Claire Bear

Theres this really cute guy I regularly see on the bus and at the shop he works at. Is it weird to ask for his number, since I don't actually know him personally? If not, how do I ask? I'm only 16, so this is all new to me, and I have no idea what I'm doing. Please help.

I was working when a customer came up and asked if I had a boyfriend. I said no, so then he asked for my number. I told him I was only 16, but he didn't care. I asked how old he was, and he said he was 28. I said no, and told him my parents would shoot me if I did. He kept trying to get me to say yes, but I refused. My question is, what the hell does a 28 yr old want with a 16 yr old? A guy like that can't be looking for a serious relationship with a girl my age. There is no way in hell I would have let him 'use' me. He must of been severely messed up if he wanted to go out with me. Also, has anyone else been in this type of situation? What happened?

On Sunday (today is Friday) I put 1.6mm stretchers in and on Tuesday I was sick of them so I took them out. The holes were a little red and sore, but they didn't seem infected. I didn't put any other earrings in and on Thursday I realised the holes were closing so I put earrings in them, which hurt a bit, but in one ear I had to break a tiny layer of skin. I've been wearing sterling silver earrings and spraying stuff on it used for new piercings. Tonight there was a little bit of pus. I took the earring out, sprayed my ear and the earring then put it back in. Is there anything I can do to help clear my ear up? I know about the salt water solution, but is there anything I can be doing to help get rid of the infection?

I'm 16 turning 17 at the end of this year. Today I found out that this guy I worked with likes me. He didn't tell me, a guy who works with us told me. To be honest, I'm not interested in him in that way. I'm into older guys, but hes just not my type. I'm really nervous that he's gonna ask me out or something cause I'm really shy and when someone asks me out, I get all awkward, especially if my answer will be no, which in this case will be. I don't want to bring it up with him either. Like I said, I'm very shy, and being upfront about things is not my specialty. For all I know, he might not ever ask me out. He might just get over me or something. But, what should I say if he does ask?

My friend and I (both 16 yr old girls that like girls) had a sleepover the other night, and one thing led to another and we ended up making out. Since she's one of my best friends, we've kinda been a little different around each other now. Like its been a little awkward. I want to tell her if its too weird for her, that we don't have to do it again (even though I still want to). By the way, it wasn't a dare or anything, we were both just 'in the mood'. How do try and explain things to her? I'm so bad at putting things into words, so I'm not really good at trying to tell people things.

I went to my uncle's house for Christmas this year and his son (my cousin) is 15 and I'm 16. I've always been very close with but he seemed different this time. At lunch, he insisted that the two eldest cousins (him and I) had to sit next to each other. Then after everyone had gone to bed, him and I played video games in the bedroom until we were bored. Then we were wrestling but it kinda got touchy feely. He would lay sideways on me so the back of his head was on boobs then he'd lay there for a couple of minutes. Then he he started biting and licking my arms and face. He bit me right on nose once. It was dark in the room because the door was shut and the lights were out, we could only see the outline of each other. And also, a few times his face would get really close to mine, then I'd hear him lick his lips like he was getting ready to kiss me or something. Am I over thinking it? Or does he like me or something?

I've always had these weird coincidences happen every once in a while. Like, I've suddenly thought of a movie, and a couple of minutes later there'll be an ad for it on tv saying it'll be on some channel this weekend (and trust me, I didn't see the ad before, it was the first time I'd seen it). Thats happened about 3 times. There was this one time I was in yr 6 and I was thinking about that movie 'Sharkboy and Lavagirl' then I heard the classroom next door to us put it on and start watching it. Then today, I was thinking about a Christmas present for my friend, and I thought about how much she loved The Lion King, so I wanted to buy a stuffed toy Simba (she already owns the movie so I thought of something she didn't have), but I didn't think there were any Simba toys, until I read a Big W magazine and there was a Simba pillow pet in there. I swear I'd never seen catalogue before then. Does this ever happen to anybody else?

Today I noticed my cousin stopped following me, and somehow I've stopped following her. I thought it was a technical problem so I went onto her profile and clicked follow. It said following for less than a second before it went back to just saying 'follow'. Then I noticed it said she had no posts yet, but in the section where it says how many things shes posted, it said 1387. So shes obviously blocked me. And it turns out she blocked my sister too. But I only have one reason in my head on why she might of. Yesterday, she posted a picture saying her boyfriend cheated on her. I told my mum a couple of hours after I saw it, but my mum was on the phone to my aunty (her mum) and I don't know if she said anything to her about it. Could this be why she blocked me and my sister? She posts some pretty inappropriate stuff on there, but shes never minded me and my sister seeing it, so I don't think she blocked us for that reason.

So I know this guy, he used to go to my school, but he left, though we are still friends. Anyway, I went to the movies with him and 4 other guys and before the movie he was texting me that he wanted to hook up (kiss not sex)while we were there (I wanted to as well). We never made out though because we didn't end up sitting next to each other during the movie. He texted me that night saying next time we have to sit next to each other. We aren't dating or anything so its not gonna be 'special' but I couldn't care less, I just want to make out with him. The problem is, I haven't made out with anyone for just over a year now and I don't know if I'm any good at kissing. I'm planning to ask a friend of mine (a girl) if she'd make out with me and give me 'feedback'. I've made out with her before so thats why I chose her, but I'm really nervous about asking. I know she'd say yes, but I'm still really nervous. How do I ask her?

I recently watched a movie that just came out and I love it so much that I've already watched it 3 times, my laptop background is of the movie and I've been looking for posters everywhere so I can have it up on my wall. So the other day, I watched it with my best friend, and now she loves it too. I know this is really really stupid, but the way she goes on about the movie really annoys me. We were mucking around in class (before she even saw the movie, but I had) and we were listing our celebrity 'husbands' and the main guy from the movie was in my list, meaning if hypothetically, we met him, I would already have 'dibs' on him. Now since shes seen the movie, shes been telling me he's hers. And now her desktop background i of him, whereas mine is of all the main characters. I feel really annoyed that shes like stolen him from me or something. And trust me, before you tell me to grow up, I know that. Don't you think that I feel stupid about feeling annoyed about something that doesn't even matter. I'm 16 years old. I honestly feel like the meanest, stupidest friend and person right now, so don't even bother telling me. But how can I stop feeling like this? He's just a celebrity that a lot of teenage girls drool over, so why do I feel annoyed that she's got him as her background, and she's constantly telling me they're gonna get married, and every minute shes like, Oh my God he's so hot. I feel very stupid and childish, but I can't help it.

I'm a girl, and I'm in love with another girl, who just happens to love another girl. Complicated, isn't it? I know I'm only in high school, but I'm in love. Don't tell me I'm 'too young', because I believe you can fall in love at any age. You don't have to be mature or 'grown up' to know what love is. And in my opinion, I know what it is. I have told her that I 'liked' her, but I didn't want to freak her by saying I love you more than my heart's contents, and I'd do anything to be with you. In my eyes, she is perfection. And I know its not just some thing, that I'll just get over, like she's not going to get over this other person. I know its never going to happen between us, but I can never stop adoring this girl. And i can't just block her out, with have classes together and I see her around school a lot. We don't talk often, so I can ignore her physically, but my brain won't ignore her. I'm so nervous around her that I can't even look at her when we walk past each other. Sometimes when we accidentally look at each other, I give her a weak-looking smile, its the best i can do. How can I stop thinking about her all the time?

I was planning on getting a tattoo that went directly under my bra around my side (kind of under my armpit). For personal reasons, it will not be seen at all unless I remove my bra. I was planning on wearing kind of loose sports bras and crop tops for the first 2-4 weeks. I'm average chested, so I can get away with wearing looser bras, but I can't go braless. Will this affect my future tattoo in any way? If so, is there anything I can buy or something to help?

I don't do the attention seeking, I just think of scenarios in my head that would make people feel bad for me or something. I imagine being killed, kidnapped, or something horrifying (but other than the death scenario I always survive). It really annoys me that I think like this. Like I want these things to happen so I get attention, then I get mad at myself for wanting those things to happen to me. Why am I like this and how can I stop being such an attention seeker?

I'm 16 and for a few years now I've liked guys and girls. When someone asks me about my sexuality, I don't tell them I'm bisexual, because to me, people (especially girls) have turned it into a label. I just tell people I can appreciate a good looking guy or girl. Like right now, I'm interested in a guy and a girl, but my feelings toward the girl is stronger. What are your opinions on bisexuality? Is it a phase, trend, label, or is it here to stay?

It's really hard to describe. The outside of my vagina just feels like its stretching or something. It only usually lasts for the first day. But it is painful and annoying. Is it normal?

I am almost 16 and my sisters are 14 and 5, while my brother is 3. They are all really annoying and I think they all just trying to get me in trouble all the time! My 14 sister thinks whatever I own, is hers as well. I have a ripstick that I let her ride occasionally, and when I was getting ready to go to the park yesterday, she grabbed my ripstick out (without asking), so I told her I was gonna get it out (I wasn't lying, I really was going to get it) and ride it. So I asked her to hand it to me. She refused to give it to me and told me I was lying and I only wanted it because she had it. I told her its still mine anyway, and she can't get it out without asking me first. After she had a whinge to mum, she had to give it to me, but then rudely told me once I got to the end of the path, it was her turn. I said I'll decide when its her turn because I owned it, and said if she kept talking to me like that, she wouldn't get a turn at all. So I started riding it, and when I got to the end of the path, she said it was her turn, and when I said no, she pushed me off. So I got up and pushed her, then went back on the ripstick and rode off. Mum ended up getting mad at me and told me should of let her have a go, so I told her if someone was rude to her, she wouldn't let someone use her things. I got into so much trouble for being 'irresponsible'. Then my 5 year old sister will never leave me alone and will always bug me when I have a friend over. She is constantly cheeky, and when I'm nice and polite to her and ask her to get out of my room, she won't listen. So when I start to get mad, my parents yell at me and tell me that my sister isn't doing anything wrong, so she can stay in room. All I wanted was my own time, as I just got home from school and wanted to relax for 10 minutes. But obviously in my house, thats not acceptable. Then my brother is just plain annoying. If he does something wrong, my parents laugh it off, and act like its no big deal, when the thing he's doing needs to be stopped. Like my younger sister, he is constantly in my room and bugging me, and my parents won't help me get him out. Then when I do get him out, I sit against my door so he can't get back in, so then my parents yell at me for not letting him come in. What am I supposed to do? I have 3 very annoying siblings that I can never get away from.

Last night I had a dream that my friend invited me and our other friend over to her house. When we got there she explained that she had sex with her dad because he wanted her first time to be enjoyable and not with some boy that doesn't know what he's doing. So her and her dad said if we wanted, we. COuld have sex with him too. My other friend went first and the daughter and I stayed out in the living room. I could feel how nervous and scared I was, really, I felt terrified. But before my 'turn' I woke up, I was a little disappointed to be honest. Why the hell did I dream about having sex with him? And him having sex with his daughter and one of my friends? Oh and if it helps, I do like older guys, but he's really old and I don't like him like that.

P.s. I was 'pleasuring' myself before I went to bed.

Today I had the guts to tell a guy I liked him (on snap chat, I couldn't do it face to face), but when he replied, he said nothing about liking me back or anything, he said he already knew because one of my friends already told him. Does this mean he doesn't like me? I thought he liked me because he talks to me a lot (he starts a lot of the conversations) and is nice to me.

I've always heard that you should lose your virginity to someone you love. But what if the two people are just friends, but really care about each other and would rather lose it to each than a boy/girlfriend that they 'like'. Is it ok then?

By the way, if anyone is wondering, I am a virgin.

There is a guy I've liked for a while now, and for a while I thought he liked me too. But the other day my friend and I were talking, and she said that he's hinted a few times that he likes her. Then I told her that I liked him. She is not interested in him since she has already got a boyfriend. She felt really bad that he might be possibly interested in her and not me since the same thing used to happen to her with her old best friend(every guy she liked, her best friend dated). What am I supposed to do? I really like this guy, but I don't want to still like him if he's interested in my friend.