Last night my best guy friend asked me to be his FWB and I agreed but I don t know if I made the right decision.
There are two problems about this. One: I m a virgin. And two: I already have feelings for him.
I told him about both problems and he said we would take it slow with the sex and that I shouldn t worry about my feelings. But that just feels more like a relationship than a FWB.
Plus, we hang out all the time so it s easy to develop feelings and I don t want to cut strings just so we can have sex.
I wanna be his FWB but I don t know if it s a good idea. I m clueless about things like this.
How should I go about this?
2015-12-27T07:36:02Z
By the way, I'm 18. I'm not necessarily old but I do have some decent knowledge about this whole thing so don't worry about that. I'm just inexperienced first hand considering I am a virgin.
Tina2015-12-27T05:04:55Z
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You gave two good reasons why you should not be his FWB. But he has given you only one reason why you should not be his FWB and that has to do with disrespect. He disrespected you and your friendship. When a friend disrespects you this way then that is a good reason to tell him to get lost. All he cares about is having sex with you. He's not even thinking about your friendship. That is a cruel thing to do to a best friend. He's selfish. He's too lazy to shop around for a FWB. So, he picks on you, your supposedly best friend. He's willing to risk your friendship just for sex. I'm sure that he knows that you have feelings for him. But he doesn't have the same kind of feeling for you. I hope you tell him that you had time to think about it and then tell him that it finally hit you that he was disrespecting you by asking you something like that. The bottom line is you will still lose him if you become his FWB. FWB never works out because there is always one that falls in love while the other one is only interested in having sex.
Don't do it. You sound young so I'll give you this piece of advice, this guy is not your friend.
Someone who is actually your friend wouldn't ask you to do this or do anything that degrades you. He basically just asked you to share your pussy with him but not your heart, someone that cares about you as a friend or in any other capacity wouldn't ask that of you.
Your first time and well sex in general needs to be with someone who cares about you as much as you care about them.
FWB generally ends badly. One person develops feelings while the other does not. The person with the feelings usually has them prior in hopes the sex with change the level of their relationship, but usually the outcome is the friendship ends.