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I need to change my yahoo email password, but can't find edit account info. Any help please?

He is putting his will and trust together, and brought home some papers for me to sign. usually I ask him, what it is all about, and sign without reading. I trust him. But this time it happened that after he explained to me, that this is a signature that he releases all bonds and stocks to our two under aged boys 50-50, and I am going to be a IRA primary beneficiary.

For some reason I felt pretty uncomfortable to sign this paper. I needed to know more information on how much we have in stocks and bonds, which I never knew after DH inherited some from his late relative a year ago. I also wanted to know how much id IRA. He answered those two questions of mine rather poorly, saying dumb I don;t know. Hmmm, I though, who should know then??

So I asked him to read the paper before I sign. To my surprised, the paper was IRA release to our two boys (my stepson and our son), as primary 50-50 beneficiaries.

I said, well excuse me honey, you have just said that the paper I am signing is stocks and bonds release.

He got pretty confused, saying that "there are two different IRA funds...

I am not as good in finance structure, never been.

That is why i said, listen, I have to hire an attorney to get understand how all this stocks and trusts and funds work.

He got very upset about it, saying literally: ok, you want divorce??? I work hard here trying to provide, and you have no trust in me??? And walk away.

A red flag?

I have great recipe of cookies made from scratch - ve-e-ery delisious, melt in the mouth:) Do people still care of a product made from scratch these days? Is it a "plus" or a "fuss"? I would really love to sell them, but not sure how to go about it.

It is a hollow plastic box with the handle on top...Do they make nice strong snow bricks?

we do not have any mutual respect here between my stepson and myself. Is this statement correct? I don't know. I think it is not true, but that is what my SS saying. I have never called him names or lessen his achievements, in my eyes I do respect him, all this h...he has to go thru with living in two houses. I point how smart he is and "good job" he is doing at school, and in sports. There is always tension between us, I don't know why. I want him to participate in family life by doing some not -time -consuming -chores, he gets so mad and raises his voice at me, that I do not have any idea how his life is hard and tense and he doesn't have 15 minutes to do simple things like to shovel a driveway. He says, I do it by my mom, I have to take care of her! Meaning: Do it yourself here. He is mentioning to me I do not care of his mom, who is a single parent. I said, listen, why should I care about snow on your mom's driveway? really why? maybe I should be wiser and say, hey I do care about your mom's driveway and your mom...? I get easily irritated by him lately. Hello, Love, where are you?? The way he is talking to me since he was 9 is unacceptable, like he is an adult and I am a child who needs to be tought what to do and how. I don't know what kind of respect he wants from me. I do respect him very much, and give a huge credit to him for many things. I think he is a cool kid! And I tell everyone so, I have a very nice stepson. But I am a human being too! anyone else here struggling with similar problems?

No suggestions please, how I have to be a friend, and how i have to treat him as my own, and all these other pictures of perfect stepfamily.

thank you for listening.

we do not have any mutual respect here between my stepson and myself. Is this statement correct? I don't know. i don't think so, but that is what my SS saying. I have never called him names or lessen his achievements, in my eyes I do respect him, all this h...he has to go with leaving in two houses. I point how smart he is and "good job" he is doing at school, and in sports. There is always tension between us, I don't know how melt it. I want him to participate in faimily life by doing some not -time -consuming -chores, he lights up and screams at me that I do not have any idea how his life is hard and tense and he doesn't have 15 minutes to do simple things like to shovel a drowsy. He says, I do it by my mom, I have to take care of her, and lets me to do the snow shoveling here. accusing me I do not care of his mom, who is a single parent. I said, listen, why should I care about snow on your mom's driveway? really why? maybe I should be wiser and say, hey I do care about your mom's driveway and your mom...? I get easily irritated by him lately. Hello, Love, where are you?? The way he is talking to me since he was 9 is unaccaptable, like he is an adult and I am a child who needs to be tought what to do and how. I don't know what kind of respect he wants from me. I do respect him very much, and give a huge credit to him for many things. I am a human being too! anyone else here struggling with similar problems?

No suggestions please, how i have to be a friend, and how i have to treat him as my own. I tried, but he gets nerve out of me by acting in reverse: I am a bad child, he is an adult who knows everything better.

it is getting annoying; each time we are having even slight disagreement, I hear this. Do you think it is polite to remind me that I am foreign here?

As a member of Y, I can invite up to 2 people for a day, but have to pay $4 for each person. So I invited 2 friends of mine to warm up in Y's sauna. They were happy to accept the invitation, but also expected me to pay for them.

What do you think, who is paying, them or I? I still think it's their own responcibility, although it is my invitation.

I just can imaging how many rough responses I can get, but it hurts so much I still feel I'd ask..

When I married my husband Boris, his 9 years old son came as a package of his and his ex 50-50 custody. I was not quite prepared for this since during their almost 4 years divorce it was pretty much obvious that Boris would never get custody of his son because of some sort of accusations his wife fabricated against him. But thank to a very powerful attorney and $000.000 in the very, to everyone's great surprise he won 50-50.

So here we were, angry ex, brainwashed and confused 10 years old, exhausted of divorce and all this fights husband, stepmom-to-be myself and our 3 years old baby boy, all trying to adjust to a new life: ex moves out of the house, we move in, 10 years old live with us everyother week. It was unberable difficult from the very beginning for everyone, and my heart full of compassion for my stepson especially, as an innocent victim of this life's masquerade.

Four years later: I couldn't manage to get trust of my stepson. Doesn't matter how hard I try I am a stranger for him who came to his home and took his father from his mother. I am a woman who loves her own child more than him. I am the one who he shows all his frustration, reminding me "you know what you are not mom mother" - and I am not. In fact I know who his mother is, I see her occasionally and we talk and share books and seeds, and smiles and short talks about teenagers and kids in general. Sometimes we exchange arguments about if her son was rude to me or it was me who got him angry; or about if he should pay respect to an adult person when being asked to make his bed and simly obey or should I just leave him alone and do his bed for him.

A couple of times, when he was 11, I had to go to explain myself that I didn't choke him, while he told his mother that I was...In one hour all relatieves were talking about it, everyone but us. husband resieved the phone call from my MIL..So I went in, and listened to my stepson saying how exactly I was chocking him, so I had to show them how I took his face with my hands while saying something. "That is how?" - "Yea-a-ah.." - So we were released that very moment.

Another time while playing I hugged him (we were 6 of us in the room), he started screaming, call 911, she broke my spine, I can't move, I can't hold my head up. I got so scared I hurt him, I went to grab a phone, my husband was winking to me "He is faking".

We do not have smooth relationship from then and on. I don't trust him, he hates me. Stay out of my life, you don't care about it anyway - that is what I hear often. Goodness, why he would think I don't care of his life? He accuses me loving my son more than him. Well I probably do.

I feel coldness - not love. I can't take it anymore, as probably he can't take it any more. We are way too different people, he says he don't understand me and think I am weirdo; our energies are bouncing from one another. we fight sometimes. most of the time we are polite, as strangers can be polite. " can tyou give me a ride?" - absolutely, give me 20 minutes to finish what I am doing . -No problem, thanks. Nothing to say in the car, no connection whatsoever. "How was school today?" - Pretty good. Silence.

Yesterday he was watching TV for 3 hours, football game - understandable. I came I said, you look tired, did you know watching television for so long can get you very tired, why don't you do something else? In friendly manner, in best intention, so I do believe TV is not as good thing even to have in the house. he got so angry, he told me all, how weird i was, I should stay away from his life, all americans watch sunday game (I am foreign). I got angry too, I said, you want towatch game for 3 hours - fine, but go and watch it in your room. he said, I am leaving this house. And he did.

I totally understand him, but I am a human being too - I want out.

Hello to everyone.

I am puzzled what kind of desorder DH got, and if it is desorder. We married for 7 years.

While in the restaurant, which we go at least 3 times a week, DH looks around NON STOP. When we come in and are being seated, he might hold my hand for a while, looking around, at everything and everybody, his neck gets twisted 180 degrees at times. When food is served, he would look at the plate, cut a piece, put into his mouth, start chewing and again, looking around, at his left, at his right...at his left, behind him...I would ask something - he would answer, and here we go again, his eyes are elswhere but with me or with us, if we are with kids.

I let him know it does irritates me, he said, "I have no idea what you are talking about, so what, I love people; I am a people person". He also mentioned to me, that his ex complained about the same issue, and he just didn't get it what was wrong.

I know something is very wrong, but can't find words to explain to myself, and to him.

communication is suffering with us in general, though. His body is here, but his mind, soul, attention - what ever - elsewhere.