is it normal to get jealous if the person whom u love the most praises another person? is it normal to feel offended if your lover lashes at you if you speak against his or her ex? what one should do if its normal?? and if you feel its not normal then how to prevent this?
2006-08-13T23:34:48Z
1.) If the girl whom you love calls other guy or male actor (whom you hate) as sexy or dreamy then is it normal to get jealous and feel offended?
2.) if the girl whom u love the most and as per her she loves you the most does not let go off her ex just because she cant hurt him and when he is there you feel offended then what you should do?
Me2006-08-14T02:27:29Z
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ask yourself wht u want.. u know better than these ppl
No, it's not exactly normal behavior but each couple is different.
Either you've got some issues with insecurity or being a little too possessive of another. Try to chill out a bit and not take it on such a personal level. It just all depends on what type of 'praise' is being mentioned here but complimenting others on honest accomplishments or just general warm fuzzies to others shouldn't be seen as a threat. Think of the last time you received some comments that made you feel better?? Everyone wants that and the same applies here.
But if she's making remarks about how 'sexy' or 'dreamy' this guy is, then I don't think that's over-reacting. Explain to her that she needs to keep her comments to herself. I doubt she would like it if you kept on talking about what a great rack a particular female has.
There's nothing wrong with feeling attractions for others when your in a relationship, that's human nature, just never act on them. And if your woman cares for you at all, she'll understand your feelings on this.
As for ex's - that's always a sensitive issue. As previously stated, you need to sit down and have a detailed talk about this. What it is exactly that upsets you?? Why is the other person so defensive about it?? Maybe she has some leftover feelings or maybe it's something else??
Once some communication lines have been opened, then you can probably both ask for some type of compromise to avoid these type of discussions if they just lead to upset feelings, but it's something you should decide on together.
If she's unwilling to at least repsect your feelings or work on a mutual goal where both of you make some compromises, then you need to reconsider if this woman is worth your time. If she will disrespect you this way, who knows how she may decide to do so later??
Try to keep your chin up and have a serious talk with her - I hope things work out for the best.
it depends on whom your love is praising. if they are praising a friend or family member, that is normal. those are people that they look up to and always will. but if it is another person like the guy/girl next door or their ex, then the praising is a problem it indicates that they haven't gotten over them yet and still harbor feelings for that person. your jealousy is normal. people get like that when they care very much for some one and you can't have them the exact way you want them but some one else can. once again, if they lash out at you because you speak against the ex, that means that they still have deep feelings for that person and it is normal to feel offended because they really shouldn't be lashing out at you over their ex. all these things are normal even the deep feelings remaining for the ex. there is no way to prevent this, only ways to solve it. what you need to do is sit down and address the issue with your partner and ask them what the deal is. tell them that you can't be with some body that wants to be with some one else. it is not fair to you to be giving this person your undivided attention when you are getting only part of theirs. it takes two to make a relationship work, and right now they are only giving you half, making it one and a half, and the relationship can't work like that.
1) It's very normal to get jelous when your love praises another person. However if a person really loves you wouldn't praise another persons only to make you jealous...she will only do it at the cost of her love. 2) The same is the case about your speaking against his/her ex. Ex...is ex...and bringing the topic bet'n you and her is nothing but foolishness. who so ever is doing it...should'nt. 3) Feeling jealous or making remarks on each other's ex is not normal in love...if such a feeling has creeped in....love certainly has faded, in that case the relation will move forward on other realities...be realistic...and don't ever try to offend or be offended by your love.
depends on the way the person is being praised by your hunny. if it's because they admire them greatly or envy them it isn't so bad. But if they are saying they are so sexy they'd like to **** them then you might want to consider not being with them. As far as feeling offended if your lover lashes out in defense of their ex.... I'd be extremely hurt. Being the new girlfriend I'd think that I should be chosen over any other girl exept for mom... unless she's evil. When they defend the ex it seems like they still have unresolved feelings with them. and if so... again... move on.