balance between making him pay, and not holding a grudge.?
We've been togheter for 8 months, he's slept with people before but I havnt. We havnt slept together yet.
3 weeks ago, he decided he needed time out, he was under a lot of pressure (his mums addopting and he needed to help her out, he had no place to stay for university, his friend was in hospital...) and he was going off the rails and wanted to sort himself out. We were on this time out for 2 weeks.
Everythings been perfect, he's been brilliant to me and we're good together. But he rang me 2 nights ago, at 5am, he was crying and said he needed to tell me something and that it was awful...
He "did stuff" with another girl, on the first night in halls (univeristy accomodation) . He said that he couldnt face losing me and that he regretted it and begged me not to leave him and told me that he would fight to make me stay and that he wanted to look after me and love me and make up for it ettttttttttc.
I was numb, i was hurt and shocked and had no idea how to react. I went over to his yesterday to talk, but I didnt have anything to say. I sat on his bed for an hour, weeping and mute. He said "Please say something" and i said "I dont know what to say." I told him I wasnt going to leave him, but i didnt know how to get past it.
He just held me. We went to sleep and then we were just how we always are... I dont know if i'm giving in too easily/quickly, If i held a grudge and made him keep appologising and promising never to do it again, surely it would end up ruining the relationship. But if i just move on now, am I making it too easy for him?