My bf thinks I don't put enough effort into sex but doesn't make me ***?

Unless he's getting you off orally every single time before he even tries for penetration you can tell him the same. 

Time for a new BF...sex is to bew enjoyed by both not just him. Dump him.

Talk to him about it. He may get a little offended by it, because some guys just have a s***ty ego about that kind of stuff, but that doesn't mean it's any less true or that you're any less deserving of him putting in more effort. Just talk about it casually and calmly and talk about coming up with some sort of solution together. That may mean that you two just need to do a little more experimenting. You know your body far better than he does, so use that to your advantage. Point him in the right direction, and make it clear when he's doing something right or when things are uncomfortable. Try different positions, and find the ones that feel bets for you. To be honest, pretty much any position is going to feel great for him, so he most likely isn't going to take any issue with trying different ones. Also, foreplay is a HUGE part involved in getting a woman off. That's not going to be the case for all women, of course, but it may be for you. Again, try different things with that, let him know what feels great and what doesn't, and eventually he'll improve once he gets to know your body better and you both figure out what you like. Trying different positions is also great because it gives him the opportunity to figure out angles and stuff. Despite what a lot of guys think, just straight up going in and out doesn't do jack all for a lot of girls. Like I said, just experiment with it. I get your shy and stuff, but he's your boyfriend so you really shouldn't feel the need to be shy around him with this stuff. I mean, you're already naked and 'doing it', and there's nothing more vulnerable than that so you have nothing to worry about. Open communication is kind of important for a healthy relationship, and if he's not aware of what you're thinking or what's bothering you, because he's not a mind reader, you have to let him know so he can adjust and solve the issue. You can even work this stuff into sex, in like a 'dirty talk' kind of way. Tell him what you want, ask him to do certain things, and when he does something good then respond accordingly by saying 'right there' or 'don't stop'. If he's smart, he'll follow your instructions and learn from them for the next time. You don't have to degrade or shame him in order to get your point across. Just be like, "Hey man, I like having sex with you, but I'm not getting off and I think we should both work on it and try some new things so that we can both have more fun." or something along those lines. I know that a lot of guys like to think of themselves as leaders or alphas or whatever bull crap like that, but they do much better when you're direct with them and tell them what needs to be done. Guys are far better at following instructions than just being left to figure things out on their own otherwise they'll just assume there's no problem. If you can go about it by letting him know that you're not trying to emasculate him or anything, your relationship will probably improve overall just from this one thing. Just tell him not to get angry with you about it because it may not straight up be any one persons fault, and you guys just haven't found your rhythm yet. 

Look the nature of male and female is that the male can climax much faster than the female. 

So since 'a convoy moves as fast as its slowest ship', this means it's the man's job to SLOW DOWN enough, and pay attention enough, and have consideration for his woman enough, for her to be ready to climax before or when he enters her.

Your mannie is not doing that, which means it's his fault. 

Of course he need to take interest in making you ***. 

Sorry to tell you this, but it means he's a dud. This will never improve. He is too selfish and ignorant. 

The only solution, sexual-wise, is to find a guy - probably an older more experience guy - who knows and cares what he's doing. 

If you decide to continue the relationship for non-sexual reasons, the sexual problem will dog it. 

Rather then give your reason for not being on top you keep it from him, why? Just tell him the reason because he thinks your lazy instead having no incentive to do it.

@kiss I would assume he knows because we finish having sex when he cums and I've never acted like I'm cummimg or said I was 

Does he know you don’t finish? Have you talked to him about it? Many guys I know, I’m 17, they don’t notice if a girl finishes or sometimes they do not even care. It’s a conversation that is needed. It’s not just about him, it’s about you as well.

Encourage him during sex , tell him what you do and do not like. Reassure him with the things he does well and make sure he knows the things he could work on or things you simply

Don’t like at all.