You expected HER to pay the expenses?

Talk to your therapist about your confusion.

Anonymous · Answer

Dude, wake up and smell the catfish. You're an idiot if you think she's not doing the exact same thing to 4 or 6 other guys. Cut her off or we'll be seeing u on Dr. Phil saying, "Boy, was I stupid!"

CrustyCurmudgeon · Answer

You're the mark, she's the con.

Archer · Answer

You did what you were expected to do now didn't you!

Leafsfan29-Embrace the drought! · Answer

You're getting scammed but by all means keep throwing your money away.

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