MY father is a drunk how long should i fell responsible for him?

Honey, let me just say that I am an alcoholic. Took me a long time to say that out loud. 25 years--I'm 42. I hurt a lot of people, wasted a lot of time, almost lost my kids, lost 2 marriages.

I knew what I was doing, so don't let your dad give you the guilt trip. Tell him about AA. It's not about stopping drinking, it's about how to live sober, with no booze.

As for yourself, look in the phone book and get yourself to an Al-Anon, Al-ateen, or ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics). Go to an Open AA meeting, you don't have to be an alcoholic, and I guarantee, you'll be welcomed with more love and support than you imagine. Good luck and let us know how your doing. We care.

You shouldn't feel responsible at all. It's a sickness. You can't be held responsible, or hold your self responsible. It will drive you crazy and make your self sick with worry. If he won't get help, then there is not much you can do. Maybe you should talk to a therapist about your feelings. That way you can get all your pent up feelings and frustrations out of your mind and into the air. It will make you feel so much better. It's like putting all of your bad thoughts into a bubble and letting it float away. I do that sometimes. I pretend my problems just float away in a pink bubble, lol. I know it sounds silly, but it actually helps me. The more you talk about it, the easier it will be to get over it. You could probably go to those alanon meetings(whatever they are called)or something to. There are several support groups all over, and even on the internet for people with alcoholic family members. It can really help to show you that you are not alone. Hope this helps you. Good luck.

You should never feel responsible for him. I know that you love him and he is your father and I admire you for taking care of him. If he is a drunk, you should maybe consider getting him to some rehab centers. He is an alcoholic and that is a serious illness and whether or not you know it, can have some pretty bad impact on you.

get yourself to alanon meetings,because you will need all the support you can get. you are not responsible for him, but he knows how to push your buttons and make you feel guilty. alcoholics never take responsibility for anything -- whatever happens in their lives, it's always someone else's fault. don't put your life on hold any longer. usually there is an element of co-dependency in these relationships ---- that's why support groups are so important -- you learn you are not alone and others have these problems too. Look in your phone book for hotline numbers; they can get you a book with a list of meetings. There are so many questions and differentials that it is difficult to answer this without knowing the persons involved.

As difficult as it may be your father has to admit he is an alcoholic before anyone can help him. He has been on this road for sometime and you can not help him if he doesn't admit he needs help. Perhaps if you attend a support group like alanon (for family members of an alcoholic) you will be at least learn how to cope with the situation.Good luck to you.

Caring for a parent who is illness is not by choice Cancer , heart attack etc..Help as long and with all your love as you can . Self inflected problems , let the parent be responsible for they decidions .More out of state if needed to enjoy your life .You hold no responsiblity for another person drinking or doing drugs reguardless of their age , an parent , your teenage child , spouse ! None of them should take your life away .Now if the illness is not their doing Please reach out for your child ,parent, spouse.

You are not responsible for his disease. Consult with his doctor about getting him some help or look in the phone book for a support group for children of alcoholic parents. If you are going to dedicate a large amount of your time to caring for him in his golden years, he should at least get clean for your sake. If he refuses to get help, you might be able to go to court and have him declared incompetent and get a court order for him to get help.

You are never responsible for him. It's good of you to take care of him, but don't cross the line into "parenting your parent".

SORRY THAT YOUR FATHER IS A DRUNK BUT YOU NEED TO LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU CAN'T KEEP TAKING THE BLAME FOR HIS ALCOHOL AND HE NEEDS TO REALIZE THAT. AND YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR FATHER HE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR HIMSELF, YES IT MAY SOUND HARSH TO HEAR THIS, BUT YOU CAN'T HELP SOMEONE IF THEY DON'T WANT TO BE HELPED...

Difficult that... Praise to you for actually doing it. Remove all alchol in the house and remove money to prevent future puchase.If he gets mean about it then leave