How do I get over the ex and find a girl who excites me??
I was engaged to the love of my life for over a year. we have just broken up and now I am out dating again. I have no problems getting dates. Girls think that I am funny and all that jazz, but the problem is that I do not find anything that I like about them. Everytime that I am with another girl, I am always thinking about the ex. So much so that I end up having a horrible time with the girl that I am on the date with and decide that I do not want to see her again because she is not what the ex was. I cannot get my mind off the ex no matter what I do. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do to get my mind off of her? The ex was beautiful, funny, charming, polite, everything that I ever wanted. I was the one who messed it up, and now she does not want to get back together. Any help on this would be great!
2007-09-15T01:59:36Z
Everyone keeps saying time, but time it si easier said than done. There are so many girls out there that want to date me, but none of them have appealed to me. there were actually girls waiting for us to break up so they could have a chance to date me. I don't think that time is the answer. I think that time is what will make me want her more. The more time passes, the more I will see how much I need her in my life and the more I will see that I miss her. I do not believe that time is the answer. Good try guys.
Charmer2007-09-15T02:00:09Z
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well depending on the circumstances of your break up i feel for u dude..it sux when you can't find someone to measure up to someone you lost..as everyone will say time helps but it won't heal anything unless you are ready to let go and begin moving on..you don't need to fall in love on the spot but just enjoy your time with the individual pgirls you are with find something about each one of them that you like wether is be her laugh her smile or something else but try to look at your dates for who they are not who they are not (your ex) i am sure if its fated to be you will find someone for you or who knows your ex might drop onto your lap somehow..good luck~
The thing is , I'm in the same situation.I'm am that EX too ! Well whatever you did , you must have messed up baaaddd. An all that type of gal doesn't let go of something good unless she has to.The best thing to do is live your life , show her that you are having a good life finding yourself and getting involved with "life" no women.Through these experiences you will also be enlightened and it will show.Your ex will be surprised and intrigued, and work it.Baby steps.keep sending birthday cards but no gifts, as gifts is saying too much.Call sometimes without putting any pressure on her, because she needs to heal too, for whatever reason it is.Hope this is of any help
Ok, I feel you... I agree about "get into ur life" advise....think like this... there are things u r enjoy, -- do them , watch funny movies, do thing u know that take ur mind of eveything and help u to have "time out". U need get ur head clear again, that u can see things clearly... Get pressure of yourslef reg dating, --- think of it like fun, not getting to knoe new girl. Maybe even stop dating new girl just go out for while with friends, girl frined but not date. Give urself chance to just be and give ur feeling a chance to pass.
You sound as if you are not the serious type when it comes to keeping relationship And I feel to you "a bird in hand is not wroth two in the bush". Anyway, for you to be about to overcome this situation, you have to forget everything about the ex, both the good and bad times both of you had together.
well.. you are just not ready to go out with someone else right now.. what u need is time to heel.. give yourself time and tp get over whatever has happened.. you will definitely find someone great once you are over your ex.. but u should definitely give it a try with your ex first.. it is evident from wut u say that u really do love her.. so u need to go and talk to her and tell her how much you care for her and love her.. i m sure you have done that already but u need to assure her that you wouldnt mess up again and u really love her.. best of luck!