melaniecampbell

Snobby sister-in-law- help!?

My husband and I have been having marital problems for a few years, mainly due to his being bipolar manic depressive (and unwilling to take meds or counselling). I have voiced concern to his family (sisters, parents) several times about his issues. His family claim they are very very close, yet his sisters have NOTHING to do with my husband (or our kids), unless it serves them somehow. Anyways, my husband was recently sent on a long business trip, and the day he left, his sisters started sending me emails questioning my commitment to their brother, questioning why I only work 30 hours a week ("Why don't you get a career or REAL JOB like the rest of us?"), why I am selling some furniture (we dont need it!), etc. They also have been saying things like "no wonder you and Chris have issues and stress- you don't DO anything."

I work 30 hours a week, home with the kids while my husband is gone 10 months a year, have two college diplomas, keep a clean house, and generally do my own thing. I don't ask them for help, I don't ask them to be friends. They always send messages to "all the girls in the family" on Facebook, about a shopping trip, movie night, etc- and NEVER ONCE have invited me. They take their kids for professional "the cousins" photos for my parent-in-laws, and never once have they included my children. They often host parties, and I never get an invite. I have never ever done anything nasty to these women. I have an entirely different set of beliefs than they do, but I have never done anything snarky to them.

Once, at my bridal shower, my mother sat down in between my sister in laws- and they BOTH looked horrifed, then got up and moved to another set of chairs (my mother is schizophrenic, and she freaked out my in laws). At the wedding, they flat out refused to do photos with my family. I heard one of them say "talk about wrong side of the tracks!"

I grew up in a poor family, with a schizo mom and absentee father. I never had brand name, I always worked to buy my own items. These ladies have NEVER wanted for anything. My husband and I have always had hard times, due to his mental health issues, and my having to take care of him. My sister in laws always say things like "Well if you're so hard up why don't you stop spending money on tattoos." (I have three).

These are ladies who have "careers". They dress spotlessly, in pearls and heels, host wine parties, perfect homes, husbands, kids. They are the typical "perfect" lady. I am the opposite- sometimes I wear a comfy pair of jeans and a ratty tshirt around the house. Sometimes I buy baked goods for a party instead of doing it myself. I am frugal, have done several part time jobs to get by, only buy on sale, and they say I'm "on glue, drugs!" or I'm "a hippy dippy who needs to shake her head".

I am pretty happy with how I live my life- my kids are super happy, I am generally happy... our furniture is a bit worn, I don't always dress in the height of fashion, and I am far from perfect (I don't even try to be!).

I don't quite know how to deal with them. I don't even TRY to impress them or call to chat... though they constantly tell me how close they are, how much they value each other, etc. I know their brother and I have had major issues, but I feel like they just think I'm trash. I have never cared about what people thought of me, but for some reason they are really really getting to me. I know they talk about me, and how "weird" I am, and it just... is really upsetting me. My husband has talked to them about it, and they just say "So? What, are we supposed to pretend we LIKE her?!"... help! How can I deal with this, or get over it?

*I should say- about voicing concerns about their brother to them- I have asked them if they have noticed anything about his behavior, and asked what he was like before we got together. Or I will let them know what he has been up to, and to please let me know if they have concerns about him. They just say "He's always been weird." or something like that. Also, I don't call them because when I do, I get dumped on. I don't ask or try to be their friends, because if I say something like "wow it would be fun on a shopping trip!" they just laugh and say "Yeah it is fun." and never ever mention me going. They always title the facebook invites as "INVITATION ONLY SHOPPING TRIP!" or something like that. It's like they deliberately push me away before I even try. So, I have stopped trying. I'm only asking how I should deal with the little snide comments ("wrong side of the tracks", "i'm a hippy who needs a head shake" etc).

My husband and I have been having marital problems for a few years, mainly due to his being bipolar manic depressive (and unwilling to take meds or counselling). I have voiced concern to his family (sisters, parents) several times about his issues. His family claim they are very very close, yet his sisters have NOTHING to do with my husband (or our kids), unless it serves them somehow. Anyways, my husband was recently sent on a long business trip, and the day he left, his sisters started sending me emails questioning my commitment to their brother, questioning why I only work 30 hours a week ("Why don't you get a career or REAL JOB like the rest of us?"), why I am selling some furniture (we dont need it!), etc. They also have been saying things like "no wonder you and Chris have issues and stress- you don't DO anything."

I work 30 hours a week, home with the kids while my husband is gone 10 months a year, have two college diplomas, keep a clean house, and generally do my own thing. I don't ask them for help, I don't ask them to be friends. They always send messages to "all the girls in the family" on Facebook, about a shopping trip, movie night, etc- and NEVER ONCE have invited me. They take their kids for professional "the cousins" photos for my parent-in-laws, and never once have they included my children. They often host parties, and I never get an invite. I have never ever done anything nasty to these women. I have an entirely different set of beliefs than they do, but I have never done anything snarky to them.

Once, at my bridal shower, my mother sat down in between my sister in laws- and they BOTH looked horrifed, then got up and moved to another set of chairs (my mother is schizophrenic, and she freaked out my in laws). At the wedding, they flat out refused to do photos with my family. I heard one of them say "talk about wrong side of the tracks!"

I grew up in a poor family, with a schizo mom and absentee father. I never had brand name, I always worked to buy my own items. These ladies have NEVER wanted for anything. My husband and I have always had hard times, due to his mental health issues, and my having to take care of him. My sister in laws always say things like "Well if you're so hard up why don't you stop spending money on tattoos." (I have three).

These are ladies who have "careers". They dress spotlessly, in pearls and heels, host wine parties, perfect homes, husbands, kids. They are the typical "perfect" lady. I am the opposite- sometimes I wear a comfy pair of jeans and a ratty tshirt around the house. Sometimes I buy baked goods for a party instead of doing it myself. I am frugal, have done several part time jobs to get by, only buy on sale, and they say I'm "on glue, drugs!" or I'm "a hippy dippy who needs to shake her head".

I am pretty happy with how I live my life- my kids are super happy, I am generally happy... our furniture is a bit worn, I don't always dress in the height of fashion, and I am far from perfect (I don't even try to be!).

I don't quite know how to deal with them. I don't even TRY to impress them or call to chat... though they constantly tell me how close they are, how much they value each other, etc. I know their brother and I have had major issues, but I feel like they just think I'm trash. I have never cared about what people thought of me, but for some reason they are really really getting to me. I know they talk about me, and how "weird" I am, and it just... is really upsetting me. My husband has talked to them about it, and they just say "So? What, are we supposed to pretend we LIKE her?!"... help! How can I deal with this, or get over it?

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The case the expansion pack came in says it is compatible with the Sims 2 Double Deluxe. I have tried getting around that message to install, but it will not let me.

Any help with this would be appreciated.

My husband and I have had a really rough few years. Heres a bit of what happened:

he lived in the US for work for several months. When he came home, we moved somewhere really rural for his job. Very isolated- days at a time with nobody to talk to but the kids. Got married.

we got pregnant, and bought a house. After a year, he defaulted on the mortgage (in his name) and we lost the house. Our son was 1 at that time. My husband made over $60k a year and would not tell me where our money had gone. We had to leave our home and move into a mobile home- after 3 weeks of living a hotel. He left the kids and I alone there in an unfamilar town for the first four days- says he was embarrased. Went to counselling, which helped some. He went to individual counselling every week for 4 months (he lied- he only went twice, and told me he went every week for months). Sons school demands we go to family counselling, as husband is VERY harsh with my son (from a different relationship). Son has mentioned to a counsellor my husband screams and throws things a lot. Never hit us, but is very volatile. Husband says he will go- again goes twice then stops going.

got back together. Rented a nice house. He then got laid off his job. Couldn't afford the rental, moved into a trailer. Husband got new job. Moved into new rental in a new, also rural, town. Got evicted after 4 months- husband bounced rent and deposit cheques. Moved into a different rental. 5 months later, husband got fired for misconduct. Several months with no job- and again, "our" savings were missing- he had spent them on sport betting. Several thousand dollars of traffic fines to him for no license (it had been suspended and he hadnt told me). He didn't pay insurance, so our vehicles couldn't be used. Then, they got reposessed due to him not paying the bill. He had told me from day 1 all bills had been paid- everything was in his name as per his demands. I ask him to leave, and he punches holes in walls and freaks out. Gets in our illegal car (just before repo) and drives away- gets involved in police chase, gets sent to jail. I refuse to bail him out, so his mother does and brings him home.

I moved out with the children to a town about 4 hours away. He got a new job overseas and moved there. 3 months later, panicky phone call- he had been fired and was stuck overseas. I used the last $1100 that we had in a joint account to fly him home, as he told me he had several thousand dollars of his pay saved up. Turns out, he had about $400.

Company I worked for went bankrupt- I was out a job. He has been home for 2 months, and done nothing but watch tv. I work as much as I can. Still not enough to cover rent and utilities, let alone food. He claims to be applying for jobs online- I checked his history, and he has applied for two jobs in two months. Found an email from a potential employer- had offered him the job but he had declined. Now we are a month behind in our rent, and unable to pay APRILS rent tomorrow. We are going to be evicted. My bills were never late while he was gone.

I have asked him to leave and he threatened to either take the kids and "disappear" or that he would "make my life hell". I have tried to talk to his family, and they just sigh and say "we knew he had trouble, but theres nothing we can do if hes not willing to work on it."

My friends won't come over when he is here. He is miserable, always yelling at people and putting people down. He says he has a job in another province that he leaves for next week, but is REALLY pressuring me to move with him, with the children. I have said I don't want to, but he keeps making plans for it, talking about houses, kids schools- he even set up appointments at schools to sign up the kids. I keep saying I will think about it happening eventually but I don't want to go. He shrugs and keeps saying we have to. I keep saying he needs to be working, and not be here until he sorts himself out. He completely ignores anything I say- or just says "thats stupid. if I'm such an ******* why dont you leave?" UM- I HAVE left. He followed. He's not violent, really- he never lays a hand on us. He is about a foot taller than me, and likes to stand over me, telling me I dont care about him and I should think about how my actions affect him.

I'm at my wits end. I am PRAYING he is gone next week for the supposed job, but I don't know how to get him to willingly leave if this job doesn't pan out. I don't know how to get him to see how reckless he is. I've never been in a bad relationship- but I have been with him for almost 8 years and don't know what to DO. Help!

I signed a lease for a great house. I gave the landlord a $1000 rent deposit, in the form of a certified cheque. I also sent the cheque to her via courier, signature on delivery. She emailed me before I had sent the cheque (I didnt get the email till later) saying she had decided not to rent the house after all.

I tried to stop the courier from delivering the cheque, but it was too late. The landlady said she would return the package as soon as she got it (she sent me an email).

A few days later she sent me another email saying she had received a package from me (the cheque) and asked where I wanted it mailed to. I replied I wanted it sent back to the address on the package, and put the address in a PHONE message, and EMAIL, and another certified letter.

I never eceived the cheque back. That was over a month ago. I emailed her several times, no response. I emailed her again today, and told her I was contacting the federal police if I didn't get the deposit back. She sent me an email right away, saying she wanted to call the police beforehand to explain why she didn't send it back. She will NOT tell me if she cashed it or not (she did), and will not tell me what she has "to explain".

She also will not accept any phone calls from me. She cancelled the lease I had with her, because she says her job in another country fell through, and she no longer wants to move. But then sitll cashed the cheque.

Should I get a lawyer, or just contact the police to have them handle it? I told her I was going to be contacting the OPP (provincial police) as well as the federal government. She seems like she is panicking now.

I bought the perk- the blue heart with the smily face on it. It shows up on my game screen, bottom right corner, with a circle beside it- I press the circle button, and it shows me a blue screen with the word "activate" on the left, and the description of the cheat on the right. I press "X" to activate, but it doesn't do anything.

How can I use this cheat perk? Also, how can I keep my sanity full? It keeps dropping really fast and I can't win any social games...........

you write a cheque, post dated, and it is accepted as post dated payment. You are expecting your paycheque to be in your account to civer said cheque (say, a utility bill). Your paycheque gets held up for some reason, the cheque bounces. Is it fraud, because you couldn't cover the cheque?

I pay rent by cheque. I wrote a rent cheque with not enough in my account to cover it on the date I had written it (not the date it was dated for). I expected my pay to be in my account, but it got held up an additional 2 weeks. Therefore, I could not cover the cheque and it bounced. My bank also had it flagged as suspicious, because the date on the cheque appeared altered. I wrote it for Oct 11, the date on it looked altered to Oct 01. IT tried clearing my account the day before it was written. Landlord says his bank only did a verbal inquiry into the cheque and status of our account, but that he did not cash it. We got charged an NSF. And he HAD to have cashed it early-- it tried clearing our account the day before the post date.

HE is trying to threaten me if he doesn't get $1000 cash within the next 2 weeks he will charge me with cheque fraud and take me to court for the full amount of the rent for a full lease term (1 year, I had not moved into the house or gotten keys when the landlord started threats and 20+ phone calls to me a day). I told him I did not want to live in his house if he is threatening to sue me, and screaming at me 20+ times a day on the phone.

So, did I unknowingly commit fraud? I know now that I should have had the funds in there and not used a post dated cheque, but I honestly expected the pay to be in my account to cover the cheque WELL before it was dated for. I also had emailed and called him asking him to hold the cheque until I let him know the funds were in my account, but he said no. I told him I wanted the cheque held JUST as a deposit, and when the funds were in my account I would let him know to deposit the cheque. He said no, he would cash it regardless.

My husband works overseas 10 months a year. Wanted to move to the city. I found a house, called the landlord. Explained to him that my husband would be gone, it would just be my kids and I. He was fine with it. I also found out he knew my father in law, and my sister in law. I told him that my husbands pay gets direct deposited into our bank account, but that there would be a delay with the deposit due to a change in banking info. He was fine with it. He sent me a lease to sign, as well as requested 3 months rent upfront, as the first two months and last month deposit. (that was written into the lease).

I waited a few days to sign the lease, as my husbands pay was due to our account. I gave notice at our current rental, and called the new landlord to inform him I had signed the lease, and was just waiting on my husbands pay being deposited. He said if he didn't have proof I had mailed the lease and a postdated cheque for $3750 within 3 days, the lease was null and void, and he would rent it to someone else.

I signed the lease & cheque, mailed it to him. The cheque was post dated for 8 days later, which should have given us plently of time for my husbands deposit to be in our account. When I saw his deposit would not reach our account in time to clear the cheque (international funds got screened before deposit), I emailed and called the new landlord, asking him to hold the cheque for a few days so it wouldn't bounce. He said no. I also informed him we would not expect posession of the house until the cheque had cleared. He went BONKERS at this point. Calling up to 22 times a day, saying he was driving up to our house 3 hours away, etc. I informed him at that point I wanted to cancel the lease- he was making me very nervous with his agression and threats.

HE again said no- that I has wasted his time and I was "Renting the damn house". Again with threats- he would "get what was his" and drive to our house, he would go after my father in law for money, etc.

He then sent a revised lease to me, with new dates, as well as my father in law (how he got his email address, work address and info is beyond me). My father in law refused to sign a lease- the landlord had all new lease terms, like cosignors, monthly inspections, cash rent only, etc.

We let him know we would not be moving into his house, as the situation with him was out of control. More threats of legal action, suing us, charging us with cheque fraud, etc. I again told him- we never took posession, we have no keys or means of entry, we had expectations of the $ being there to cover the cheque (our funds get held up in security checks, as they are from Asia, so it held them up verifying where they came from- this was because we had new banking info they needed to look into also). We also did not have a copy of the lease signed by the landlord, and we had several dozen emails of threats, agression. as well as voicemails, phone records, etc. We told him he wasn't being reasonable, and my husband tol dhim he did not feel okay with having us live in this guys house while he is at work in a different country. The guy told him to "**** himself" and hung up.

THEN he called back several times a day for TWO MORE WEEKS. We also found out in this time that he had done this sort of thing to other tenants, and had kicked some out for being like an HOUR late dropping off rent, as well as going into the house without permission, and has a turnover rate of a new tenant in this house every 4 months or so.

Also, our bank informed me that they had flagged our cheque to him as "altered", saying the date on it looked suspicious- I had written the cheque for October 11, it tried clearing our bank on October 10, and it looked like the date had been chaged to October 01. There is NO WAY it would have reached our bank ONE DAY BEFORE the date on it, and tried to clear. He sent me an email saying his bank had done a "verbal inquiry" into the funds in our account, and our bank had "given him the run around" about the funds. And that he did not cash the cheque early, his bank maybe had done it, not him. Our bank does NOT DO VERBAL INQUIRYS. They also stated that the date had been changed, and it would have been held even if the funds were there, as the date did not look right. I also still have the carbon copy of the cheque in my chequebook, with a date on it of October 11.

He emailed me last night (this is up over 150 emails from him in the last 6 weeks), saying he was having me charged with fraud unless I gave him $1000 by Friday. Cash.

What should I do? Pay him or fight it?

Here is what my husband has been like in the past 2 years---

fired from 2 jobs for lying and petty theft (saying he was home sick, but going to hockey, "borrowing" petty change from office, etc)

Going into rages- yelling and screaming and punching holes in walls, then an hour later being calm and happy, and acting like nothing happened

One day says he loves a book, the next day raging about how he hates it

Saying he hates people, randomly and without reason

Saying our one child is "such a perfect kid" and saying the other one "is a pain in the *** and has something wrong with him"

Spends days without barely talking to anyone

Lying about money- saying he got paid for small jobs he does, but not having the $ and no proof he got paid

Saying he called someone and talked to them- when I check with that person, they say they havent talked to him

Saying he did the laundry, then finding it still in the laundry room closet

Barely sleeping- maybe like 4 hours a day, tops.

Lying on the couch all day and watching tv, then going into a total rage if asked to do something

Says he took the dog for a walk to get out of the house, but when I ask him where the leash is, he will say "oh, i dont know i put it down by the door"-- (it was with me in my car all day)

Refusing to talk to family, and totally alienating my family, too- will send them emails saying "we" no longer want them in our lives

Says he went to the bank and deposited a cheque of mine, but the bank has no proof of it. Then when I ask him about it, he says they must have lost it, not his fault.

Avoiding phone calls except from his hockey buddies, to talk about hockey- that's literally ALL he is interested in lately

Will tell people he works as a consultant and makes $200 grand a year- when really he is home on the couch all day, unemployed.

He says if I leave him he will fight me for the kids, and make my life hell

Has gotten THOUSANDS of dollars in traffic tickets lately- mainly due to him not registering our van, not paying tickets, having suspended license, telling me he paid the car insurance but not doing so, etc. he also stole a license plate from our neighbors car, because we didnt haver any on our new van, which is now impounded due to this issue.

Will NOT accept responsibility for anything- says everyone hates him, I hate him, I want him to leave, etc. It is NEVER his fault, according to him.

Admits he lies to me constantly, he "doesnt know why"

I am at my wits end. I have found a new place to live for the kids and I, and will be leaving within a month. HE just seems so unstable, it's really freaking me out. I wish I could deal, because I love him, but the past 3 years have been hell. He REFUSES to get help, says our relationship is "awesome, why would we need help??".

Do you have any idea what could be wrong??? If I find something online to show him, to try to convince him to seek help, it would be great. I also have an appointment for the kids and I to see a counsellor next week.

thanks.

I signed a lease on a 4 bedroom house, with a rent of $1400 per month.

We added a provision in the lease stating that a $1000 deposit would be paid to hold the property until my husbands first pay from his new job came in. His pay is from an international company, so sometimes the pay takes a few days to come in. We informed the landlord his pay wasn't in yet, and she said she understood about international funds, she had run into that issue before. She said as long as we gave her copies of ID, a letter of employment, and a deposit, she would hold the house until mid November.

We had a tenative move in date of Oct 31, in case hubbys pay came in in time. I also sent her a certified cheque for a months rent, as a deposit to hold the house, as agreed upon.

I had talked to her last weekend, and told her we were sending her the deposit cheque, and were still waiting on my husbands pay. She said again, she needed a deposit, and then it would be fine until hubbys pay came in. She also left a voicemail Wendesday saying the cheque MUST be certified to be cashable immediately.

The next day I sent her the cheque (confirmation of delivery, trackable, insured). I immediately emailed her the tracking info.

I checked my email when I came home. There was an email from her from before I sent the cheque--- something to this effect---

You have not delivered upon any promises for payment of moving in. I have decided not to rent the house, and will not be moving. You will need to find something else, Any cheques you have sent to me will be redirected back to you, and as I did not sign the lease you did, it is not valid. This is disappointing as I thought you were legit. Please consider this a notice to have no further contact with me, do not send any more money, this deal is off. I wish you luck.

(*keep in mind this is THREE DAYS before we were due to take posession of it).

We had been in very close contact the past 2 weeks, she was well informed on us waiting for hubbys pay, and she got a certified cheque deposit. We had movers booked, schools booked for kids, mail redirected, everything set up, and now we haven't got a place to go. On top of that, we have sold our house, closing date of November 10. We thought we had bases covered, apparently not.

can a landlord do this? Just cancel a lease before we take posession, even though she totally agreed to hold off on us moving in with a deposit, which we provided for her. I'm confused as to how a landlord can just say "Ah, I changed my mind and won't be moving out now." We are kind of screwed. Also, I have noticed where we live there are such shitty landlords, who demand unrealistic things (half year rent upfront, 3 cosignors, copies of each family members ID, police checks, etc.). There doesn't seem to be any way to really fight landlords or to say no to demands without being screwed around by a landlord (this is the second time a deal has fallen through with us the past month- once because of the reasons I gave re: cosignors, ID, 6 months rent upfront, etc) and now this with the lady landlord. Also, one landlord started calling us 20 times a day screaming at us he wanted money immediately and we had told him we were interested, and then not interested, and he was "going to get what was due to him"... It's not like we are looking at crappy ghetto low rent houses, we are looking at up to $2000 a month rent, nice houses in nice areas. What is up with crappy landlords?!

My husband got a contract job in India working for a major corporation. He has been under contract with them for a month now. They assured him they would have him paid within a week (that was 3 weeks ago). then, they promised us last week, then this week- they said they called the Canadian govt and the wire transfer for pay had been held up by the Canadian government, due to it being a large sum of $ (over $10000).

I am wondering what the usual timing is for a wire transfer from INDIA into Canada. How long does it usually take to clear into our bank? They tell us they sent it October 7 and it is still not here. They told us they are tracing the money, but I am really getting worried- it is our only source of income right now, and we are SCREWED without it.

It would make me feel better if I could find out how long these transfers usually take. Thanks.

I signed a lease for a house, to be effective October 15.

I was due to receive my pay for a contract, it was to be deposited into my account October 11. I wrote the landlord a cheque for a rent deposit for October 11, because I had been assured my pay would be in my account.

When I found out my pay hadn't been put into my account in time (the 11th was a stat holiday), I called him and emailed him immediately to hold the cheque until the next day. However, he had deposited the postdated cheque a week early, so it bounced from my account. He also told me his bank only did a VERBAL check to see if the funds were in- that he never cashed the cheque (he DID, AND it seems he changed the date on the cheque, and my bank flagged it "suspicious" and held it. I have a carbon copy as proof the date was altered).

He called me screaming at me saying I was screwing him over, and that he was going to sue me for breach of lease. I understand he was upset about not being paid onthe 11th, but there was nothing I could do.

In the past week, he has emailed me no less than 20 times, threatening to sue and charge me with fraud, since the funds weren't in the account when I wrote the cheque. (I assumed they would be).

He keeps emailing me saying he is still advertising it for rent, while I was under contract for the house, as he hadn't been paid yet.

He sent us a new lease this weekend, with new dates and clauses- monthly inspections on the house, legal cosignors, and other things not in the original lease. I refused to sign it. I told him to send it to me originally, but when I saw the changes, I decided I was no longer interested in the BS from the landlord. So the landlord emailed a copy of the lease to my father, asking him to sign it (he tracked him down for his email address online). My father called me asking what the hell was going on, and had signed it but not sent it back. I told him to rip it up and NOT TO SEND it. So he shredded it.

the landlord called me this morning, and said we have until the evening to decide what to do. If we don't take the house, he is suing us for a month rent ($1250)-- but, the first month rent was only for half a month (15th of oct on).

He is really making this hell. I do NOT want to move into that house now, because he is a nightmare to deal with. We have also asked around, and it turns out almost all his tenants get evicted after paying first & last months rent. Also turns out he has been involved in a LOT of fraud cases against tenants (suing tenants for fraud).

Since he sent us a new lease different from the one we signed, is the first lease void? Also, can he sue since the first lease is void (because of the second lease?)?? I am REALLY not interested in renting this house anymore- he keeps telling me he can "get me out of the house if I cause any more trouble to him".

I am contacting a lawyer this afternoon with all the emails and leases.

I am flying to India in November with a friend of mine, and my two kids- my husband is working in India for a year.

anyways, I want to see a bit of the world while I am able to- I would love to, on our way to New Delhi, stop over somewhere for about 2 days- I know flights to New Delhi stop in Amsterdam, Paris, London. I would LOVE to stop in Paris.

How can I find flights that allow us to do this? And will I need visitor visas for wherever we stop?

I met a woman about a year ago, and we became friends. (She posted an ad on a local classified site saying her and her husband and baby were new to the area, I responded, we got along well).

The problem is, the past few months, she has gone from being very quiet, easy going and relaxed to very uptight, harsh and judgemental.

She used to bring her daughter over to our house (she's like 16 months now). Now she suddenly won't- she says our dog makes her nervous (this is a new thing the past 3 months or so).

She used to always tell me to stop by anytime- then when I did one day, she flipped out- said I should have let her know, she wasn't dressed for company, and that I was really stopping by at a time when she didn't appreciate company (between 8am-10am, then between 12-2pm, then anytime after 4 pm aren't "acceptable" times to stop by).

When my husband got a new job, and I told her about it, she told me she didn't feel that he should be travelling for work, as he had a family he needed to think about before himself. Also when she asked about his salary and I tried explaining how his pay worked, she told me she had trouble believing me he would "make so much and so randomly". And that she couldn't make sense of it, so she didn't believe me.

When she dropped off a bag of kids clothes for my daughter, a few things weren't needed. When I dropped off some clothes at her place for HER daughter, a few of the pieces she had given me were in there. She FLEW off the handle and told me if I didn't appreciate the items, she wouldn't give them to me.

We are having a yard sale together this weekend, and when she found out I invited a few other families on the street to join in (in their yards), she said it was "tacky and inappropriate" of me to do so- that she felt like her yard sale prep was going to be taken advantage of.

When we were shopping one day, she picked up an item that was under a sign "proudly made in the USA". The tag in the item said "made in Nepal" and she asked to see the manager, complained to him she was being ripped off in her rights to seek out country made items and she wanted it to end in their store IMMEDIATELY.

When I saw her walking downtown when I was in a shop, I ran out and said hello, and she said "Oh, hi. I see you're sitting in the coffee shop again... how nice for you." She won't go into that coffee shop because they don't regularly have almond milk for her coffee instead of cream or real milk. She says its an infringement of her comfort and right to go non-dairy.

She has become this idealistic person who imagines everyone and everything in her life should be perfect and socially perfect. She admits she has a hard time making friends, and keeping them. I think after this weekend I am going to cut it off with her, I am done being criticized and made to feel like someone she thinks is "tacky". I am a pretty laid back person, and I don't stress about much. It stresses me out when I think about what she is going to think or say about what I do/say.

My question is- how do you distance yourself from someone without making things really estranged? We live in a small town, and our husbands know each other quite well. I'm not sure if I should just stop contacting her, and not respond to her emails, messages? I haven't EVER had to "break up" with a friend- most people I am friends with I have been for YEARS, so I don't know how to just cut out a "friend" from my life. Help!

Acquaintences of ours are breeders of pedigree Bulldogs.

They sell the pups for $2200 each.

They had a litter of pups in June. We visited several times with the pups. They sold them all very quickly.

About a week later (pups age 8+weeks), a family returned one of the pups. Our friends asked us if we could foster her until they found her a new home, and that they were not refunding the owners the $ for the pup (as per their contract with them).

We took the pup. We also told everyone she was up for sale again, and took her with us to ball, market, everywhere- handing out the breeders card when people showed interest in her.

We had her for 2 weeks. We told the breeder that if they didnt find a home for her, we would keep her. They said they wanted another $2000 for her. We said no, unlessthey were refunding the original owners the $.

A friend of ours wanted to buy the pup. We tried working with her for 2 days tocome to a suitable payment arrangement, but last minute she backed out because she felt it was too much $ for her to spend. So, back to square one finding the pup a home.

The breeders told us that they were refunding the original owners $1000, and once the pup was sold again, we would get half of any $ over that $1000.

Last week, we came home to find that the breeders had lefvt a note on our door- they had used the spare key we had hidden, came into our home, and took the pup- they had sold her while we were out for dinner. We were VERY shocked to come home and find the pup GONE. They said that when they opened the door, the puppy ran out to them, and they relocked the door and never entered the house (which is crap, because mysteriously, all her toys and her bed are gone).

They sold her for $1700. Which means, as per our agreement, I should be entitled to $350. Now, they are saying they have to check with a lawyer to see if they have to give us that $, since we didn't sell her (there was NO mention of our deal being contingent upon our selling the pup, as WE were not the breeders, holders of pedigree papers, and could not accept $ for the pup OR set a price.).

We feel VERY taken advantage of, and I am VERY upset by how everything happened. What should I do about this? I have explained our feelings about this to the breeder, and he just shrugged his shoulders and said it was a "last minute sale" and he couldnt get hold of me. I told him I was mad about him going into our home, which he totally denies- he says the pup ran out the door when he opened it (not possible, she was baby gated into our kitchen with her toys).

I am unsure hwo to deal with this. I do want the $ as per our arrangement, and I am even more adamant about it now, based on the guy lying and now back tracking about it.

I am in CANADA. I am looking to buy a used CRICUT machine- CRICUT expression. The cheapest ones I can find are $200. I don't want to buy one on Ebay. I am looking for a website that sells them and ships them to Canada. Any links where I can look for a cricut for under $150??????

After years of Bs, financial mental and emotional abuse, I have decided to leave my husband. I have fouind a place to live far away, and will be on welfare until my job starts in November.

I have a few questions about child support. My soon to be ex, makes about 66 thousand after tax, per year. his expenses per month will be about $1600 per month. We have one child together, who is 3, and a son who is 8 (mine from a previous relationship, whose father is court ordered to pay support but he never does).

What amount of support is generally recommended for an income of 66 thousand dollars per year, and will he have to pay support for my son (who was 2 when my husband and I moved in together). I just want to get an idea of what to expect.

Also, for custody- my husband has many, many financial issues, may be losing his job due to driving with revoked license, stolen plates, unregistered car, no insurance, thousands of $ in fines in the last 3 months. I also have letters from several people, including a therapist, stating that my husband has severe emotional issues, and severe stress management and rage issues. HE told me that he will be fighting me for custody and that I will NOT take his kids from him. I don't feel safe or comfortable leaving the kids with him NOW because of his rage issues (he has never hit the kids- only intimidation and screaming). I sure as hell don't want him taking them overnight or anything because he has also told me if I ever left he would take the kids on his weekend and I would never see them again.

Any advice on how to deal with this? I have a lawyer I am seeing Friday, a restraining order on my husband, and a house lined up for August 15th move in date.

Thanks.

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I took out a payday loan in November from the Cash Store. It was for $200. I paid an extra $6 for loan insurance in case I lost my job (volatile job market). Well about a week later i did lose my job.

I called the cash store and told them what happened. They asked for my Record of Employment. I scanned it and emailed it in to them. I got an email back from the manager saying she received the ROE.

About 3 weeks later, they called me again. Said they had more paperwork I needed to fill out. I asked them to email it to me, which they did. I could not open the file. I went into the store FOUR times asking for the actual paperwork. The woman working told me she did not have access to my file at that time and to try back when the manager was in.

I went back a few times, and the manager was never there. Once they asked me to wait for her. I waited for an HOUR (with a 9 month old baby in December) for her but she didn't come back to work.

I didn't hear anything from them for several months. However, in that time, they had tried to take the loan amount out of my bank account 4 times (I never used that account, so it had no funds in it). I got charged $47 each time for non sufficent funds. EACH time it tried to come out I called the store and asked them to stop trying to remove it from my bank, as I had submitted my ROE and had paid for loan insurance. The woman at the store told me that the old manager in charge of my file had been fired. She would "See what she could do" for me. also during this week, someone from head office of the Cash Store had called me to inform me that I had an outstanding loan. I explained everything that had happened, and he apologized and said he would call me back later that day to tell me if he could find anything out. He never called back.

Then Friday I went back into the store to ask about the status of the loan and my loan insurance. The new manager said the store no longer had the file as it had been sent to collections, so she could not tell me anything about it. I asked why I had not been informed it had been sent to collections, and she told me they had sent a letter stating it had been written off in their office and sent to a collections agency. I NEVER received a letter. Our neighbor delivers the mail and I asked her if she ever saw anything and she said no.

Yesterday (monday) I went back into the store to complain about how this was being handled. The new manager actually SHRUGGED her shoulders at me, telling me she didn't know what was going on. I asked her for the paperwork to fill out AGAIN and she said she no longer had my file, and "reminded" me she had told me that 3 days ago.

Yesterday evening, head office called me THREE times, hassling me about this. They said they had the paperwork, and needed it filled out AGAIN. I said I should not have to waste SO much of my time figuring this out and that I had paid more in bank fees than the loan was actually FOR. He said I didn't need to yella t him, he didn't need my attitude, and hung up on me. I called back and he answered. I asked to speak to his supervisor. HE put me on hold for 45 minutes. I finally got his supervisor, who told me I didn't need to "cop an attitude" with her workers. She also told me that "this is how we do our collections- you're the one in trouble here, not me!"

I finally got SO mad I screamed at her never to call my home again, that if they did I was going to press harassment charges. I hung up. 5 minutes later they called back and said they had emailed me the paperowkr, Ic oudl fill it in, and fax it back. They had found my ROE that I had submitted.

This morning, the guy called AGAIN. He told me he reviewed my file and denied my claim for loan insurance due to the fact I hadn't filed the paperwork in time. ?!?!?! I asked him what the hell he meant, and he said I would have needed to fill out the paperwork the week I took the loan- before it had come due to be paid. I lost my job like 2 days before it was due to be paid. HE told me it was past their deadline for insurance and the loan was due in full immediately or they would take me to court. I told him he could do that if he wanted to I would get a lawyer and fight it. He told me "Ha yeah right lady, I hear that ALLLLL the time! "

He told me to just pay it because I would spend more in lawyer fees than it was worth. I told him to NEVER call here again and hung up before I totally freaked out.

I am STEAMING mad about this. I didn't hear from them for MONTHS so I assumed it had been handled. Then they start calling several times a day threatening me and laughing at me and telling me to (oh this made me SO mad) "shut up and listen".

Is there ANY legal recourse I can take to fight them, or to press charges for harassment? I know I took out the loan in the first place, but I paid for loan insurance in case of job loss (w

Looking for a basic cornmeal muffin recipe that does not need any oil- I ran out and with my broken ankle can't walk to the store!

I have :

cornmeal

baking powder

about 1tbsp baking soda

margarine

pineapple

bananas

walnuts

eggs

milk

white sugar

Any muffin recipes that use only these items would be fantastic. Thank you.

My husband, as long as I have known him, is very obsessive, compulsive, tempermental and generally a moody guy. We've been together for 6 years. The past few months I can hardly stand being around him. It's almost like I have HAD IT with his moodiness. The kids and I walk on eggshells so as not to upset him. He berates us for talking too loudly, walking too loudly, not going to bed when he does, cooking something he doesn't like to eat... he comes home from work, doesn't even take off his boots, and falls asleep on the couch until dinner time. He bitches about WHATEVER dinner is, eats, then goes back to the couch for a nap. Then he wakes up, has a shower, and goes to bed. It's been this way for about a year. He is very quick to get angry over trivial things- the milk pitcher not being refilled, ice cubes not made, me asking him to do something for one of the kids (we have 2). He will not be alone with the kids, either. He goes away for baseball 2 nights a week, and one full weekend a month. He has signed up to go away for ball 3 weekends a month now. He took a second job without really discussing it with me.

I asked him if he was happy, and he said "Yeah, I have the best wife and kids in the world, even if you guys do make me a little crazy sometimes!". His friends always say he talks about the kids and I like we're the best people in the world. Yet, he does NOT interact with the kids hardly at all, unless forced to. He says maybe a dozen words to me when he is home, usually to ***** about me not doing something right. When the kids do something that pisses him off, his first reaction is to raise his fist and act like he's going to backhand them (usually our 8 yr old son, who is terrified of him.). Then he stops himself and just walks away. He has never hit any of us. But when he does get mad, the first thing he does is raise his fists. It's agressive and scary.

I really think he has some depression issues. Today was his first day home in 3 days (away for ball). The kids and I had a wonderful weekend- watched movies, went shopping, did crafts, cuddled and read books, etc. Within an HOUR of him being home, our son was upset and not talking, our daughter (shes 3) was baby talking (she speaks perfectly when he isnt home), and I was a nervous wreck. He brings with him this negativity, and the whole vibe of the house gets tense and sullen when he is around. I almost prefer him not to be here.

I have tried talking to him about all of this, and he brushes it off- "you never do anything wrong and I'm the bad guy alll the time, huh? Perfect you, and I'm an effing jackass." blah blah blah. Or- "You baby (our son) too much, He's got to toughen up. I'd never actually hit him."

I have been sitting here crying since he got home. He's just so overwhelming to be around. When he's not home, everyone is SO much more relaxed. Even our DOG is more relaxed and friendly. When he is home, she's bouncing around or hiding from him. When he's not, she is happy, friendly, listens better...

I am so scared that I am becomign depressed, I have gained 40 lbs in the past 6 months. Tonight I sat and ate a whole bag of cookies, I just couldn't stop. I can't sleep in the same bed as him, I just lie there and stare at the ceiling all night. I hardly sleep at all. I cry at everything- no mail in the box, my tv show isnt on, the jello didn't turn out right. I just lose it and cry. I NEVER cry in front of the kids, I don;t want them to freak out. At night I just sit and cry. Every night. I feel fat, worthless, lazt, ugly... too loud, I walk too loud, I can't cook, I don't spend enough quality time with my kids therefore Im a crappy mom... I just feel like I have nothing to give anyone. I feel empty and just tired and sad all the time. I love my husband, he CAN be a great guy (when he was previously on meds for depression). But I feel like the air gets sucked out of a room when he walks in. His depression is making ME depressed. Our son is now in therapy and is on meds for depression. He hardly talks to my husband and doesn't like being around him, while our daughter clings to him like glue.

How can I get my husband to see what his depression is doing to us?