Pufferfish

I know this sounds bad

This guy friend of mine and I have began getting closer. He has a girlfriend who he’s been in a relationship with for like 3 years.. I too was in a relationship for over a year which just recently ended.

While we were stricktly friends (as both of us were in our own relationships), he often expressed disinterest and a lack of enthusiasm about his girlfriend. Particularly to me, he would talk about how his girlfriend is alright looking, how he SOMETIMES loves her, how she’s annoying, how he does not truly want her.

I made nothing of it, as he was just my friend and I clearly wasn’t interested in him romantically

Ever since my relationship ended, which was about a month ago, him and I have gotten “closer” in a sense where we message almost every day and talk often.. he’s been “flirty” and has been acting like a guy who has a crush on a girl

And now that he knows I’m single, he’s been bringing up the not wanting to be with his girlfriend thing up more often... and has been messaging me more often

BUT clearly he’s still in a relationship and she’s his girlfriend (like once a week,,, if I may add)

So what does this sound like and what do I do in my situation if I actually like him more than a friend and would be interested if he was single.

I always sleep on one of two sides. Will I age more quickly if I continue doing so

This guy is hard to figure out. Im trying to see if theres a chance he is interested in me, or quite the opposite.

He has NO problem talking to girls, he has a lot of female friends and seems very comfortable around them.

But around me he gets nervous and awkward, clumsy, fidgety, tense.. I think you guys get the idea.

But at the same time he keeps trying to be around me in person. Hell come and sit next to me if theres an opportunity, hell generally be around me and start the conversation, initiate talking with me,,,

but to counter this last point, he also keeps adding other girls on Facebook and has yet to add me.. but I KNOW he's been on my profile because he weirdly said something that Ive never told him and you can only find that on my about me part of the profile

My question is.. if this guy is comfortable around women, fine with adding people on Facebook, and seems to want to talk to me in person and be around me in person, is his nervousness/not seeming to be "comfortable" around me a sign he's NOT into me?? Not even being comfortable enough to send me a friend request...

This guy i have a crush on notices the smallest details about me and my belongings It's like he watches me carefully

and takes note of what I do and how I do it, and what I own

For example if I'm sitting next to him and am on my phone, it's like he can't help but peek at my phone and notice what I'm doing. Like if I'm texting one of my friends he'll ask me about them

Are some guys just very observant or do people generally not pay attention that closely to every single person? Because to be honest I haven't really noticed him doing this with everyone else but who knows right?

I understand Pluto is a generational planet and if my Pluto conjunction someone's ascendant, we'll so does a whole hell of a lot of other people's.

My Pluto conjunction his ascendant with a little over 0 degrees so it's very tight. And the thing is I'm a couple years older him so the people he usually is surrounded who are closed to his age don't have their Pluto conjunction his ascendant

I can feel the very obsessiveness over him with me being Pluto. But what would the ascendant feel like?? Creeped out? I think I cover stalkerish tendencies pretty well

He has Scorpio ascendant and his

Pluto is pretty close to his ascendant (like 3 degrees) so he's pretty plutonic too. He also has moon in 8th house so there's some Pluto/Scorpio stuff going on in his chart. Does that make any difference is how he would feel

"See you in another lifetime"

Let me start off by saying that we went on like 2 dates in the past month, but he moved away a couple days ago.. I knew he was going to move away the whole time but I asked him out anyways (both times)

but since he had to move we didn't really get to hang out more than those two times and didn't get to spend time together for the 2 weeks prior to his move because I falsely didn't think he liked me very much and he falsely didn't think I liked him very much but we both did like each other

Anywhoom i texted him out of curiosity a couple days ago and asked to see what he was doing and all of a sudden we started talking about our past 2 dates and he straight up said he didn't get the vibe that I liked him which is why we didn't hang out more and that it was unfortunate because he was actually into me

And I replied saying that it was unfortunate and that I wish I knew earlier, and the last text I replied with was "Well I guess Ill see you in another lifetime"

First of all, is it really bad that I replied with that? I know its a major conversation ender but is it rude? I didn't think we would keep in touch anyways (we are both terrible texters) and he lives so far away..

second, why in the world would someone think you don't like them if you ask them out twice yourself???

I mean not like if you are two complete strangers and go on a average date.. but if you two sort of knew each other/were acquainted prior to the date on a friendly basis, and had a long *** first date where you really got to "know" each other and talked about personal things and whatnot.. is it a possibility or is it simply just more of lust/ just having strong feelings

that he didn't have intentions of having sex with me to begin with?

So the date started off with us meeting at a public place, it was really nice, good conversation and good chemistry.

i noticed he was dropping some sexual themed things into our conversations

he mentioned something about his balls, very randomly

we were talking about clubs and he mentioned something about a night he "hooked up" with "a lot of girls", again, didn't really fit into the conversation exactly because we were talking about how we both don't like going out that much

then he strangely mentioned something about his bedroom and how its a real mess right now and that theres just random stuff on the floor and things everywhere

ok..

then he offered going back to his apartment to hang out and for some reason I agreed because I felt comfortable.

anyways we go back and his roommate was home...and even though we hung out just the two of us and his roommate was in his own room, he didn't initiate anything, didn't say anything else sexual.. nothing,,

what does this mean

Had a first date with a guy I like and I just noticed that he was being very honest and upfront about things you typically wouldn't tell people if you were trying to leave a good impression on them. But he was being really open and honest about stuff even if it didn't make him sound at his best

Is this generally a good thing so early on

Things did not really work out between us and we didn't get to explore our relationship further than like 2 dates...and he had to move to another city. So we never really had a moment of closure and didn't get to spend time together for the 2 weeks prior to his move because I falsely didn't think he liked me very much and he falsely didn't think I liked him very much but we both did like each other

Anywhoom i texted him out of curiousity and asked to see what he was doing and all of a sudden we started talking about our past 2 dates and he straight up said he didn't get the vibe that I liked him which is why we didn't hang out more and that it was unfortunate because he was actually into me

And I replied two days ago with "perhaps in another lifetime?"

And he hasn't replied back.

Is that something weird to say?

Im trying to figure out of this guy is interested in me after our date.. please help me figure out these little things he did and whether they mean he's interested or not

1. We were in our first date & he causally dropped something about a party he was at where he hooked up with a bunch of girls. It didn't really fit into the conversation

2. he would mimic things I would say, basically repeat them back to me. If i pronounced something in a weird way,, he would repeat it back in the same way... he did it a couple times, repeating a sentence or phrase I said

4. he kept wanting me to go into more detail about things I told him about, if I said something that was vague he would be like.. tell me more, what did you do, where did you go

5. he remembered things I told him throughout the date..he also remembered really small details of things he observed about me prior to the date

6. He kept telling me either things that reflected very poorly on him i.e. he told me about classes he failed or things that you basically wouldn't brag about to someone else

7. we stopped by his apartment to pick something up before heading out, and he introduced his roommate/best friend to me but like "Hey this is my best friend______" but didn't introduce me back to the friend

8. the date was pretty long, like 4 hours, but at the end he made some bs excuse about waking up early to get some work done.. which I felt was like a "ok its time for this to end" thing

Im trying to figure out of this guy is interested in me after our date.. please help me figure out these little things he did and whether they mean he's interested or not

1. We were in our first date & he causally dropped something about a party he was at where he hooked up with a bunch of girls. It didn't really fit into the conversation

2. he would mimic things I would say, basically repeat them back to me. If i pronounced something in a weird way,, he would repeat it back in the same way... he did it a couple times, repeating a sentence or phrase I said

4. he kept wanting me to go into more detail about things I told him about, if I said something that was vague he would be like.. tell me more, what did you do, where did you go

5. he remembered things I told him throughout the date..he also remembered really small details of things he observed about me prior to the date

6. He kept telling me either things that reflected very poorly on him i.e. he told me about classes he failed or things that you basically wouldn't brag about to someone else

7. we stopped by his apartment to pick something up before heading out, and he introduced his roommate/best friend to me but like "Hey this is my best friend______" but didn't introduce me back to the friend

8. the date was pretty long, like 4 hours, but at the end he made some bs excuse about waking up early to get some work done.. which I felt was like a "ok its time for this to end" thing

I know that list is based on mutual friends and similar groups, going to the same school etc

We have the same school on our profile info. But no mutual friends. And he showed up on my PYMK list. Does that most likely mean I'm also on his??

If I keep going on someone's profile on Facebook, looking at their pictures, searching for stuff like "photos ______ liked" or "photos commented on by _______" .....and that person ends up showing up on MY suggested friends ...is that cuz I keep stalking them?

Or did I show up on their suggested friends and maybe they checked out my profile?

We have no mutual friends, go to the same college though

Basically if I keep stalking them should they end up on my suggested friends tab? I would think I'd end up on theirs.

If I keep going on someone's profile on Facebook, looking at their pictures, searching for stuff like "photos ______ liked" or "photos commented on by _______" .....and that person ends up showing up on MY suggested friends ...is that cuz I keep stalking them?

Or did I show up on their suggested friends and maybe they checked out my profile?

We have no mutual friends, go to the same college though

Basically if I keep stalking them should they end up on my suggested friends tab? I would think I'd end up on theirs.

If I keep going on someone's profile on Facebook, looking at their pictures, searching for stuff like "photos ______ liked" or "photos commented on by _______" .....and that person ends up showing up on MY suggested friends ...is that cuz I keep stalking them?

Or did I show up on their suggested friends and maybe they checked out my profile?

We have no mutual friends, go to the same college though

Basically if I keep stalking them should they end up on my suggested friends tab? I would think I'd end up on theirs.

this guy and I went on a date. before I asked him out, during class he would always try to sit next to me and talk to me during class. I caught him staring a couple times too, also he would just smile at me even if he was sitting really far away upon my entrance..but never any mention of anything like hanging out outside of class.

I decided to ask him out, it was a nice date. But I guess I'm wondering if he would ever ask me out if I hadn't asked him first..

during the date he was really nice and caring, He kept asking what I wanted to do, if I was ok with doing so and so.. He was willing to do whatever I wanted to. He kept remembering small things I told him in class, and things I told him during the date.. was being very observant and asking A LOT about me... he told me a lot about his family and whatnot.

we also touched upon some more serious topics, like family childhood, kids, future stuff (which Im not sure if its normal on a first date??)

he made the whole night about me, kept saying nice things about me, asking about me, basically let me lead with everything...

I guess I'm wondering if he's just sounds like a nice guy in general or if it sounds like he does have a crush.

this guy and I went on a date. before I asked him out, during class he would always try to sit next to me and talk to me during class. I caught him staring a couple times too, also he would just smile at me even if he was sitting really far away upon my entrance..but never any mention of anything like hanging out outside of class.

I decided to ask him out, it was a nice date. But I guess I'm wondering if he would ever ask me out if I hadn't asked him first..

during the date he was really nice and caring, He kept asking what I wanted to do, if I was ok with doing so and so.. He was willing to do whatever I wanted to. He kept remembering small things I told him in class, and things I told him during the date.. was being very observant and asking A LOT about me... he told me a lot about his family and whatnot.

we also touched upon some more serious topics, like family childhood, kids, future stuff (which Im not sure if its normal on a first date??)

he made the whole night about me, kept saying nice things about me, asking about me, basically let me lead with everything...

I guess I'm wondering if he's just sounds like a nice guy in general or if it sounds like he does have a crush.