Andy J

I play inside center for rugby but I need a new pair of cleats fast. I was thinking about buying soccer cleats since they're readily available but people keep telling me they tend to tear or fall apart. I only need to get through now to June with these cleats so soccer cleats would be ok right?

My uncle has some Red Hot Chili Pepper concert shirts he gave me this weekend but I didn't go to any of the concerts. But I love the chili peppers and some of the shirts are limited editions that are hard to find nowadays, is it wrong to wear concert shirts that I never attended? I feel kind of guilty wearing them knowing I didn't go to them.

I'm a guy in high school right now; I was planning on getting my friends (for the girls only lol) valentines chocolates with notes about the past year attached to them. Would that be weird?

Its been a little over a month now since I broke up with me ex girlfriend of six months. I tried literally everything and there is a lot of progress. I'm in great shape, I've lost ten pounds, I made a bunch of new friends, my grades are outstanding, I even saved enough money to buy a new car. Yet, despite everything I have done in an attempt to distract myself (and me acknowledging that it is over), I get so depressed and pissed whenever I see her at school or see anything that reminds me of her (we're HS seniors). How much longer do I have to suffer through this? I'm not trying to remember her but it just happens when I see something that reminds me of her.

I'm looking for a new belt but some belt measurements are in centimeters so I'm not quite sure how they relate to US sizes. What pants or belt size is equivalent to a 110 centimeter belt?

My ex broke up with me on Christmas eve (boohoo yes I cried, splurged and it was sad) but that's not the point. We're high school seniors and I see her quite literally every day. I don't talk to her at all anymore but seeing her or anything else that reminds me of "us" infuriates me. I don't really dwell on her anymore but I still get angry literally everyday from time to time and get over it again. I hate this perpetual cycle of anger, how do I completely let go and forget about her? I want to feel like "us" never happened. I have nothing that reminds me of her anymore.

I'm starting up rugby for the first time, I also live in Monmouth county NJ so the fields are often soft surface fields that get wet and soft during the spring very quickly from overuse and rain. I know that the front toe stud is illegal in rugby but what kind of cleats are best for a budget under $130? Do rugby cleats offer more padding on the foot than football cleats do? Are they any lighter than football cleats? Do rugby cleats have more support than soccer cleats? I just need full advice on the pros and cons of each for the use of rugby so I kind make an educated assumption on which to buy.

I know this is kind of sad to hear but I don't have many friends and my senior year in high school is coming to a close. Where and how can I make friends outside of school? I moved from NYC in sixth grade and my entire middle school bullied me so I have zero friends from middle school. My high school is very small (300 kids) and frankly, I've exhausted the option of meeting new people in school. How can I make some more friends outside of school activities?

I'm still a high school senior right now so I'm still in the thick of it; but to me, high school was some of the worst years of my life now that I look back on it. The common thought out there is that high school should be the best years of my life but I'm thinking my college and early twenties will probably be much brighter than my high school experience. I'm in a small school of only 300 kids so grades are small, HS for me was filled with people with awful personalities, getting judged everywhere I went, extreme pressure to conform, excessive stress and not finding many actual good friends I could get along with. Yes I'm a bit of an introvert but I'm not a loner by a long shot and I'm not avoiding people either. High school for me seemed pretty awful the last three and a half years (the teachers were great though!). Do other people agree with me on this or am I alone here?

I'm 18 years old right now and my girlfriend of my dreams broke up with me roughly a week ago, we went out for six months. I've done literally everything I have in my arsenal to try and move on without her, everything is fine until I go to bed or something comes up about her and I break down into tears. I really loved her and I didn't want the relationship to end. She hates me now and there is pretty much a zero chance of us getting back together. I don't have many friends at all in or out of school so I'm pretty much alone here. How do I get out of this cycle of misery? I don't want to loathe in my own pain and regret forever; and I don't want it to take years or possibly several months. I don't want to cry myself to bed every night. I want to live a happy life where I can laugh, play and smile. Please, any advice I will appreciate, I'm tired of living through this pain any longer.

Guys do not heal more easily than women do. We don't have that social network like women do and I don't have anyone to talk to about my break up. I don't want to get involved with another girl either, I want to heal not forget.

I'm a faithful christian, I love and fear God at the same time. He's my dad, my best friend, my life coach and my God. But why does he put us through crushing break ups and heart ache? He gave me my girlfriend of almost six months in my lowest period in life. I didn't need her since I was slowly recovering but she made me so happy in such a quick period of time. He gave me the signals and the go ahead saying she really is special and I went ahead and followed god on our amazing journey. But today on Christmas eve and two days away from our six month anniversary she was ripped away from me via a text message. So why is it that God does this to us? I still love God and my girlfriend but why does he do this? I've gone through more loneliness and hurt than most people can imagine and I'm only 18. I'm feeling some doubt in God right now and he knows.

I am 17 years old and a high school senior. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a little over 5 months now but things are not looking so bright as of lately. We do love each other a lot (I use love and not like because this is real) and I'm willing to fight and put the effort into maintaining a relationship with her. However, I've noticed recently that she is very fickle and a bit emotionally immature; it seems like her emotions are running her life instead of the other way around. One day she will blow off her friends to spend the day with me and not even reply to their texts and the next day she won't even look at me. She says her mind changes depending on the situation all the time. How do I deal with her? Everyone says to just end it but I'm not like any other guy, I want to put the effort into this one. How can I make our relationship last and for us to see a happy end product?

My girlfriend just tagged me on her twitter post and all it says is Bae. What does it mean? I know its short for baby sometimes but she isn't very affectionate and she was in the middle of work. What does it mean?

I'm trying to buy my girlfriend a really nice scarf for Christmas but frankly I don't really know much about accessories and scarves. She loves the color purple and she really only wears scarves during harsh winter months here in NJ. We're both high school seniors so I don't want something that looks too old for her. I also don't want to get her something cheap and made of acrylic (nothing itchy). I know burberry makes luxury scarves but that is way out of my price range. Any scarf companies or scarves that are around or under $100? Tips are also appreciated! thank you!

I am need of a new phone but my verizon contract only allows me to a two year upgrade. I want to buy the old iPhone 5 but since it's not time for my upgrade prices are easily over $500. I can't afford that. Is there a way to buy an iPhone let's say from best buy and then take it to the verizon store to switch contacts and phone numbers? I know very little about contracts and phone companies.

My girlfriend and I already want to start planning out our costume for halloween already, we wanted to go with a movie couple theme, what are some good movie couples or movie couple themed costume ideas we could pull off? We were thinking Mr. and Mrs. Smith but we wanted something that would stand out a bit more and something that could be easily recognized at first glance, we have a low budget but we have time. We also want something funny or memorable since its our senior year and its also our first year back at our original high school campus since hurricane sandy hit.

My girlfriend is busy almost the entire summer and she's coming back from her trip on July 30 which means we have the entire day of the 31st to have a great date. Ladies, what in your mind consists of a perfect date? I plan on taking my gf to a water park, then letting her go change and shower after the water park so we can go eat at a sushi restaurant and then I plan on taking her to the beach for the sunset and have a campfire. And then to top off the day, I'm driving her back to my house where we can just sleep on each other and watch Les Miserables on the wide screen TV (her favorite movie). What is your opinion on my day and any other suggestions you can offer me?

My girlfriend is coming back from her vacation from Taiwan on July 30, she also has to leave again on August 2 which means we only have July 31st and August 1 to spend time together. I plan on making both those days something she can remember for a long time. I plan on taking her to mountain creek water park on one of those days and then taking her to a sushi restaurant afterward. I'm stumped on what to do the second day, I want to do something creative and out of the box or at least something ridiculously fun. What are some great or creative date suggestions to do in NJ? I'm only 17 so I can drive, and please no alcohol suggestions since we're both under age, and no sex suggestions either.