I went out with a few friends to the local strip club and we were all having fun so i decided to get a lap dance. The girl started grinding really hard and the next thing I knew was that I was coming in my pants. I feel so bad and wanted to know if I just cheated on my wife?
Anonymous
In my book, regardless of whether you came in your pants or not, you started cheating as soon as you decided to get a lap dance.
I'm not your wife and obviously it's her definition of cheating that counts, but I think that since you're feeling so bad for doing it, you already know what her answer would be. As you can see many men and women answering thinks that even just visiting the strip club was cheating, and while I don't, I know my husband feels the same.
kristy
Haha no it’s not cheating
Andrew Smith
Giving it a word changes nothing. Either your wife accepts it as reasonable or she doesn't. You want someone else to give a definitive "No it is OK" which you could use to browbeat your wife. THIS someone else isn't going to make any judgment either way.
Audrey
Yes. You had an orgasm with another woman. That's cheating. Married men do not belong in strip clubs.
Sophie
Your first **** up was thinking it was morally okay to go to a strip club...while married...and getting a lap dance from another woman. Wonder how many vows and promises you broke there.
Yes, you cheated, but don't be upset when your wife finds out. You did it to yourself. Classical "thinking with my penis" move.