OK. i feel really messed up sometimes and i just want to be alone mostly lately. i have these gut feelings that makes me feel to cry a lot but i don't always do... Tomorrow is my wedding anniversary of 7yrs and as the days got closer i felt like hiding or acting really busy. i now spend more of my time on my computer when i'm not at work or i spend it at the karaoke joints. i feel depressed but i think i'm mistaking it maybe i'm just sad. what do you think? Or and i started counselingg recently but after my first visit i returned feeling worst than i went in, is that normal? i'm thinking maybe i shouldn't go back to counselling or should i give it another try before i pass judgment on the whole thing. thanks for your opinions and advices in advance.
Anonymous2008-11-11T09:53:29Z
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your sad , and need counseling , look--your problems didn't come fast and won,t leave fast , you may need months of counseling and listen and do what the counselor says , in time and trust in your helper you will get better ,stay away from bars the music and atmosphere will add to your sadness
Depression is noticeable, and is a..stranger version of sadness. With depression, it affects what you do, how you do it, when and how long you sleep, your eating habits and how you treat people.
I've just gotten over a long depression, and during it I seemed to have a hard time concentrating on everything, such as schoolwork. And sleeping, you feel like it's hard to fall asleep..and it takes forever, but you don't want to get out of bed and when you do fall asleep, you never seem to wake up or want to, for that matter. Do you ever feel those things?
It's good you're seeing a counselor, and yes, I can say it is sometimes normal to feel worse going in a second time. I felt that way, and I still don't know why. I really am not sure how to help you, but I hope you feel better soon. It may seem like it will never end, but trust me, it will. You just need to find something to look forward to, and maybe find someone to just talk to. Not like a counselor, who you don't know so well. Maybe a close friend? Or your husband? Good luck.
If this has been going on for more than a couple weeks, then something is wrong. It sounds like there are some deep issues regarding your relationship, which may be the source of your sadness. A qualified counselor can help you get to the bottom of it. And not all counselors are created equal, you might need to find another... they are supposed to help, not make things worse. Good luck.
Counselling might help, if you have the money, but try a radical change. I don't mean divorce or a one night stand, I mean try jumping out of a plane. Or if you love singing so much, start a band. Sounds crazy? Not if you are good!
Don't give up. The world is amazing-you just have to go out of your comfort zone to find it.