What would you do?

Love is a very, very strange thing and probably one of the hardest things to explain sometimes! I think its really nice that you care about your friend's feelings and that you don't want to see her get hurt. Unfortunately though, if your friend really loves this guy she will stay with him no matter what you try to do or say. In fact, she might even start to resent you for interfering in their relationship. The best thing I can advise you to do is just be there for your friend. Give her advice if she has a problem and give her your true opinion if she asks for it. A good friend would tell her to leave this man and that he's a waste of space. A great friend would accept her love for him and support the decision she has made being there to pick up the pieces when it inevitably goes wrong. Good luck.

I would do a 'personal inventory' and try to find ur interest in the situation.

Do you genuinely have her interests in mind, or do you have an agenda of ur own? You just hate the bf, hate drugs? Since you understand the concept of 'enabling' it seems you have some treatment experience of ur own. Once we as individuals get a traffic ticket we instantly become spokespeople for the law. Did you have to kick the habbit and now want ur friend to? not trying to be harsh, it just doesn't look as if ur interest is in her interest. How do you know she can't help him out of the myre? As co-addicts we have a responsibilty to other addicts, and thats to help, not to isolate. If he will not change, or is a danger, then it is a concern. If you love your friend, love her like my momma loved me, she was always there for me, she always had a better view of my life that I did, and more often than not, she knew best, BUT she did not interfere, nor did she ever try to influnce my choices. She was there for me when I fell. That's the last time I ever experienced unconditional love. It's really about your motives, and if your really interested in a better life, or influncing your friend. Only you know for sure. Good luck

You have to be patient. When someone is in love or thinks they are in love they are simply blind to how bad the relationship is for them. You have to be supportive and yet point out the obvious when she is being used by this guy and when she is put second in his life behind his habit. Also talk to her about the safety concerns, even to the point of if this guy gets her pregnant how that child might have birth defects. Hopefully over time she will see the whole picture of how this guys problems can potentially ruin her life.

Just say how you feel to her, don't beet around the bush about these things, i used to be a drug addict and i stopped because someone (like you) decided to help when i had been doing it for only 3 years or so... trust me... tell her how you feel, how she feels, why she does that, why you want her to stop, what you can do for her, what it will do for her self, etc...

try and make her see what he is doing is wrong, and that in the long run they wouldnt be able to have a normal life, because all their money would go to drugs and would she really want to spend the rest of her life with someone that didnt remember yesterday.

try to make her see the big picture...let her know that he may love you but drugs are his relationship....

if he really cares for you like you say you care for him then he may not stop cold turkey but he will try to get some help

cant beat them join them