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My boyfreind has never told me he likes me body do I need to work out ?
So I have been with my current bf for approx 9 months I can't recall him ever saying he likes my body but what he does say ALOT is that I need to work out I asked him why and he says it's cause I don't have energy but I don't believe it especially because he follows excessive amounts sexy fitness girls on instagram and his ex was very fit I'm not very fit I'm a little chubby but can look really good on certain angles he also has said i was skinnier when I met him witch may sort of be true I mean my weight fluctuates but I don't think I've generally gained weight I think he may think that because when we first met I would always get done up too see him and now I don't and I let him see my "ugly" side because I thought he understood I'm still the same it's just smoke and mirrors but maybe I have gained weight and haven't realised... Anyways here is a collage of me natural not possing VS a photo of my best angels be honest or don't comment do I need to work out or am I good? The ones in pink arent possing the other one is
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- FoofaLv 71 month ago
It's easy enough to see if you've gained weight by stepping onto a scale. Also your clothes usually don't fit the way they're supposed to. But people are either in touch with their bodies and pay attention to conditioning and weight gain or they're not. If he's the former and you're the latter this may be a hurdle that the relationship can't overcome. It's not just about vanity. It's that if someone makes an effort to eat right and take care of themselves they're probably not a good match to someone who doesn't care about any of that.
- bubulaLv 61 month ago
I'm not looking at your photos. I'm reading what you've said. You have a boyfriend who wants to change you and is obsessed with your appearance. That's shallow and controlling and indicates a lack of respect that you are inexplicably willing to tolerate. Only someone with poor self esteem would continue a relationship like this. Please reconsider. If you decide you want to work out, do it for yourself, not out of desperation to hold on to somebody. And if you don't want to work out, don't. This is entirely your decision, not his. His obsession with your appearance also reflects poorly on his self esteem--he isn't interested so much in who you are and how you relate to him, but in how others judge him when they see the two of you together. As I said, shallow. And controlling.
Best of luck.
