Vinny

Ok, so in a heterosexual relationship the guy asks for sex and the girl says no. She claims to have a headache or something according to all the jokes on the topic. It seems in most heterosexual relationships the guy asks for sex more often than the girl and many times he is refused. So, the question I have here (and I ask in genuine curiosity) is pretty simple. In a lesbian relationship do the girl take turns saying no? Does one girl say no more than the other? Does one girl ask for sex more often? Who gets the headache? Both? I understand that in any relationship there has to be a dominant leader. Does the dominant one gets rejected or does she do the rejecting?

This question could be posed toward gays as well. Do gay guys say no more often? Do they take turns saying no? Is the bottom guy the one who says no? I know that sex between couples is fun and not always rejected, but there are just so many times I've heard guys talking about their latest attempts getting spurned due to a headache or a medical exam the next morning, or even rejected under the pretense that they did it the night before. So, Who says no?

Of course I will pick best answer before this goes to voting. Thank you for helping me understand this aspect that is foreign to me.

I have seen numerous questions that start of as "Spiritually Speaking" and have nothing to do with anything spiritual. Why is that? Does putting "Spiritually Speaking" in front of an etiquette or science fiction or friendship question change the question? I can understand that maybe in science or history, but in some cases it doesn't seem to fit. "Spiritually speaking, how do you say happy birthday to a princess... woo hoo" and "Spiritually speaking do you think there were moon landings?" Really? I don't get it. I could understand "Spiritually speaking is homosexuality good or evil" or "Spiritually speaking, what does it mean when it says God made man in His own image". Why do people ask the not spiritual questions by adding "Spiritually speaking". Here's one for you: "Spiritually speaking, tell me why I should chose your answer for the 10 points."

10 points for the best reason I should choose your answer, really.

I need a little help with this please. I am trying to help a 13 year old, but I need a little assistance understanding it myself. Thank you.

Here are the basics: I am 39. Male. Live in Texas. I drive a 1990 Ford Ranger.

On Friday night (actually Saturday morning) at almost 2:00 am I left my house to take some clothing to a friend. I live in a subdivision in a rural area. As I was leaving the subdivision I came to a complete stop at the stop sign before turning left. (A couple of hours earlier, while coming home, there were a couple of DPS officers pulling cars over so I was being a little more careful.) Anyway, I came to a complete stop and one DPS car that was approaching from my left was about pass by. I waited for him to pass and he drove away on my right. On my right side, I could see his buddy in another DPS car pointing towards me with his exterior lights off parked about 1/10 mile away. I looked left again and then proceeded to go. The parked DPS car came up fast behind me. I had my seat belt on, all my lights were working and my driving was very controlled and within legal limits. The DPS officer commenced in pulling me over. I put on my blinker and complied. I pulled over bewildered to why I was being pulled over. The officer claimed that I had ran the stop sign. I immediately, but politely, objected to the charge. I explained that I had to stop or I would have collided with the other officer who was going the other way. Then I pointed out that I saw the other officer park across the street from him. I also mentioned that I saw him (the one pulling me over) parked across the street. I pointed out the fact that I was very much aware of my surroundings and this awareness is the result of a complete stop and observation before proceeding. He didn't argue the point at all. In fact, he seemed a little taken back by the fact that I objected. He looked at my inspection sticker and registration sticker as he asked for my license and insurance. Here's the real kicker. My license had been suspended for an old traffic ticket. He asked me to step out of my truck so I did. He then went to his car to run my information. When he returned he gave me a ticket for "invalid license" and told me to go back home. He mentioned he could have arrested me for this, but he would just give me a ticket instead. He also showed me where he gave me a warning for the stop sign. Just minutes away from my house, I went back home.

Here's the question:

If he had not pulled me over for a bogus charge of running a stop sign then he would not have given me a ticket for the other. Is there a way I can fight this ticket? If his dashboard camera shows me stopping completely then would this ticket not infringe on the fourth amendment?

Any serious help would be greatly appreciated.

So my friend asked me this question and I told him I'm not good with fashion so I have decided to ask you.

He wants to take his wife to a casino where there are only adults. He wants to surprise her with a weekend trip.

The question: Is it appropriate for her to wear a sheer top? He is going to buy her a blouse of top that is black and sheer. He knows she would wear it if he asks her to, but he was concerned about too much exposure. Should she wear it with a camisole under it or just a black bra? Should she wear it without a bra? Should she wear a strapless bra? I'm not sure how tight of a blouse he is planning on getting, but I figured if it were loose fitting and perhaps with lace she could get away without wearing a bra at all. I told him to look into getting pasties to wear under the blouse. lol. Not sure if he would. He is trying to get the "sexy / slightly slutty" look without dipping into the "whore" look. He said he wanted some guys to take a double-take, but not try to buy her for the night. How would you feel if you saw a pretty girl who carried herself very well and lady-like wearing a top the was see-through? Would you be offended? What if the top was only see-through from certain points of view? Any help on this is appreciated. Any ideas on this is also welcomed. Thank you.

I have an older model hot tub with air switches. I bought it used and someone wired it wrong. I bought new relays for it, but there is a wire missing from one of the coils on a relay. I believe there may be a wire out of place. It is 110 volts and has a dual speed pump. There are 3 switches. One switch is for the light which works fine. The other two switches (buttons) are for High and Low powered jets. There is a solid state timer and a thermostat as well. There is also a relay that looks like and Ice Cube. I believe it is DPDT (the only one on there). The other 2 relays are SPDT. Any help would be greatly appreciated. I have created a wiring diagram of how it is wired now, but like I said, I believe it is not wired correctly. I could not find any wire diagrams for this model. It is about 20 years old, but the tub is in great shape. As it is wired now, it will turn on when I plug it in, but it won't turn off unless I unplug it. Please help. I can include the diagram I made if you would like to see it.

I have an older model hot tub with air switches. I bought it used and someone wired it wrong. I bought new relays for it, but there is a wire missing from one of the coils on a relay. I believe there may be a wire out of place. It is 110 volts and has a dual speed pump. There are 3 switches. One switch is for the light which works fine. The other two switches (buttons) are for High and Low powered jets. There is a solid state timer and a thermostat as well. There is also a relay that looks like and Ice Cube. I believe it is DPDT (the only one on there). The other 2 relays are SPDT. Any help would be greatly appreciated. I have created a wiring diagram of how it is wired now, but like I said, I believe it is not wired correctly. I could not find any wire diagrams for this model. It is about 20 years old, but the tub is in great shape. As it is wired now, it will turn on when I plug it in, but it won't turn off unless I unplug it. Please help. I can include the diagram I made if you would like to see it.