Do Christians really want to be with Jesus ? Then why aren't they behaving as he wants?

John 14:21 

He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.

They gave up any idea of a loving god long ago and now just practice their terrible intolerance, hatred, bigotry, homophobia and persecution towards others‽

"If Christ were here now there is one thing he would not be -- a Christian." Mark Twain

All i can do is do my best to be like Jesus i still sin and i am saved if at all by his grace unmerited unearned undeserved favor. also we are to never give up we are to try to do the will of God in our lives as long as we live. we are saved by the love of Jesus and his grace. Thanks for the question.

some of them are acting like him but theyre rare

You mean, like the jehovah's witnesses protecting pedophiles?

How can they when they don't believe "It is GOD working in us" (Philippians 2:13) after we receive His (((POWER))) that comes upon us" (Acts 1:8) after Holy Spirit baptism (Acts 1:5) 

Is how we "join to His Spirit" (I Corinthians 6:17) so He can "give commandments through the Holy Ghost to those He's chosen" (Acts 1:2)?

Afterwards, "His Spirit dwells inside of us" (Romans 8:9) ((("CAUSING))) us to obey His commandments" (Ezekiel 36:27).

Unfortunately, today's Christians are still "reading the letter" (II Corinthians 3:6) thinking their catholic written "Bibles" are "the infallible Word of God."

They've missed the mark with all those LIES entwined.

GOOD LUCK because that's all you have! 

The book of James essentially speaks of unregenerated pew warmers. These are those who attend congregations, but they do not have the Spirit. No Spirit = no regeneration. If the Spirit was given to them, the natural result of the indwelling would be the produce of the Spirit of God, which are good things, and a natural desire to obey Him. If His ways are grievous to a person, and the person is walking in rebellion, then that person is not yet made in alignment with Him, and that is the role that the Holy Spirit accomplishes within us, making us compatible with God, and in alignment. So it's not about trying to follow rules that our hearts do not desire to follow, because the solution that God has given to mankind is not merely following rules, but the giving of His Spirit impresses His own desires on our hearts, so that what was unnatural to us, is now natural to us.... and we have made peace with Him, and are no longer at enmity with Him. We are separated/set apart for God.... and we should no longer be walking according to the pattern of this world, which is largely still at enmity. 

Maybe they don't really believe.  After all, the Jesus story is totally bizarre.